Having a daughter aged between 13 and 17

Having a daughter aged between 13 and 17

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Wacky Racer

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39,611 posts

260 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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I have three lads, all approaching 40, they are all grand, but two of them were what you might say "challenging" to bring up when they were in their teenage years,

These days, having a girl must try your patience somewhat, they must be ten times worse.

No?

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Bonefish Blues

31,170 posts

236 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Not wrong you are.

nordboy

2,286 posts

63 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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My daughter is now 18 and in first year of Uni. Tbh, she wasn't much of an issue, yes, as with all kids, we had run ins etc but on the whole she's been lovely.

I worry about her much more now she's away from home than I ever did while she was here. Probably because she's now doing some adulting stuff and I still feel the need to protect her.

I have to try not to think about the what if's, I don't like it!!!

RC1807

13,259 posts

181 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Girls nowadays have a tougher time of it, peer pressure, beauty issues, social media, etc., than lads.

My girls are now 22 & 23. Their teens were somewhat tricky. More than I recall mine was in the 80s, despite the obvious gender related growing issues for my girls, obvs.

Al Gorithum

4,477 posts

221 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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My daughter has been an absolute delight, and she is my princess. Been no problem at all (except for rinsing me for money occasionally).

I do worry about her safety though. She's at Uni and has been spiked twice, and last night her small group of friends were mugged in the wee hours. She's OK (got one of the c#unts in a headlock and smashed his face into a wall) but I am fuming!!!

Spare tyre

10,980 posts

143 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Al Gorithum said:
My daughter has been an absolute delight, and she is my princess. Been no problem at all (except for rinsing me for money occasionally).

I do worry about her safety though. She's at Uni and has been spiked twice, and last night her small group of friends were mugged in the wee hours. She's OK (got one of the c#unts in a headlock and smashed his face into a wall) but I am fuming!!!
Hope she’s ok, what city?

RammyMP

7,182 posts

166 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Al Gorithum said:
My daughter has been an absolute delight, and she is my princess. Been no problem at all (except for rinsing me for money occasionally).

I do worry about her safety though. She's at Uni and has been spiked twice, and last night her small group of friends were mugged in the wee hours. She's OK (got one of the c#unts in a headlock and smashed his face into a wall) but I am fuming!!!
That’s what I worry about, my daughters 15 and generally no bother. She went to a Taylor Swift concert with a friend a few months ago at Wembley, I was glad when she got home!

Hope your daughter is ok and the incident doesn’t stop her having fun (but not too much fun).

OMITN

2,532 posts

105 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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14 year old daughter. The perfect child really.

I fear enormously for when she leaves home. I hope that young men aren’t as tttish as I fear them to be….

Tango13

9,379 posts

189 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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RammyMP said:
Al Gorithum said:
My daughter has been an absolute delight, and she is my princess. Been no problem at all (except for rinsing me for money occasionally).

I do worry about her safety though. She's at Uni and has been spiked twice, and last night her small group of friends were mugged in the wee hours. She's OK (got one of the c#unts in a headlock and smashed his face into a wall) but I am fuming!!!
That’s what I worry about, my daughters 15 and generally no bother. She went to a Taylor Swift concert with a friend a few months ago at Wembley, I was glad when she got home!

Hope your daughter is ok and the incident doesn’t stop her having fun (but not too much fun).
Smashing some lowlife s face into a wall sounds like a good night out to me hehe

Joking aside hope your daughter and her friends are all ok smile

Douglas Quaid

2,562 posts

98 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Al Gorithum said:
My daughter has been an absolute delight, and she is my princess. Been no problem at all (except for rinsing me for money occasionally).

I do worry about her safety though. She's at Uni and has been spiked twice, and last night her small group of friends were mugged in the wee hours. She's OK (got one of the c#unts in a headlock and smashed his face into a wall) but I am fuming!!!
How do you know she was spiked? Only asking because I remember a study done into teen girls that reported being spiked and most of them that said they were spiked once their blood was tested were found to be simply very drunk. I can’t remember the percentages but it was a very small number that had actually been drugged. The rest were just not used to drinking that much.

Not saying it’s of much help really as a girl who’s too pissed to take care of herself is also not in a good place but at least that is something that they can potentially try to avoid happening.

Terminator X

17,322 posts

217 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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House next door has 2 daughters now grown up. As teenagers though all I could hear was blazing rows!

TX.

Al Gorithum

4,477 posts

221 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Thanks all for the concern. It was in Brighton in the Lanes. She absolutely loves it there and doesn't want to come home (London) but I'll find out more later when she wakes up.

Hugo Stiglitz v2

428 posts

7 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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My sons 14. I couldn't begin to explain what I went through this year. So I couldn't see having a daughter as worse.

Al Gorithum

4,477 posts

221 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Douglas Quaid said:
How do you know she was spiked? Only asking because I remember a study done into teen girls that reported being spiked and most of them that said they were spiked once their blood was tested were found to be simply very drunk. I can’t remember the percentages but it was a very small number that had actually been drugged. The rest were just not used to drinking that much.

Not saying it’s of much help really as a girl who’s too pissed to take care of herself is also not in a good place but at least that is something that they can potentially try to avoid happening.
The first time it was done by a barman in my local Wetherspoons. He got sacked the following day (CCTV evidence) and is subject to a Police investigation. The second time was at Sussex Uni. She's a modest drinker and takes no drugs.

Amateurish

8,077 posts

235 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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I have a 16 year old daughter and she is lovely. The academic pressures seem much worse than I when I was at school, so I feel sorry for her really. I'm very close with both my children and find parenting at this age much much easier than when they were little.

mkjess123

163 posts

215 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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When my daughters were born years ago, a older friend gave me some very true words........
How do you know when a teenage girl is lying?
They open their mouths!

"She's a modest drinker and takes no drugs" I would politely suggest that you are being naive.

Al Gorithum

4,477 posts

221 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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mkjess123 said:
"She's a modest drinker and takes no drugs" I would politely suggest that you are being naive.
I politely suggest you know nothing.

ChevronB19

7,349 posts

176 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Wacky Racer said:
I have three lads, all approaching 40, they are all grand, but two of them were what you might say "challenging" to bring up when they were in their teenage years,

These days, having a girl must try your patience somewhat, they must be ten times worse.

No?

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A genuine question - why do you think having girls must try your patience 10x more than a boy?

cerb4.5lee

36,210 posts

193 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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ChevronB19 said:
Wacky Racer said:
I have three lads, all approaching 40, they are all grand, but two of them were what you might say "challenging" to bring up when they were in their teenage years,

These days, having a girl must try your patience somewhat, they must be ten times worse.

No?

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A genuine question - why do you think having girls must try your patience 10x more than a boy?
I'm glad I've got girl's to be honest, because I don't really have the temperament for boys, and I'd lose my rag with boys too easily I reckon.

cerb4.5lee

36,210 posts

193 months

Saturday 16th November 2024
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Amateurish said:
I have a 16 year old daughter and she is lovely. The academic pressures seem much worse than I when I was at school, so I feel sorry for her really. I'm very close with both my children and find parenting at this age much much easier than when they were little.
I'm the opposite to that, and my eldest daughter is 16, and I preferred it when she was much younger. Although she's always been a pain in the backside in fairness. Our youngest(8) is a lot easier in comparison, but that might just be because we're a bit more experienced at the parenting game now though.