30 years old and at a total crossroads
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I shall give a bit of background for this (and keep it as minimal as possible!) long story short started off at 19 with family convenience store (was studying law at uni but Dad ended up going to jail for a financial matter so ended up doing that and never went back to uni) I then proceeded to get 3 convenience stores and rental properties. At 28 I disposed of all rentals (not worth the hassle) and sold 2 of the shops with the first one remaining which I currently operate still. In the last few years I have reached a point where I have and have had all the cars, still got an Aston and McLaren but doesn’t do it for me now, the clothes and watches don’t do it for me now to the point I don’t wear them now (watches!)
I am single and have been since about 27 and currently live with my Dad (or vice versa depending upon how you look at it) and alone when he’s away (which is approx 50% of the year.
Not sure what to do going forward as got little to no motivation, earn 6 figures annually of the shop. The business and property is worth approx 500K (600including stock) and I have currently about 550K in stocks and shares (built over the years)
My lifestyle costs very little no mortgage, so basics living costs, and rarely go out now (was a party animal as a youngster which resulted in rehab early 20s.
Just a bit lost any assistance / advice / chat would be appreciated
Not that it’s relevant, but based in the North East
Cheers guys
I am single and have been since about 27 and currently live with my Dad (or vice versa depending upon how you look at it) and alone when he’s away (which is approx 50% of the year.
Not sure what to do going forward as got little to no motivation, earn 6 figures annually of the shop. The business and property is worth approx 500K (600including stock) and I have currently about 550K in stocks and shares (built over the years)
My lifestyle costs very little no mortgage, so basics living costs, and rarely go out now (was a party animal as a youngster which resulted in rehab early 20s.
Just a bit lost any assistance / advice / chat would be appreciated
Not that it’s relevant, but based in the North East
Cheers guys
ah i was going to say kids..
Interested in volunteering in the community - like sports? Volunteer at a local sports club. I did it for many years in my 30s and 40, admittedly my kids were involved - in football.
From it I met many people, worked with hundreds of kids, met many new friends, a few enemies, travelled to places i wouldn't normally go and learnt my FA Badges and a lot about myself.
Interested in volunteering in the community - like sports? Volunteer at a local sports club. I did it for many years in my 30s and 40, admittedly my kids were involved - in football.
From it I met many people, worked with hundreds of kids, met many new friends, a few enemies, travelled to places i wouldn't normally go and learnt my FA Badges and a lot about myself.
I went and worked abroad at 31, in Japan as a start point! Certainly changes your perspective of things, learn culture, differing points of view on how the world works. But also that we aren't at our core, that different as peoples globally. Certainly changed me as a person and still look at it back then as an important part of my life.
I have travelled far and wide, when younger was likes of China, Kenya, Galápagos Islands and the like; then when started venturing on my own have done Marbella Dubai etc etc multiple times to the point I haven’t been away for approx 3 years as just doesn’t interest me now to the point I never go. I used to go for 3-5 nights every 4-6 weeks
If I were you I'd take some time and promise to myself NOT to commit to ANYTHING for a couple of years.
I started again at 34 and now at 51 have two kids and third marriage.
You'll go from 30 to 50 VERY quickly.
If you have the chance now to spend a couple of years 'finding yourself' however s
te that sounds - DO IT!
Make sure money and future are safe - however you choose to, then:
Travel
Hobbies
Study
Go and come back and tell us all about the next fabulous two years!
I started again at 34 and now at 51 have two kids and third marriage.
You'll go from 30 to 50 VERY quickly.
If you have the chance now to spend a couple of years 'finding yourself' however s
te that sounds - DO IT!Make sure money and future are safe - however you choose to, then:
Travel
Hobbies
Study
Go and come back and tell us all about the next fabulous two years!
You have the perfect life already, 90% of the population are aiming to be where you are when they are 65.
Enjoy what you have and stop aiming at more, your already there.
ETA;
Dont get involved with women unless you want to loose it by the time your 50 and want to start again, or if you do make them sign something from a solicitor stating that your finances remain the same in the event of a split up.
Enjoy what you have and stop aiming at more, your already there.
ETA;
Dont get involved with women unless you want to loose it by the time your 50 and want to start again, or if you do make them sign something from a solicitor stating that your finances remain the same in the event of a split up.
scottbarnett93 said:
I have travelled far and wide, when younger was likes of China, Kenya, Galápagos Islands and the like; then when started venturing on my own have done Marbella Dubai etc etc multiple times to the point I haven’t been away for approx 3 years as just doesn’t interest me now to the point I never go. I used to go for 3-5 nights every 4-6 weeks
Marbs and Dubai aren't the places to judge travel by. Why not plan a travel expedition? Walk the Picos, or get to the Dolomites or something? RV across the States, or NZ from end to end. With that sort of money and freedom the world really is your lobster. For all repliers there’s no chance of me getting married now or in the future, long term relationship possibly, but never married for reason outlined above!
Dundarach I have had probably 2 years to finding myself, maybe 3 now which consisted of a long term relationship break down in a bad way (I’m sure we have all had that!) so for the last 2/3 years I have had 14-18 hours a day if not more including sleep) so my routine has been more or less wake up dog out (German shepherd my favourite thing on the world!) gym dog out nap few hours work food then wait to go to sleep basically
I was and have been a daily gym goer for years but have stopped in the last few months as got so bored after so many years the keeping fit looking good thing is good and makes you feel good but not forever (in my experience)
Dundarach I have had probably 2 years to finding myself, maybe 3 now which consisted of a long term relationship break down in a bad way (I’m sure we have all had that!) so for the last 2/3 years I have had 14-18 hours a day if not more including sleep) so my routine has been more or less wake up dog out (German shepherd my favourite thing on the world!) gym dog out nap few hours work food then wait to go to sleep basically
I was and have been a daily gym goer for years but have stopped in the last few months as got so bored after so many years the keeping fit looking good thing is good and makes you feel good but not forever (in my experience)
dundarach said:
If I were you I'd take some time and promise to myself NOT to commit to ANYTHING for a couple of years.
I started again at 34 and now at 51 have two kids and third marriage.
You'll go from 30 to 50 VERY quickly.
This is a wise man - I'm 48, and yesterday, when I looked I was 30. Go adventuring young man - fill your boots.I started again at 34 and now at 51 have two kids and third marriage.
You'll go from 30 to 50 VERY quickly.
Do NOT get a full time bird. That path leads to the dark side.
IF (when) my other half leaves me, I would never, ever get another full timer. Straight to the motorhome for travel or maybe, sell Motorhome and buy a boat, and travel.
Marvellous!
A500leroy
I understand what you meant and since late teens always strived to be in this position (if not higher) but would have settled for a lot less I should also mention. But it’s not what I thought it would be particularly as got the cars and possessions thing out my hair now so nothing material sort of interests me in any way.
Fishing / boats would be interesting, however, have done both, particularly boats in various places in the world and just wasn’t my particular cup of tea.
With that sort of money the worlds your lobster - that’s what I thought it would be when and if I got their but have been in a low mood since the buzz wore off a few years ago and it’s not enough to just say au revoir
I understand what you meant and since late teens always strived to be in this position (if not higher) but would have settled for a lot less I should also mention. But it’s not what I thought it would be particularly as got the cars and possessions thing out my hair now so nothing material sort of interests me in any way.
Fishing / boats would be interesting, however, have done both, particularly boats in various places in the world and just wasn’t my particular cup of tea.
With that sort of money the worlds your lobster - that’s what I thought it would be when and if I got their but have been in a low mood since the buzz wore off a few years ago and it’s not enough to just say au revoir
GaryC I have failed at plenty of things and many that I shouldn’t have particularly when younger. Went through avid alcohol drug and gambling addictions for many years and only got clear of after rehab therapy and a lot of pain and tears!
Selfishgent guranteed no marriage will happen learnt that lesson the first time (without getting married if that makes sense!)
Selfishgent guranteed no marriage will happen learnt that lesson the first time (without getting married if that makes sense!)
scottbarnett93 said:
For all repliers there’s no chance of me getting married now or in the future, long term relationship possibly, but never married for reason outlined above!
Dundarach I have had probably 2 years to finding myself, maybe 3 now which consisted of a long term relationship break down in a bad way (I’m sure we have all had that!) so for the last 2/3 years I have had 14-18 hours a day if not more including sleep) so my routine has been more or less wake up dog out (German shepherd my favourite thing on the world!) gym dog out nap few hours work food then wait to go to sleep basically
I was and have been a daily gym goer for years but have stopped in the last few months as got so bored after so many years the keeping fit looking good thing is good and makes you feel good but not forever (in my experience)
Is there anything that you're passionate about? From this post maybe find something where you're working with dogs more. I'm probably way off the mark here but - a doggy day care of your own or volunteering at shelters. There's lots of shelters in need in Europe. Dundarach I have had probably 2 years to finding myself, maybe 3 now which consisted of a long term relationship break down in a bad way (I’m sure we have all had that!) so for the last 2/3 years I have had 14-18 hours a day if not more including sleep) so my routine has been more or less wake up dog out (German shepherd my favourite thing on the world!) gym dog out nap few hours work food then wait to go to sleep basically
I was and have been a daily gym goer for years but have stopped in the last few months as got so bored after so many years the keeping fit looking good thing is good and makes you feel good but not forever (in my experience)
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