The Ending of anonymity for sperm and egg donors
The Ending of anonymity for sperm and egg donors
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Jaglover

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46,737 posts

264 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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New laws come into effect this week which remove the anonymity of sperm and egg donors.

The legislation will allow children born from donated sperm and eggs to trace their biological parents when they turn 18.

Doctors fear it will lead to the collapse of donors in this country-and lead to infertile couples having to go abroad for treatment.

There has already been a 30 fold decrease in sperm donations over the past decade-driven mainly by proposals for the end of anonymity.

What does everyone think?

My own view is that anonymity should be preserved the 'real' parents of a child is not someone wan*ing off into a test tube-but who looks after them throughout their childhood.

tvradict

3,829 posts

303 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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Agreed.

timbob

2,205 posts

281 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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Exactly...

Imagine the scenario - you make a 'donation' once or twice for whatever reason... Then, 20 years or so later, some random teenager turns up on your doorstep, proclaiming to be your child - eek!!!

rich 36

13,739 posts

295 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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This pre-occupation with searching out an absentee (parent) all seems a bit ungrateful, if you've been raised by someone else in the first place, however if the enquiry was thus;

Social services;
'We know now, who & where your donor father is, would you like this information forwared to you in a letter?

Curious ungrateful offspring;

'Is he richer, than my so-called parents who raised me?


'No'



'Oh.................. just forget it then'

gone

6,649 posts

292 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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I was a sperm donor! Although for many years I did not know about it!

12 years after I donated it, I was found by the CSA who are charging me £400 per month for the donation!

If that is what is likely to happen to those who donate, then the answer must be stop donating!



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cosmoschick

7,977 posts

278 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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Jaglover said:
My own view is that anonymity should be preserved the 'real' parents of a child is not someone wan*ing off into a test tube-but who looks after them throughout their childhood.


Absolutely.

I'm not sure how a child would cope learning the truth in any case, it may only serve to have a detrimental affect on his/her psychological and emotional wellbeing however well-meaning the intention.

docevi1

10,430 posts

277 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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does it mean from now on or all time?

i.e. can someone who donated 20 years ago suddenly have someone knocking on their door or is from people who donate tommorrow?

BliarOut

72,863 posts

268 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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gone said:
I was a sperm donor! Although for many years I did not know about it!

12 years after I donated it, I was found by the CSA who are charging me £400 per month for the donation!

If that is what is likely to happen to those who donate, then the answer must be stop donating!



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Hang on, you help out a childless couple out of the goodness of your heart and the CSA chase you, that's feckin barmy Sounds like a recipe to end donation overnight.

Bloody glad I had my tubes cut!

gone

6,649 posts

292 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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BliarOut said:

gone said:
I was a sperm donor! Although for many years I did not know about it!

12 years after I donated it, I was found by the CSA who are charging me £400 per month for the donation!

If that is what is likely to happen to those who donate, then the answer must be stop donating!



>> Edited by gone on Monday 28th March 11:55



Hang on, you help out a childless couple out of the goodness of your heart and the CSA chase you, that's feckin barmy Sounds like a recipe to end donation overnight.

Bloody glad I had my tubes cut!


No.
Not quite like that. I helped out a female (without realising) who had an agenda I did not know about for 12 years until she needed some extra cash!

Jaglover

Original Poster:

46,737 posts

264 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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docevi1 said:
does it mean from now on or all time?

i.e. can someone who donated 20 years ago suddenly have someone knocking on their door or is from people who donate tommorrow?


I have reread the article and it is not clear-it seems to be saying that it will not be retrospective

Jaglover

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46,737 posts

264 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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cosmoschick said:

Jaglover said:
My own view is that anonymity should be preserved the 'real' parents of a child is not someone wan*ing off into a test tube-but who looks after them throughout their childhood.



Absolutely.

I'm not sure how a child would cope learning the truth in any case, it may only serve to have a detrimental affect on his/her psychological and emotional wellbeing however well-meaning the intention.


exactly-should the child be told?-what is the point in telling them?

BliarOut

72,863 posts

268 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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gone said:

BliarOut said:


gone said:
I was a sperm donor! Although for many years I did not know about it!

12 years after I donated it, I was found by the CSA who are charging me £400 per month for the donation!

If that is what is likely to happen to those who donate, then the answer must be stop donating!



>> Edited by gone on Monday 28th March 11:55




Hang on, you help out a childless couple out of the goodness of your heart and the CSA chase you, that's feckin barmy Sounds like a recipe to end donation overnight.

Bloody glad I had my tubes cut!



No.
Not quite like that. I helped out a female (without realising) who had an agenda I did not know about for 12 years until she needed some extra cash!

Ahh, gotcha..... Even more glad I had my tubes cut!!!

nervous

24,050 posts

259 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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gone, drop me a line will you please? (seriously)

love machine

7,609 posts

264 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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I remember being skint at Uni and saw an ad for Sperm Donors. £15 a shot so to speak. A quick calculation revealed that I could earn over £30K for 'working' 3/4 of the year with weekends. This entailed 12 whanks a day, 5 days a week for 3/4 of the year. I took my proposal to the clinic where I nominated myself as the house stud. The woman told me to sod off! I was going to try the old trick of "I need some assistance here" with both of my hands bandaged up. I suppose you could 'make' some sperm substitute, a sort of colloidal emulsion, wallpaper paste stylee.

Good job I didn't go for that. £15 was not enough for an 'aliquot' IMO.

Deester

1,607 posts

289 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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love machine said:
I remember being skint at Uni and saw an ad for Sperm Donors. £15 a shot so to speak. A quick calculation revealed that I could earn over £30K for 'working' 3/4 of the year with weekends. This entailed 12 whanks a day, 5 days a week for 3/4 of the year. I took my proposal to the clinic where I nominated myself as the house stud. The woman told me to sod off! I was going to try the old trick of "I need some assistance here" with both of my hands bandaged up. I suppose you could 'make' some sperm substitute, a sort of colloidal emulsion, wallpaper paste stylee.

Good job I didn't go for that. £15 was not enough for an 'aliquot' IMO.


Ahhhh.... and breathe!

groucho

12,134 posts

275 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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gone said:

No.
Not quite like that. I helped out a female (without realising) who had an agenda I did not know about for 12 years until she needed some extra cash!


I've helped out one or two in my time also.

catso

16,374 posts

296 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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love machine said:
I remember being skint at Uni and saw an ad for Sperm Donors. £15 a shot so to speak.


£15 a 'shot' Wish I'd known about this.......I could have been a millionaire by now!

love machine

7,609 posts

264 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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catso said:

love machine said:
I remember being skint at Uni and saw an ad for Sperm Donors. £15 a shot so to speak.



£15 a 'shot' Wish I'd known about this.......I could have been a millionaire by now!


I suppose you could go around and cut a business deal with a few prozzies *Has visions of rocking up in a pimped up old Mercedes to collect 'the goods'*

cptsideways

13,880 posts

281 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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Surely theres a possibilty of many offspring contacting you due to you handing over several million of the little potentials....


With reduced numbers its an increased possibilty too


I can see they are going to have to increase the inducements to get the donors along, I can see some yummy nursy nurses being employed by unscrupulous NHS trusts to get the business from pissed up lads walking home past the hospitals after a night out on the town

Jaglover

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46,737 posts

264 months

Monday 28th March 2005
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cptsideways said:
Surely theres a possibilty of many offspring contacting you due to you handing over several million of the little potentials....


With reduced numbers its an increased possibilty too


I can see they are going to have to increase the inducements to get the donors along, I can see some yummy nursy nurses being employed by unscrupulous NHS trusts to get the business from pissed up lads walking home past the hospitals after a night out on the town


Oh yes-in a nice sexy nurses outfit-I would be ready to 'donate'