What do you care about? I mean REALLY care about?
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I can’t be the only one that is now totally alienated by so much in life and just don’t care about what I see going on in the world.
I’ve stopped watching the news because it’s just so depressing, I have no power to do anything about trump and his ideas and the thought of listening to someone bleat on about it just feels me with dread.
Same with all the migration and wars in the world, I know they’re awful but I really just don’t care, I feel sorry for those people but I just think oh well. The thought of the world being destroyed in a nuclear war doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I would not want to survive that.
I see other people getting so riled up about everting like transgender and I just think well I just want people to be happy and have some rights.
I just don’t care about my career, I had a good job I enjoyed and moved into a new one for “progression” but just cannot get motivated or care about what other people seem to worry about, it’s all totally made up. Customer says they need a quote by a certain date but I just do not care, so I just think il go back to the old one, a step backward on the ladder but does it actually matter?
I care about my family and things closer to home but I just feel that life is so draining, all I want from life is to live mine comfortably and in my own little bubble.
How do people cope with being so outraged by everything?
I’ve stopped watching the news because it’s just so depressing, I have no power to do anything about trump and his ideas and the thought of listening to someone bleat on about it just feels me with dread.
Same with all the migration and wars in the world, I know they’re awful but I really just don’t care, I feel sorry for those people but I just think oh well. The thought of the world being destroyed in a nuclear war doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I would not want to survive that.
I see other people getting so riled up about everting like transgender and I just think well I just want people to be happy and have some rights.
I just don’t care about my career, I had a good job I enjoyed and moved into a new one for “progression” but just cannot get motivated or care about what other people seem to worry about, it’s all totally made up. Customer says they need a quote by a certain date but I just do not care, so I just think il go back to the old one, a step backward on the ladder but does it actually matter?
I care about my family and things closer to home but I just feel that life is so draining, all I want from life is to live mine comfortably and in my own little bubble.
How do people cope with being so outraged by everything?
OP - you’re asking us about what we really care about but all would’ve told us what you don’t care about..!!! It’s great to have a moan sometimes but come on, tell us what you really car about?
I really care about dogs, I love the fluffy buggers and they like to live their best lives without moaning about life. Be more dog….
I really care about dogs, I love the fluffy buggers and they like to live their best lives without moaning about life. Be more dog….
I think this is a modern-day issue whereby all of the world's bad news is bombarded at us 24/7 on news channels and on the internet.
Like you, I've got to a point where I'm struggling to really care about any of it if I'm honest.
I've tried to stop watching as much news and instead am focusing on my own life and surroundings a bit more.
For all of my faults, one of my best features (in my opinion) is that I don't take life too seriously. I see all these people getting irate about 'issues' etc. and I just wonder what the point is and how stressful their lives must be getting so worked up over nothing.
When we die we'll all be gone with the wind and will be completely forgotten within a few generations, so no point taking things too seriously.
The only things I really care about are my family + dog.
Like you, I've got to a point where I'm struggling to really care about any of it if I'm honest.
I've tried to stop watching as much news and instead am focusing on my own life and surroundings a bit more.
For all of my faults, one of my best features (in my opinion) is that I don't take life too seriously. I see all these people getting irate about 'issues' etc. and I just wonder what the point is and how stressful their lives must be getting so worked up over nothing.
When we die we'll all be gone with the wind and will be completely forgotten within a few generations, so no point taking things too seriously.
The only things I really care about are my family + dog.
Good question and a good reminder to me that I shouldn't care so much about what other people do or say that doesn't impact me or someone I care about.
What do I really care about?
My Family. My Wife, my Children, my Mum and Dad. My Sister and Brothers and my Sisters in Law. I hope they're happy and healthy.
My Friends, probably more than my extended family. I am extremely lucky to have the friends I have, I feel blessed. We're there for each other when life is brilliant and when life is s
t and I honestly believe all of our lives are better for having each other as part of them. I think this is very important, especially to Middle-Aged Men.
Our Home, after being on the rental merry-go-round for far too long, having a place that's ours, even I owe the bank a fortune for it. I'm not overly house proud, but everyone needs a door they can lock and a bed to lay in. It's a constant in an increasingly mad world, I've zero desire to ever move, if nothing else I just couldn't spend £20k or whatever on stamp duty because there's nothing I'd want from a new house than I couldn't have for £20k.
Everything else is secondary really, I love my Mountain Biking, because it gives me a reason to spend time with my friends and the space I need to be a better Man for my family. I enjoy having a career, because it gives me the income to give my family the best life I can, and bikes.
What do I really care about?
My Family. My Wife, my Children, my Mum and Dad. My Sister and Brothers and my Sisters in Law. I hope they're happy and healthy.
My Friends, probably more than my extended family. I am extremely lucky to have the friends I have, I feel blessed. We're there for each other when life is brilliant and when life is s
t and I honestly believe all of our lives are better for having each other as part of them. I think this is very important, especially to Middle-Aged Men. Our Home, after being on the rental merry-go-round for far too long, having a place that's ours, even I owe the bank a fortune for it. I'm not overly house proud, but everyone needs a door they can lock and a bed to lay in. It's a constant in an increasingly mad world, I've zero desire to ever move, if nothing else I just couldn't spend £20k or whatever on stamp duty because there's nothing I'd want from a new house than I couldn't have for £20k.
Everything else is secondary really, I love my Mountain Biking, because it gives me a reason to spend time with my friends and the space I need to be a better Man for my family. I enjoy having a career, because it gives me the income to give my family the best life I can, and bikes.
I have this discussion on holiday with my wife from year to year.
I contend, somewhat falsely for the purposes of the discussion, that less access to, and reading of the news would makes me happier and I only want to know about the things that directly affect me.
What doesn't directly affect me, I think we should not be told about. Local news only.
EG: bomb goes off in Madrid, this doesn't affect me, its on the BBC news website, she worries about it.
If i didn't know about the bomb, I and she would be happier.
Is total news awareness a good thing?
I only really care about :
my family,
my local area (I do go to Manchester, and they have had bombs go off, so where is the line here?)
my finances, which are affected by national and International business affairs, so I want these.
Personally I would be happy with much less news. IN fact I deliberately consume much less news. No news app, no notifications.
News is an entertainment outlet these days.
We are told what to worry about, click bait and sensationalism prevails,
A more insular approach to news would make people happier, is how the discussion goes.
So my wife then says "you want censorship of the news?"
and that's a tricky line to walk.
I contend, somewhat falsely for the purposes of the discussion, that less access to, and reading of the news would makes me happier and I only want to know about the things that directly affect me.
What doesn't directly affect me, I think we should not be told about. Local news only.
EG: bomb goes off in Madrid, this doesn't affect me, its on the BBC news website, she worries about it.
If i didn't know about the bomb, I and she would be happier.
Is total news awareness a good thing?
I only really care about :
my family,
my local area (I do go to Manchester, and they have had bombs go off, so where is the line here?)
my finances, which are affected by national and International business affairs, so I want these.
Personally I would be happy with much less news. IN fact I deliberately consume much less news. No news app, no notifications.
News is an entertainment outlet these days.
We are told what to worry about, click bait and sensationalism prevails,
A more insular approach to news would make people happier, is how the discussion goes.
So my wife then says "you want censorship of the news?"
and that's a tricky line to walk.
Edited by The_Doc on Thursday 13th March 15:11
The_Doc said:
I have this discussion on holiday with my wife from year to year.
I contend, somewhat falsely for the purposes of the discussion, that less access to, and reading of the news would makes me happier and I only want to know about the things that directly affect me.
What doesn't directly affect me, I think we should not be told about. Local news only.
EG: bomb goes off in Madrid, this doesn't affect me, its on the BBC news website, she worries about it.
If i didn't know about the bomb, I and she would be happier.
Is total news awareness a good thing?
I only really care about :
my family,
my local area (I do go to Manchester, and they have had bombs go off, so where is the line here?)
my finances, which are affected by national and International business affairs, so I want these.
Personally I would be happy with much less news. IN fact I deliberately consume much less news. No news app, no notifications.
News is an entertainment outlet these days.
We are told what to worry about, click bait and sensationalism prevails,
A more insular approach to news would make people happier, is how the discussion goes.
So my wife then says "you want censorship of the news?"
and that's a tricky line to walk.
My wife and I are the opposite way around to you and your wife. I like to know what's going on. She will turn news off. If something doesn't affect our kids / grandchildren then she isn't interested.I contend, somewhat falsely for the purposes of the discussion, that less access to, and reading of the news would makes me happier and I only want to know about the things that directly affect me.
What doesn't directly affect me, I think we should not be told about. Local news only.
EG: bomb goes off in Madrid, this doesn't affect me, its on the BBC news website, she worries about it.
If i didn't know about the bomb, I and she would be happier.
Is total news awareness a good thing?
I only really care about :
my family,
my local area (I do go to Manchester, and they have had bombs go off, so where is the line here?)
my finances, which are affected by national and International business affairs, so I want these.
Personally I would be happy with much less news. IN fact I deliberately consume much less news. No news app, no notifications.
News is an entertainment outlet these days.
We are told what to worry about, click bait and sensationalism prevails,
A more insular approach to news would make people happier, is how the discussion goes.
So my wife then says "you want censorship of the news?"
and that's a tricky line to walk.
I found myself very shaken by the Zelenksy / Trump encounter a couple of weeks ago. Perhaps it reminded me too much of some work meetings where you have it all planned out and it somehow goes completely wrong.
I am finding as I get older I care less and less about what goes on outside of my bubble. Possibly selfish.
I care about my friends and family and I care about them having the best they can possibly have and be the best they can possibly be. I'd do anything for them.
I don't watch the news anymore, I get wound up hearing about the st going on in the world, mostly close to home, more crime, more pain, more utter scumbags roaming the streets thinking they can harm others and get away with it.
I deeply care about making sure what I do doesn't impact others negatively, but I find myself giving less and less of a toss about what anyone outside of my circle thinks about me and what I do.
I care about my friends and family and I care about them having the best they can possibly have and be the best they can possibly be. I'd do anything for them.
I don't watch the news anymore, I get wound up hearing about the s
t going on in the world, mostly close to home, more crime, more pain, more utter scumbags roaming the streets thinking they can harm others and get away with it.I deeply care about making sure what I do doesn't impact others negatively, but I find myself giving less and less of a toss about what anyone outside of my circle thinks about me and what I do.
Quattr04. said:
I can’t be the only one that is now totally alienated by so much in life and just don’t care about what I see going on in the world.
I’ve stopped watching the news because it’s just so depressing, I have no power to do anything about trump and his ideas and the thought of listening to someone bleat on about it just feels me with dread.
Same with all the migration and wars in the world, I know they’re awful but I really just don’t care, I feel sorry for those people but I just think oh well. The thought of the world being destroyed in a nuclear war doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I would not want to survive that.
I see other people getting so riled up about everting like transgender and I just think well I just want people to be happy and have some rights.
I just don’t care about my career, I had a good job I enjoyed and moved into a new one for “progression” but just cannot get motivated or care about what other people seem to worry about, it’s all totally made up. Customer says they need a quote by a certain date but I just do not care, so I just think il go back to the old one, a step backward on the ladder but does it actually matter?
I care about my family and things closer to home but I just feel that life is so draining, all I want from life is to live mine comfortably and in my own little bubble.
How do people cope with being so outraged by everything?
I'm the same as you. I never used to be like this, but the state of the world has subliminally affected me.I’ve stopped watching the news because it’s just so depressing, I have no power to do anything about trump and his ideas and the thought of listening to someone bleat on about it just feels me with dread.
Same with all the migration and wars in the world, I know they’re awful but I really just don’t care, I feel sorry for those people but I just think oh well. The thought of the world being destroyed in a nuclear war doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I would not want to survive that.
I see other people getting so riled up about everting like transgender and I just think well I just want people to be happy and have some rights.
I just don’t care about my career, I had a good job I enjoyed and moved into a new one for “progression” but just cannot get motivated or care about what other people seem to worry about, it’s all totally made up. Customer says they need a quote by a certain date but I just do not care, so I just think il go back to the old one, a step backward on the ladder but does it actually matter?
I care about my family and things closer to home but I just feel that life is so draining, all I want from life is to live mine comfortably and in my own little bubble.
How do people cope with being so outraged by everything?
I have stopped watching any news programmes, and I no longer read any news. Complete contrast to how I was 5 years ago when I would read and consume all kinds of global news and information, eager to learn what was happening in the world. Now I have turned it all off.
I do not care about anything apart from my wife and kids. Worse, is that deep down I have even stopped caring about my parents, and I have filed them in the 'moaning/complaining slightly-bigoted Boomer' category. I simply pretend to care about them, and make all the right nosies whilst in their company.
I'm fortunate in that I have a really good/well paid job, but honestly, I don't care about it and have no interest in it. I'm just going through the motions.
To me, leaving the EU felt like an absolutely enormous backwards step in all manner of ways, and an act of national self harm, so that didn't really help things.
My moral compass is mostly centre-left that is happy to see multiculturalism, rights for minority groups, support for LGBTQ, and years ago I would have described myself as a cheerful, progressive, culturally inclusive European citizen. I'm all 'peace and love'.
I would probably sum most of it up like this:
it would appear the whole world is now incredibly angry with everyone and everything. People just lashing out everywhere. Everyone is looking to blame someone else. Blame immigrants, blame poor people, blame the disabled, blame the unemployed, blame other countries, blame people with different colour skin, blame this political party, blame that political party, blame the banks, blame companies, blame the Left, blame the Right, blame homosexuals, blame Muslims, blame transgender people, start wars.
I just stay out of it all now. I don't even think about it. Some of you people are angry, bitter, and crazy, and I want nothing to do with you.
I have retreated into the bubble of my family, my home, and a few good friends. I have a good life, and I won't let the bad news, the hatred, the disasters, and the anger seep into it from the outside world.
I don't care about anything else.
Edited by Mont Blanc on Friday 14th March 08:28
said:
But, it would appear the whole world is now incredibly angry with everyone and everything. People just lashing out everywhere. Everyone is looking to blame someone else. Blame immigrants, blame poor people, blame the disabled, blame the unemployed, blame other countries, blame people with different colour skin, blame this political party, blame that political party, blame the banks, blame companies, blame the Left, blame the Right, start wars.
I just stay out of it all now. I don't even think about it. Some of you people are angry and crazy, and I want nothing to do with you.
I have retreated into the bubble of my family, my home, and a few good friends.
I don't care about anything else.
YepI just stay out of it all now. I don't even think about it. Some of you people are angry and crazy, and I want nothing to do with you.
I have retreated into the bubble of my family, my home, and a few good friends.
I don't care about anything else.
Probably watch the news more now than 10 or 20 years ago. And get riled up about so much of it.
Think the world or rather the human race is self destructing, particularly in Europe and the western world.
So many contributing so many just taking. So much greed. So much "stuff you mate, I'm OK". Fanaticism.
I'm not long for this planet but am deeply concerned for my son and what he's going to have to deal with. And that I guess is what I really care about.
Think the world or rather the human race is self destructing, particularly in Europe and the western world.
So many contributing so many just taking. So much greed. So much "stuff you mate, I'm OK". Fanaticism.
I'm not long for this planet but am deeply concerned for my son and what he's going to have to deal with. And that I guess is what I really care about.
Its surprising how many people I've spoken to lately share your views. Me included.
For me, its family, friends, hobbies. If they are all in order then I'm ok.
I've also cut out the news - a brief look on the homepage of popular news sites quickly portray the lunacy / craziness thats going on in the world.
Of course the bad news outweighs the good - slowly by surely, it will chip away at you.
Slowly trying to cut out the social media / screen time too.
I care about my work, but nowhere near as much as I did pre-2020.
When you rely on other elements / services in order to do what you need to do effectively, then it makes things difficult if they aren't functioning at the same level you are.
For me, its family, friends, hobbies. If they are all in order then I'm ok.
I've also cut out the news - a brief look on the homepage of popular news sites quickly portray the lunacy / craziness thats going on in the world.
Of course the bad news outweighs the good - slowly by surely, it will chip away at you.
Slowly trying to cut out the social media / screen time too.
I care about my work, but nowhere near as much as I did pre-2020.
When you rely on other elements / services in order to do what you need to do effectively, then it makes things difficult if they aren't functioning at the same level you are.
Skyedriver said:
Probably watch the news more now than 10 or 20 years ago. And get riled up about so much of it.
Think the world or rather the human race is self destructing, particularly in Europe and the western world.
So many contributing so many just taking. So much greed. So much "stuff you mate, I'm OK". Fanaticism.
I'm not long for this planet but am deeply concerned for my son and what he's going to have to deal with. And that I guess is what I really care about.
It’s makes me wonder though if anything is actually worse than it was? There’s always war and genocide going on, massive migration, crazy world leaders but since the invention of the internet and 24 hour news it’s shoved down our throats more and there’s a news channel for whatever your political views areThink the world or rather the human race is self destructing, particularly in Europe and the western world.
So many contributing so many just taking. So much greed. So much "stuff you mate, I'm OK". Fanaticism.
I'm not long for this planet but am deeply concerned for my son and what he's going to have to deal with. And that I guess is what I really care about.
I’ve noticed last time and now how hysterical the BBC get over anything trump does, weather or not it’s got any remote baring on the UK.
Another one with social media and dash cams, people film everting that’s happened to them and put it online, minor road rage that is totally forgotten about within 5 mins is all over the internet for people to watch and comment on for years to come
Edited by Quattr04. on Thursday 13th March 17:10
Quattr04. said:
Skyedriver said:
Probably watch the news more now than 10 or 20 years ago. And get riled up about so much of it.
Think the world or rather the human race is self destructing, particularly in Europe and the western world.
So many contributing so many just taking. So much greed. So much "stuff you mate, I'm OK". Fanaticism.
I'm not long for this planet but am deeply concerned for my son and what he's going to have to deal with. And that I guess is what I really care about.
It’s makes me wonder though if anything is actually worse than it was? There’s always war and genocide going on, massive migration, crazy world leaders but since the invention of the internet and 24 hour news it’s shoved down our throats more and there’s a news channel for whatever your political views areThink the world or rather the human race is self destructing, particularly in Europe and the western world.
So many contributing so many just taking. So much greed. So much "stuff you mate, I'm OK". Fanaticism.
I'm not long for this planet but am deeply concerned for my son and what he's going to have to deal with. And that I guess is what I really care about.
I’ve noticed last time and now how hysterical the BBC get over anything trump does, weather or not it’s got any remote baring on the UK.
Another one with social media and dash cams, people film everting that’s happened to them and put it online, minor road rage that is totally forgotten about within 5 mins is all over the internet for people to watch and comment on for years to come
Edited by Quattr04. on Thursday 13th March 17:10
The news just shows the raw ends of emotion, the flares and the hyper.
I'm sure we are they same amount of angry as a planet as we were 100 years ago. but watching the news now just forces more of it into your eyeballs.
We are told what to be angry about. We are shown in close-up the very angry people and their brick throwing and unhappiness.
Maybe I'm not in a brick throwing mood.
My self and my Dad, all I have left, some other friends I have that have always been there for me.
I do care about distant stuff.
The environment bothers me, but the world refuses to take the hard decisions, instead forcing us to consume garbage that will make no difference while avoiding the basic obvious answers.
The damage we do to plants and animals, really linked to the above, but I take solace that nature always finds a way and will happily wipe us out eventually and move on, hopefully leaving other creatures to thrive.
Also linked to this the sheer ignorance of most people sadly, the ones who moan and never take action, the ones who litter, who consume without thought,
I do care about distant stuff.
The environment bothers me, but the world refuses to take the hard decisions, instead forcing us to consume garbage that will make no difference while avoiding the basic obvious answers.
The damage we do to plants and animals, really linked to the above, but I take solace that nature always finds a way and will happily wipe us out eventually and move on, hopefully leaving other creatures to thrive.
Also linked to this the sheer ignorance of most people sadly, the ones who moan and never take action, the ones who litter, who consume without thought,
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