How to deal with the 'Delete that photo now!' type?
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I'm not really sure what this thread will achieve, but I've now had this situation happen to me twice, and I'm really not sure what to do, so advice or experiences welcome.
The first time it happened, I was at a friends birthday party, she'd invited me along and asked me to photograph the entire evening. I didn't ask to be paid or anything, just glad that someone thought my services were good enough to warrant me to 'capture the night'.
Anyway, I'm there from the start till around 11ish when the karoke starts, I'm getting some good shots of everyone having a good time. About 2-3 people in, this woman stands up, has a blat, I see a good opportunity for a photo. Then it all went a bit weird as the next thing I know this woman is in my face, the mics been dropped on the floor and in her best drunk scouser accent shes screaming 'Delete the photos ... (some explietive)'
Now at this point I was a bit confused but she yanked the camera out of my hands and had away with my CF card. To say it had created a scene would be an understatement. I said to my friend I would like refunding for the CF card to which she did and I then left.
The next occassion happened a couple of days ago at a mates pub. We're both camera geeks and I recently dug out and old Pentax. I was sat in the beer garden with him and a friend and we were just taking the odd snap, trying out differing settings on our friend. Out of nowhere this woman who in fairness happened to be in the background stood up and said 'Can you please stop taking photos of me and delete the ones I have'. I explained we weren't taking photos of her, she just happened to be in the background, and besides it was film and I can't. My friend who owned the place settled the person down and said we won't take anymore and he was sincerly sorry.
Now, I'm not a confrontational person, but I don't understand why people get so upperty about having their photo taken. In the first example, the lady was in other shots with friends, and just like that seemed to flip out. With the second it was different but she was sat in a public place, and completely blurred anyway by the depth of field (a very hard thing to explain to someone who is always right it seems)
So anyway, your examples, if any, and how to deal with them...
The first time it happened, I was at a friends birthday party, she'd invited me along and asked me to photograph the entire evening. I didn't ask to be paid or anything, just glad that someone thought my services were good enough to warrant me to 'capture the night'.
Anyway, I'm there from the start till around 11ish when the karoke starts, I'm getting some good shots of everyone having a good time. About 2-3 people in, this woman stands up, has a blat, I see a good opportunity for a photo. Then it all went a bit weird as the next thing I know this woman is in my face, the mics been dropped on the floor and in her best drunk scouser accent shes screaming 'Delete the photos ... (some explietive)'
Now at this point I was a bit confused but she yanked the camera out of my hands and had away with my CF card. To say it had created a scene would be an understatement. I said to my friend I would like refunding for the CF card to which she did and I then left.
The next occassion happened a couple of days ago at a mates pub. We're both camera geeks and I recently dug out and old Pentax. I was sat in the beer garden with him and a friend and we were just taking the odd snap, trying out differing settings on our friend. Out of nowhere this woman who in fairness happened to be in the background stood up and said 'Can you please stop taking photos of me and delete the ones I have'. I explained we weren't taking photos of her, she just happened to be in the background, and besides it was film and I can't. My friend who owned the place settled the person down and said we won't take anymore and he was sincerly sorry.
Now, I'm not a confrontational person, but I don't understand why people get so upperty about having their photo taken. In the first example, the lady was in other shots with friends, and just like that seemed to flip out. With the second it was different but she was sat in a public place, and completely blurred anyway by the depth of field (a very hard thing to explain to someone who is always right it seems)
So anyway, your examples, if any, and how to deal with them...
Not a photography buff by any means (my photography only really extends to setting the camera to auto and making everything at Le Mans look like an overexposed blur)
This did happen to me once though - in secondary school, around the time phone cameras were coming in, I was playing with a mate's at the back of the English class, one girl took umbridge to this and grassed me up to the teacher. "I wasn't taking photos of her, she is too big to even fit on the screen anyway" probably wasn't the best response I could have mustered...
This did happen to me once though - in secondary school, around the time phone cameras were coming in, I was playing with a mate's at the back of the English class, one girl took umbridge to this and grassed me up to the teacher. "I wasn't taking photos of her, she is too big to even fit on the screen anyway" probably wasn't the best response I could have mustered...
Correct answer to situation one is call the cops, she stolen your CF card, in reality thought your probably better asking your friend who’s party it is to get you the card back off her (assuming she is an invited guest). All the powerfully built folks suggesting hitting her shame on you, even if she’s an oxygen thief there’s little to be gained (and lots to be lost) by dropping to her level.
Second situation, ‘I’m sorry dear but you’re not in the photo, if however you would like to slip your clothes off I am looking to do some art nudes’.
Second situation, ‘I’m sorry dear but you’re not in the photo, if however you would like to slip your clothes off I am looking to do some art nudes’.
There are on an almost daily basis people taking pictures on London Bridge. I don't mean tourists taking pics of Tower Bridge or HMS Belfast, but what look like professional photographers with all the kit taking pictures of the people crossing.
It does get on my nerves as I assume they are selling these photos for finacial gain and possibly including my image. If I had a camera phone I would be tempted to photograph each of them just to see what their reaction would be.
It does get on my nerves as I assume they are selling these photos for finacial gain and possibly including my image. If I had a camera phone I would be tempted to photograph each of them just to see what their reaction would be.
Cotty said:
There are on an almost daily basis people taking pictures on London Bridge. I don't mean tourists taking pics of Tower Bridge or HMS Belfast, but what look like professional photographers with all the kit taking pictures of the people crossing.
It does get on my nerves as I assume they are selling these photos for finacial gain and possibly including my image. If I had a camera phone I would be tempted to photograph each of them just to see what their reaction would be.
Here's one of them... It does get on my nerves as I assume they are selling these photos for finacial gain and possibly including my image. If I had a camera phone I would be tempted to photograph each of them just to see what their reaction would be.
Untitled by NickGrant.co.uk, on Flickr
To the OP, odd (but not unusual) that both cases were women. They are generally nervous about getting their photo taken ("ohhh, I look fat in that photo" etc.). I normally just explain that I'm a wizard with photoshop, and can do wonders for them 
Ignore it though, and I would have reported the second one for theft.
Ignore it though, and I would have reported the second one for theft.
Elderly said:
Cotty said:
...... I would be tempted to photograph each of them just to see what their reaction would be.
Edited by Cotty on Monday 27th June 15:07
Cotty said:
However they have your image and I wouldn't want to be the new posterboy for hemroid cream.
That would require approval, and no doubt money too.I was visiting a cave in Spain once when someone jumped out in front of me, took a Polaroid of me and my then-bird, the tried to sell it to me on the way out. I was infuriated. Cheeky bloody dago.
Hi guys, thanks for the input.
The first one was indeed a private party. The host apologised a lot, replaced the card and I believe since fell out with the attendee. I forgot to add there was alcohol in the situation, so her any actions I took could have really ramped up the situation. Like I said, i'm not the sort of person to 'headbutt' anyone. I just like taking pictures, honest guv!
The second one I had the landlord side as he was sat opposite me. He had to be polite though as they were new cliental with the pub, so for the sake of a few photos the argument wasn't worth it.
I just wonder sometimes. Why do people get worked up about their photo being taken. Heck, they're already portraying their image to everyone, if they were so self conscious about it then surely they wouldn't be out in public. It beats me, but thanks for some of the typical PH responses, brought a smile to my face at least.
On a slightly positive note, the replacement CF card was a Sandisk III or something rather than just the bog standard one. *thumbs up*
The first one was indeed a private party. The host apologised a lot, replaced the card and I believe since fell out with the attendee. I forgot to add there was alcohol in the situation, so her any actions I took could have really ramped up the situation. Like I said, i'm not the sort of person to 'headbutt' anyone. I just like taking pictures, honest guv!
The second one I had the landlord side as he was sat opposite me. He had to be polite though as they were new cliental with the pub, so for the sake of a few photos the argument wasn't worth it.
I just wonder sometimes. Why do people get worked up about their photo being taken. Heck, they're already portraying their image to everyone, if they were so self conscious about it then surely they wouldn't be out in public. It beats me, but thanks for some of the typical PH responses, brought a smile to my face at least.
On a slightly positive note, the replacement CF card was a Sandisk III or something rather than just the bog standard one. *thumbs up*
I think I'd feel really self concious about having my photo taken randomly, I'd be irritated if someone were taking many in a pub and looked like they were pointing the camera at me.
But now that I've read this thread and asked myself the question, I don't actually know why. Interesting...
But now that I've read this thread and asked myself the question, I don't actually know why. Interesting...
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