What would you do now?
Discussion
I'm looking for guidance, not for me but for my son.
The best I can give so far is not to do the same as me, I can't describe how f
ked up my choices have been.
So he is 15 with a hopefully enjoyable life ahead of him.
Much has changed since I was his age , nothing is assured , no one can predict the future etc, I can tell him what I wish I had done but that is of little use.
So as an open question where no answer is wrong and the possibilities are endless what would you do tiday if you were 15 again?
The best I can give so far is not to do the same as me, I can't describe how f
ked up my choices have been.So he is 15 with a hopefully enjoyable life ahead of him.
Much has changed since I was his age , nothing is assured , no one can predict the future etc, I can tell him what I wish I had done but that is of little use.
So as an open question where no answer is wrong and the possibilities are endless what would you do tiday if you were 15 again?
Fairbridge said:
Fair play. Tell him to do the same but moderate the drinking. If you over egg that omelette the issues start.
Ha, well I don't think drink is likely to be a problem as he has zero interest currently. It's not as if I'm a negative influence in that area though, I'm just hoping that he will do far better thane
redstu said:
Ha, well I don't think drink is likely to be a problem as he has zero interest currently.
It's not as if I'm a negative influence in that area though, I'm just hoping that he will do far better thane
Heating and plumbing engineer then. Gas safe registered of course. Or maybe It's not as if I'm a negative influence in that area though, I'm just hoping that he will do far better thane
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Don't pick A Levels based on what you think will be useful, do things you are good at/enjoy! Although Maths was a surprise, hated it at GCSE, took it at A Level after ditching a Classics when I realised I didn't get on with it or teacher.
As long as you have confidence, a willingness to learn and work, you'll land on your feet.
As long as you have confidence, a willingness to learn and work, you'll land on your feet.
I consider myself very lucky to have a varied and interesting job that pays well and I only have to do for half the year. However, I got here largely by accident rather than design. Though it is a long way off yet, my advice to my kids when they get to that age will be simply, if you have a numeric brain, study maths, if you have a literary brain, study law. Then go and have some fun while you figure out what do do with your life. Either qualification will open up many opportunities in a wide range of industries across the world. If you want a bit more of an adventurous life, join the forces.
santona1937 said:
learn a trade. Use that to see the world. Make friends. Love. Laugh.
This. Get a trade (and preferably a second fit one that's usually done inside) and he will never be poor. How academically minded is he? If he does want to go on to university in his mid 20s (which is getting much more common these days), having something like plumbing in his pocket means he can always do a couple of days' work if he gets short of cash which is going to be very useful for him.
redstu said:
I'm looking for guidance, not for me but for my son.
The best I can give so far is not to do the same as me, I can't describe how fked up my choices have been.
So he is 15 with a hopefully enjoyable life ahead of him.
Much has changed since I was his age , nothing is assured , no one can predict the future etc, I can tell him what I wish I had done but that is of little use.
So as an open question where no answer is wrong and the possibilities are endless what would you do tiday if you were 15 again?
Why are you so hard on yourself? Live is not a preset plan sometimes circumstancens control events.Let your son make up his own mind.My daughter asked me when she was about fifteen what to do.She has a good brain and I advised her to carry on studying.She went to Uni and is a mental health nurse.My middle son didn't want to know about school but was a talented young Rugby league player.If he had kept on training he would have been a top professional.Children make their own choices you can only encourage them.Our eldest son lives on his own and is happy, what happened to him is a long story.You always want the best for your children which is understandable.The best I can give so far is not to do the same as me, I can't describe how f
ked up my choices have been.So he is 15 with a hopefully enjoyable life ahead of him.
Much has changed since I was his age , nothing is assured , no one can predict the future etc, I can tell him what I wish I had done but that is of little use.
So as an open question where no answer is wrong and the possibilities are endless what would you do tiday if you were 15 again?
Thank you for all the replies.
He currently has an interest in computers although that is mainly with regard to continually updating his to get the best performance at reasonable cost.
I try to encourage his practical skills and he seems ok bur doesn't show huge interest. However I wasn't overtly handy at his age other than fixing other kids pedal bikes.
I would probably have joined one of the forces and been a maintenance technician.
I still think that the forces would be a good option although when I mentioned that he didn't seem interested.
But it's up to him really, and probably better to give no advice rather than bad advice.
He currently has an interest in computers although that is mainly with regard to continually updating his to get the best performance at reasonable cost.
I try to encourage his practical skills and he seems ok bur doesn't show huge interest. However I wasn't overtly handy at his age other than fixing other kids pedal bikes.
I would probably have joined one of the forces and been a maintenance technician.
I still think that the forces would be a good option although when I mentioned that he didn't seem interested.
But it's up to him really, and probably better to give no advice rather than bad advice.
If he is not sure what to do that is perfectly fine - he is only 15. I would push him though to stay in education and as mentioned above do things he likes for A level etc rather than stuff he thinks might be useful.
Don't push him towards the services route because you thought that's what you should have done!
I am sure he will be fine with the odd bit of sensible dad advice.
Don't push him towards the services route because you thought that's what you should have done!
I am sure he will be fine with the odd bit of sensible dad advice.
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