Have your revenge or rise above it?
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A few months ago I fell out with a long standing friend over something which, without going into detail, wasn't either my fault nor had it anything to do with me. We had a few business deals together and because of the fall out I lost around £1,500.
Recently I received a letter from an insurance investigator regarding a hit and run accident - I was the passenger in this "friend's" car.
Apparently I am the only witness to this accident which the third party is contesting and there's also a claim for neck injuries. I'd imaging the total claim is several thousands of pounds and also the reinstatement of NCD.
My question is would you rise above it all, fill in the forms and attend an interview or simply get your own back and bin the letter?
Recently I received a letter from an insurance investigator regarding a hit and run accident - I was the passenger in this "friend's" car.
Apparently I am the only witness to this accident which the third party is contesting and there's also a claim for neck injuries. I'd imaging the total claim is several thousands of pounds and also the reinstatement of NCD.
My question is would you rise above it all, fill in the forms and attend an interview or simply get your own back and bin the letter?
Why suggest to this 'friend' that you will be willing to testify in return for £1500 or whatever your owed.
That gives you a chance to get your money back and him a chance to redeem himself slightly. Much better than revenge, you have him over a barrel
plus it would leave no doubt that he had F
ked up
That gives you a chance to get your money back and him a chance to redeem himself slightly. Much better than revenge, you have him over a barrel
plus it would leave no doubt that he had Fked upBedders - doubt we spoke about it as the letter only dropped on the door mat yesterday. I'd suggest you lay off the sauce a bit, it stops your drinking buddy from falling off his chair 
There's nothing illegal about the claim at all.
I'd already made up my mind what I'd do (string it out a bit to make him have to wait for his cash) but I just wanted to post to see if anyone came up with any interesting ideas
scruffy said:
Do what YOU feel is right for YOU.
If you were the witness and you feel duty bound, sort it.
If not, you are doing something which our constitution deems illegal, so it's up to you if you feel breaking a law.
If you have moved on, why post in the first place.
There's nothing illegal about the claim at all.
I'd already made up my mind what I'd do (string it out a bit to make him have to wait for his cash) but I just wanted to post to see if anyone came up with any interesting ideas
alltorque said:
Ric - you say the loss of £1500 wasn't your fault. Was it actually his fault, or beyond his control?
If the former, I'd definitely go for the "give me a slice of the pie" option.
The fall out occured, it was beyond my control as it had nothing to do to me. We disolved the business deals and consequently I lost £1.5k.
Ive recently spent in the last few years 24K with an engine builder that i shall not name,in short my engine went bang twice,and i am now doing my own work.
I knew naff all about my engine till i decided to part company with this guy around a year ago and tackle the work myself,now i am reading up and learning as much as i can and when i took the top half apart i found various short cuts,mixed use of parts and poor workmanship involved.
Ive since learnt of others that have fallen foul of the WMD that lurk in his tool box,they tried to recover the £££££'s but the guy has taken steps to cover himself.
How do i feel....
the guy is scum,he is one dishonest,selfish,bullshitting Son of a bitch and its at times when i am working overtime to try to recoup the lost ££££
On the other hand....
Why ruin my life and end up sitting in a 6x6 it is after all only money and it is not till you read on here,in the papers or see in everyday life the sort of things others have to go through that my bad experience palls into insignificance,i must rise above it and not let it chew me up inside or let his negitiveness affect my positiveness,ime a strong believer in "what goes around comes around" and if he keeps treating others the way he is, then things will eventually creep back round on him to the point of self destruction,in the meantime my challenge is to show the vette world that this
"lil old green back" can extract more power from a motor than he can,that will be my armegeddon.
>> Edited by ZR1cliff on Tuesday 6th September 14:49
I knew naff all about my engine till i decided to part company with this guy around a year ago and tackle the work myself,now i am reading up and learning as much as i can and when i took the top half apart i found various short cuts,mixed use of parts and poor workmanship involved.
Ive since learnt of others that have fallen foul of the WMD that lurk in his tool box,they tried to recover the £££££'s but the guy has taken steps to cover himself.
How do i feel....
the guy is scum,he is one dishonest,selfish,bullshitting Son of a bitch and its at times when i am working overtime to try to recoup the lost ££££
On the other hand....
Why ruin my life and end up sitting in a 6x6 it is after all only money and it is not till you read on here,in the papers or see in everyday life the sort of things others have to go through that my bad experience palls into insignificance,i must rise above it and not let it chew me up inside or let his negitiveness affect my positiveness,ime a strong believer in "what goes around comes around" and if he keeps treating others the way he is, then things will eventually creep back round on him to the point of self destruction,in the meantime my challenge is to show the vette world that this
"lil old green back" can extract more power from a motor than he can,that will be my armegeddon.
>> Edited by ZR1cliff on Tuesday 6th September 14:49
Sleep Envy said:
My question is would you rise above it all, fill in the forms and attend an interview or simply get your own back and bin the letter?
Sorry almost forgot your Question,No F&&k him,he didnt look out for you and just thought of himself before,just by thinking about your dilema you come across as a better moral person than him,a man with a conscience,but some people like to take advantage of that and he sounds like he already has so no second chance if it was me.
ZR1cliff said:
My question is would you rise above it all, fill in the forms and attend an interview or simply get your own back and bin the letter?
Sorry almost forgot your Question,No F&&k him,he didnt look out for you and just thought of himself before,just by thinking about your dilema you come across as a better moral person than him,a man with a conscience,but some people like to take advantage of that and he sounds like he already has so no second chance if it was me.
Entirely agree. I wouldn't put myself out for a second for someone who had turned me over. I rarely forgive and I never forget.
If you help him out you are a sap, and that's how he'll see you.
I'm not sure how much relevance the insurance company will place on your witness statement as your friend (the claimant) was exactly that, your friend, and hence you are not an independent witness in the accident. Much more credence is given (by insurers) to independent evidence and subsequently your statement may in fact not make the slightest bit of difference to the settlement negotiations. Your statement may make a difference if settlement cannot be negotiated and the Solicitors acting for your friend decide to issue legal proceedings. Subsequently should this be defended, by the other side then you may be looking at a court hearing during which time you may be called to attend court as a witness.
If you issue a statement, be prepared to attend court.
If you issue a statement, be prepared to attend court.
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