Phones & Privacy
Discussion
It's friday, PH needs a good debate.
Having recently been a victim of phone raping (i.e. someone going through it when you leave it alone for any length of time)I wondered how many people actually do this?
I came into work this morning and my female colleagues were all "yeah god I do that, the best time is the shower, cos you get enough warning time to put it back and let the light go out".
Quite frankly I am really shocked at how common and acceptable people seem to think this is. It's a complete invasion of privacy and more often than not you'll see something you don't like.
Do you do it? Why? Can you even begin to justify it?
Having recently been a victim of phone raping (i.e. someone going through it when you leave it alone for any length of time)I wondered how many people actually do this?
I came into work this morning and my female colleagues were all "yeah god I do that, the best time is the shower, cos you get enough warning time to put it back and let the light go out".
Quite frankly I am really shocked at how common and acceptable people seem to think this is. It's a complete invasion of privacy and more often than not you'll see something you don't like.
Do you do it? Why? Can you even begin to justify it?
maix27 said:
Horrible practice,
My mum did this once to me when i was younger and found something she really wished she hadn't read.
I'd like to think my missus would never do this and I've got no hang-ups to do it to her.
Privicy is privicy as far as i'm concerned.
You can't say that then not tell us what she found? My mum did this once to me when i was younger and found something she really wished she hadn't read.
I'd like to think my missus would never do this and I've got no hang-ups to do it to her.
Privicy is privicy as far as i'm concerned.
CooperS said:
smutbag said:
I came into work this morning and my female colleagues were all "yeah god I do that, the best time is the shower, cos you get enough warning time to put it back
Do you do it? Why? Can you even begin to justify it?
What are we exactly talking about? Do you do it? Why? Can you even begin to justify it?
Phoenix said:
Easy solution if you are worried about this is to always keep your phone with you. Problem solved.
See I fundamentally disagree with this. If you are in a grown up trusting relationship you should be able to leave your phone/mail/computer switched on unattended and not expect your partner to go through them.
To have to resort to hiding your phone and putting a pin etc on things suggests that she/he doesn't trust you and you know she/he is going to go through your things, invade your privacy. So you then try to prevent her, she knows you are trying to prevent her, starts "you've obviously got something to hide s
te" then it goes around in a great big circle. Surely addressing the trust issue would be the better route?
I am not aware of anyone ever having done this to me. my g/f and i will answer eachother phones if the other is driving or in the bath, etc to save it going to vm, or will tell the other they've had a text and would they like it read to them/checked but that's about it.
If i caught someone snooping through my phone without my permission though it would be the end of my relationship with them, whoever unless the excusse was VFG (like i have just awoken from a 3 week coma...)
If i caught someone snooping through my phone without my permission though it would be the end of my relationship with them, whoever unless the excusse was VFG (like i have just awoken from a 3 week coma...)
Taita said:
Any person who goes through my phone receives a dig to solar plexus and are cut off entirely from my life.
stbags.
Mmm I like your thinking, I think a divorce for me then, my wife was not happy at what she found, a text message declaring undying love, afraid it was a wrong number s
tbags.
I dont think she tried to do it after then ... but pin comes in handy ...
smutbag said:
If you are in a grown up trusting relationship you should be able to leave your phone/mail/computer switched on unattended and not expect your partner to go through them.
Exactly. I have the ability to access my g/f’s e-mail anytime I please but would never think of doing so except after asking her and letting her know the specific reason why. On doing so I would only ever look for what I was after and ignore anything else, other then perhaps to let her know she had unread mail from a friend she might be waiting for if my eyes passed over it on the way. Even then there is no way I would open that mail without her asking me to.Trust is everything.
elle said:
Unless you're up to something, why hide it?
One of the keys to a long lasting relationship is never hide anything from each other as this is when the trust/mistrust issue arises, hence checking each others phones
It's not a question of hiding it though is it? This is about people picking up someone's phone and going through it without permission. Next stop your wallet, etc.One of the keys to a long lasting relationship is never hide anything from each other as this is when the trust/mistrust issue arises, hence checking each others phones
If my g/f asked if she could have a look through my phone i'd pass it to her but i would want to know what she was looking for (might save her an hour!)
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