Women...

[ShadownINja]

... do they really love a bd?

Discuss, using your own experiences as examples.

[Firkin D]

Barstards are exciting, where as honest guys can be boring?

[G'kar]

I think the modern woman is in the main unconcerned about illegitamacy, and would not let it affect her choice of partner.

Edited by G'kar on Thursday 12th March 14:09

[Jsys]

At a primal level a woman wants someone who can protect her, her children and future children. So bds who are aggressive and wkers are generally a good candidate. It's also why most women are attracted to money it provides a perceived security.

[Steamer]

ShadownINja said:

... do they really love a bd?....

I think most of them would rather give birth after marriage... however standards are slipping, marriage is not seen as being so much 'the done thing these days'.

...eitherway for the most part I would say yes.

[SS HSV]

'Treat 'em mean - keep 'em keen'

I've only ever been a bd to one gf. She just didn't do it for me at all yet the more I was offish and ignoring her after we split, the harder she tried. She still didn't get the message when I shagged her sister after we split up and was even up for a three some with her own sister. Sadly the other sister was not My limited experience tells me that something is not quite right with them. No idea why it works but it does

'Love is blind' - that may be the case but even Ray Charles would know there's something wrong.

[ShadownINja]

Firkin D said:

Barstards are exciting, where as honest guys can be boring?

Boring in the relationship sense, I assume you mean?

[Harpo]

This is so shallow of me ..................
''I shagged her sister after we split up''
Way to go bro!

[escargot]

G'kar said:

I think the modern woman is in the main unconcerned about illegitamacy, and would not let it affect her choice of partner.

Edited by G'kar on Thursday 12th March 14:09

[SpydieNut]

my friend (really) took up motorcycling a year ago.

he says he's never had so many girls flirting with him in his life - not sure if it's the leather outfit or the bike that gets them going - or the 'bad-boy' image of bikers.

[fido]

ShadownINja said:

Firkin D said:

Barstards are exciting, where as honest guys can be boring?

Boring in the relationship sense, I assume you mean?

Boring, as in not clubbing them round the face when they don't get a cold beer from the fridge.

[ShadownINja]

Any other stories? Thought there'd be more tales of woe.

[carlovers]

since iv'e cut back on going to the library ,women can't get enough

[Sciroccology]

No, they don't love a bd. At least they don't love a useless bd who is still clinging on to his (unobtainable) past and not moving on and accepting what could have been a much brighter future.

There may, or may not be, some personal experience involved in this post.

[parakitaMol.]

ShadownINja said:

Any other stories? Thought there'd be more tales of woe.

I don't go in for discussing my personal relationships on the internet, but I can try to give you my perspective on this.

It's not as simplistic as being 'a nice guy' who 'gets used and treated badly by nasty girls'

or

'a total bd' where the 'silly women come back for more'

It's much more subtle - there are a range of other characteristics and attributes which are very broadly grouped together in the 'nice guy' category which are sometimes really unattractive, especially in men. It's a real generalisation but often they are the ones that are also associated with neediness and leadership.

It certainly isn't about 'nice'. But too nice is often apparent in overly compliant and agreeable traits (compromising their own opinions and needs in order to win approval and acceptance) and this (to me) is unattractive.

Having said that, I know many girls who like that kind of man and are totally happy with it so I think your question is more about finding the right person for you.

Don't shoot me down here because it is a generalisation - I'm just trying to share more about those people who I know who are also in the 'too nice' category (in my rating system) it's different for everyone!

[Tuscan Tart]

SS HSV said:

'Love is blind'

..........but marriage is an eye opener

[Nobody You Know]

I'll never work out women.

If you act like a and treat them like st they love it, then all they do is complain about the way they are treated but still keep going back for more st treatment.

Sadly I just don't have it in me to act like this, I was raised to be polite and respectful so always lose out the the rude obnoxious tt.

[Orb the Impaler]

I can cite as examples two blokes I have known since about 6 years old.

Both of them are so "proper" in their dealings with women - it's almost Victorian. On the face of it these manners and sheer niceness you would think have women crawling up the wall, they're genuinely nice blokes too, and are good looking.

However neither of them has had what I would describe as a long-term relationship and I'll hazard that one (now in mid-30s) is still a virgin. I think they need to swear a bit, do something outrageous, nick a policemans helmet in a drunken brawl or something.

On the other hand look at the number of really fit birds who hang around with some of the roughest, thickest blokes imaginable (certain sections of the building trade for example).

[tonyvid]

parakitaMol. said:

ShadownINja said:

Any other stories? Thought there'd be more tales of woe.

I don't go in for discussing my personal relationships on the internet, but I can try to give you my perspective on this.

It's not as simplistic as being 'a nice guy' who 'gets used and treated badly by nasty girls'

or

'a total bd' where the 'silly women come back for more'

It's much more subtle - there are a range of other characteristics and attributes which are very broadly grouped together in the 'nice guy' category which are sometimes really unattractive, especially in men. It's a real generalisation but often they are the ones that are also associated with neediness and leadership.

It certainly isn't about 'nice'. But too nice is often apparent in overly compliant and agreeable traits (compromising their own opinions and needs in order to win approval and acceptance) and this (to me) is unattractive.

Having said that, I know many girls who like that kind of man and are totally happy with it so I think your question is more about finding the right person for you.

Don't shoot me down here because it is a generalisation - I'm just trying to share more about those people who I know who are also in the 'too nice' category (in my rating system) it's different for everyone!

Oi, shut your cakehole and get my dinner on, I'm going to the pub to see my mates and snog the barmaid.

[Rob.]

My ex-wife`s sister had, and still has a boyfriend who is what I would call a bd - they`ve been together what must be 6 or 7 years now. He showed a lack of respect and he expected her at his side whenever he clicked his fingers. He also did what he wanted regardless of other plans that had been made and did everything else how he wanted aswell with no consideration of others. In my ex-mother-in-laws eyes he could do no wrong and his behaviour was because "he`s one of the lad`s" - it seemed the sun shone out of his arse. On the other hand she did`nt like me - I always respected my then wife and contributed plenty to the marriage. Even my ex-wife had a hatred of her sisters boyfriend because she did`nt like to see her sister being treated in the way she was/is.

So, in a word - women do like bds yes.