Husband won't look after himself after diabetes diagnosis
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I hope someone can help me. My husband will not look after himself after a diagnosis in November of high cholesterol and type two diabetes. The figures taken at the hospital confirmed he was at crisis levels for both these.
He should be able to manage these with all the support he has from us all but he just won't comply with even the simplest task. It's now 17.23 in the afternoon and he still hasn't had anything to eat or drink. His Dr's have previously told him he has to have the meds or he will die but he sees the Dr's comments as a personal challenge to his manhood and they are all out to get him.
He's been like this since November and his new lifestyle is financially and emotionally draining and the novelty of waiting in hospital waiting rooms at 4.00am in the morning has worn off.
Can someone throw in other avenues I can try? I don't want a divorce but he needs to be in an environment where he can be forced to take meds and eat and drink. I spent 8 hours Saturday in our local A+E because he was dehydrated. All he had to do was drink some water and he fought me on that. The police were there as well with their charges and I was really worried they may think I was I was abusing him. His relatives think I'm letting the side down and not doing enough to support him but it's hard to help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
He should be able to manage these with all the support he has from us all but he just won't comply with even the simplest task. It's now 17.23 in the afternoon and he still hasn't had anything to eat or drink. His Dr's have previously told him he has to have the meds or he will die but he sees the Dr's comments as a personal challenge to his manhood and they are all out to get him.
He's been like this since November and his new lifestyle is financially and emotionally draining and the novelty of waiting in hospital waiting rooms at 4.00am in the morning has worn off.
Can someone throw in other avenues I can try? I don't want a divorce but he needs to be in an environment where he can be forced to take meds and eat and drink. I spent 8 hours Saturday in our local A+E because he was dehydrated. All he had to do was drink some water and he fought me on that. The police were there as well with their charges and I was really worried they may think I was I was abusing him. His relatives think I'm letting the side down and not doing enough to support him but it's hard to help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Diabetes code by Jason Fung talks about the latest science.
Sorry, I’m not a doctor (Jason Fung is) but that book recommends low carb, and intermittent fasting if your blood sugars aren’t ridiculous.
If they are very high, at a damaging level, it recommends control with medication and low carb diet with intermittent fasting, weaning yourself off the meds as blood sugar levels improve.
Not eating if you are overweight with type 2 diabetes is actually very good for the disease. Drinking water helps with the weight loss and fat metabolism, which what he ideally wants.
Someone who is really overweight can fast for days with no negative effects on their health. So I wouldn’t worry about that part.
Jason Fung also has a lot of youtube videos up, maybe watch them together?
Sorry, I’m not a doctor (Jason Fung is) but that book recommends low carb, and intermittent fasting if your blood sugars aren’t ridiculous.
If they are very high, at a damaging level, it recommends control with medication and low carb diet with intermittent fasting, weaning yourself off the meds as blood sugar levels improve.
Not eating if you are overweight with type 2 diabetes is actually very good for the disease. Drinking water helps with the weight loss and fat metabolism, which what he ideally wants.
Someone who is really overweight can fast for days with no negative effects on their health. So I wouldn’t worry about that part.
Jason Fung also has a lot of youtube videos up, maybe watch them together?
Edited by wyson on Monday 12th May 18:04
KPHs said:
I hope someone can help me. My husband will not look after himself after a diagnosis in November of high cholesterol and type two diabetes. The figures taken at the hospital confirmed he was at crisis levels for both these.
He should be able to manage these with all the support he has from us all but he just won't comply with even the simplest task. It's now 17.23 in the afternoon and he still hasn't had anything to eat or drink. His Dr's have previously told him he has to have the meds or he will die but he sees the Dr's comments as a personal challenge to his manhood and they are all out to get him.
He's been like this since November and his new lifestyle is financially and emotionally draining and the novelty of waiting in hospital waiting rooms at 4.00am in the morning has worn off.
Can someone throw in other avenues I can try? I don't want a divorce but he needs to be in an environment where he can be forced to take meds and eat and drink. I spent 8 hours Saturday in our local A+E because he was dehydrated. All he had to do was drink some water and he fought me on that. The police were there as well with their charges and I was really worried they may think I was I was abusing him. His relatives think I'm letting the side down and not doing enough to support him but it's hard to help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
HiHe should be able to manage these with all the support he has from us all but he just won't comply with even the simplest task. It's now 17.23 in the afternoon and he still hasn't had anything to eat or drink. His Dr's have previously told him he has to have the meds or he will die but he sees the Dr's comments as a personal challenge to his manhood and they are all out to get him.
He's been like this since November and his new lifestyle is financially and emotionally draining and the novelty of waiting in hospital waiting rooms at 4.00am in the morning has worn off.
Can someone throw in other avenues I can try? I don't want a divorce but he needs to be in an environment where he can be forced to take meds and eat and drink. I spent 8 hours Saturday in our local A+E because he was dehydrated. All he had to do was drink some water and he fought me on that. The police were there as well with their charges and I was really worried they may think I was I was abusing him. His relatives think I'm letting the side down and not doing enough to support him but it's hard to help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
I don't mean to be rude, but do you personally understand the condition and the control needed? I have been diabetic (Type 1) for 44 years and I am still learning things. It is not the easiest condition to understand as many things influence it. Which can make the control difficult.....
If your husband Is fasting, he may not need insulin (meds) for the diabetes. Also if going low/ no carb then equally he may not require insulin to combat the high blood sugars.
I assume your husband Is over weight?
I would talk and try to understand what is going on. Could this be done with the doctor so you both understand the objectives?
Do let us know how it is going..... There is genuinely a lot of people who can and want to help on here....
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