Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Vyse-
“How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?
Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
I always pay for the first few dates - but on reflection the girls who’ve been the nicest/most compatible have always either offered to split it or have made me agree they can buy the drinks after. I’m quite sure some girls see dating as a free lunch.
The girl I’m seeing now asked me to book an expensive French seafood restaurant - when the bill came she pulled her card out and said she wanted to pay, I still did, but it was a good sign.
“How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?
Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
I always pay for the first few dates - but on reflection the girls who’ve been the nicest/most compatible have always either offered to split it or have made me agree they can buy the drinks after. I’m quite sure some girls see dating as a free lunch.
The girl I’m seeing now asked me to book an expensive French seafood restaurant - when the bill came she pulled her card out and said she wanted to pay, I still did, but it was a good sign.
Petrus1983 said:
Vyse-
“How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?
Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
I always pay for the first few dates - but on reflection the girls who’ve been the nicest/most compatible have always either offered to split it or have made me agree they can buy the drinks after. I’m quite sure some girls see dating as a free lunch.
The girl I’m seeing now asked me to book an expensive French seafood restaurant - when the bill came she pulled her card out and said she wanted to pay, I still did, but it was a good sign.
Not necessarily. There are plenty of crafty feckers that know how to play the game.“How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?
Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
I always pay for the first few dates - but on reflection the girls who’ve been the nicest/most compatible have always either offered to split it or have made me agree they can buy the drinks after. I’m quite sure some girls see dating as a free lunch.
The girl I’m seeing now asked me to book an expensive French seafood restaurant - when the bill came she pulled her card out and said she wanted to pay, I still did, but it was a good sign.
Petrus1983 said:
Vyse-
“How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?
Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
I always pay for the first few dates - but on reflection the girls who’ve been the nicest/most compatible have always either offered to split it or have made me agree they can buy the drinks after. I’m quite sure some girls see dating as a free lunch.
The girl I’m seeing now asked me to book an expensive French seafood restaurant - when the bill came she pulled her card out and said she wanted to pay, I still did, but it was a good sign.
The girl am currently seeing has offered a couple of times to pay but I declined the offer. Whether she has intend to go through with paying I don't know but I guess offering is better than silence. “How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?
Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
I always pay for the first few dates - but on reflection the girls who’ve been the nicest/most compatible have always either offered to split it or have made me agree they can buy the drinks after. I’m quite sure some girls see dating as a free lunch.
The girl I’m seeing now asked me to book an expensive French seafood restaurant - when the bill came she pulled her card out and said she wanted to pay, I still did, but it was a good sign.
Vyse- said:
“How much do you guys typically spend on the first few dates with a girl. Do you tend to pickup all the bills during this period?
Am trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
For the most recent example with a girl I saw a handful of timesAm trying to gauge if my spending is excessive or not that much compared to others.”
Date 1: Drinks in a bar
I bought 1st round, she bought 2nd round. £12 each I guess
Date 2: Restaurant (with 1 drink in pub before)
She bought the drinks in the pub (under a tenner)
I paid for restaurant. £90 all in with service charge and a tip direct to the waitress
I preface this with the fact it was ME who asked her out. She offered to pay something. I told her I asked her out, it was my shout. She said she didn't want me to think "I was buying something" I told her "I wasn't expecting anything as I going home after this, I have work in the morning"
Date 3 Bistro meal. She asked. She paid (£60 plus service IIRC)
Date 4. Invited me over to cook for me. I took wine, chocs and something for her pets
£20ish for me. Probably £10-15 her costs.Other factors stopped us going much further. So no idea how it would have progressed in this case. But it struck me as pretty equal. So I wasn't worried about inbalance
I've had a few dates with girls over the years where you can tell they expect more. I tend to screen them out asap. Fine if I was a millionaire and they were a Uni student. But Im not. And when you both have mortgages and reasonable paying jobs, I expect there to be equality indicated early on.
Petrus1983 said:
Do you have Date 3’s number still??
Same girl, 4 dates 
(Oh, I forgot we went to the cinema as well. I bought tickets, £30ish she bought the popcorn and drink. Dunno tenner maybe)
Yes, I have her number, but I haven't contacted her since she text me!
to say decided she didn't want to see me anymore. I deleted her from all my social media so have no idea if she's seeing anyone currently. Still want the number? Edited by S1KRR on Sunday 18th August 22:00
S1KRR said:
Petrus1983 said:
Do you have Date 3’s number still??
Same girl, 4 dates (Oh, I forgot we went to the cinema as well. I bought tickets, £30ish she bought the popcorn and drink. Dunno tenner maybe)
Yes, I have her number, but I haven't contacted her since she text me!
to say decided she didn't want to see me anymore. I deleted her from all my social media so have no idea if she's seeing anyone currently. Still want the number? Edited by S1KRR on Sunday 18th August 22:00
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