How do you persuade your better half :
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That its a brilliant idea.
After years of not having the car I want I have come across www.mk2cav.com and have decided I want a Calibre. I reckon I can get a good one for £5-700, and have turned down 3 restoration projects.
I can sell my boring but reliable Astra for £1200 ish so I can't see the problem. BUT my wife says NO.
I can't see why not and her 'You have a car' attitude, coupled with, 'You'll get bored with it' and 'You wanted a Cosworth once' is really pissing me off.
Okay, I know that some of my descisions in the past were naff, but actually they were the ones where she had an influence. Any ideas ? Divorce not a option !
After years of not having the car I want I have come across www.mk2cav.com and have decided I want a Calibre. I reckon I can get a good one for £5-700, and have turned down 3 restoration projects.
I can sell my boring but reliable Astra for £1200 ish so I can't see the problem. BUT my wife says NO.
I can't see why not and her 'You have a car' attitude, coupled with, 'You'll get bored with it' and 'You wanted a Cosworth once' is really pissing me off.
Okay, I know that some of my descisions in the past were naff, but actually they were the ones where she had an influence. Any ideas ? Divorce not a option !
jacko lah said:Nah tastes horrid and it's got no alcohol
That its a brilliant idea.
After years of not having the car I want I have come across www.mk2cav.com and have decided I want a Calibre. I reckon I can get a good one for £5...
Rich...
mannginger said:
Just do it - but give her the equivelant in cash for shopping or a holiday etc etc - that should persuade her.
Alternativly...Divorce?
I was given 3K by my gran (Hey I'm 36 and a 93 year old gives me cash) and 'we' spent it on 2 Yellow Leather Sofa's, a Fire Place, and a Trip to France.
She recently was given 4K by her Dad, and hey it went in her high interest tax efficient saving plan.
Just do it!
I didnt even bother having the conversations in the first place, as I knew that each time it would have been no and ending up with a blazing row. Her face was a picture when I came home with my new toy, parked it on the drive, it was two hours before she noticed it through the lounge window, she didnt speak to me for a week, just glowered at me, even now two years later she isnt happy about it, but i've still got it and its all mine!
You could try the old 'I fancy a bike' routine, then a silly car doesnt seem so bad.
I didnt even bother having the conversations in the first place, as I knew that each time it would have been no and ending up with a blazing row. Her face was a picture when I came home with my new toy, parked it on the drive, it was two hours before she noticed it through the lounge window, she didnt speak to me for a week, just glowered at me, even now two years later she isnt happy about it, but i've still got it and its all mine!
You could try the old 'I fancy a bike' routine, then a silly car doesnt seem so bad.
Hmm. I can relate to this topic, and it's better if your partner is on side rather than your relationship going all Frostie the Snowman and robbing you of enjoyment. I find it best not to even try to justify it- on any rational grounds, you just can't make sportscar purchase work. What works for me is getting enthusiastic about it so that she (or he) knows it's really important to you and makes you happy. Make the point that if it doesn't work out you can sell it and get something else, so you're not going to be stuck with it forever. Oh, and the other tack that might work is that you want to enjoy this sort of stuff now, before you get too old....
HTH
Kevin
HTH
Kevin
Big_M said:
You could however dangle the promise of a new kitchen - Mr Big is getting a Saab next month to replace the Rover daily hack by using this method.
Deb you are so cheap
Personally nothing would convince me that Himself needed to put a sportscar in the garage (because mine's already in there
)
Having changed "sporty cars" 3 times in 5 years....all those comments and suggestions make me smile, cos I've used them all. I found the best approach was to drop said car in conversation, showing over blown excitement when she says or does nothing or sulking if she voices concern. When eventually she askes what I'm intending I unload a mass of "evidence" that proves no financial concern, a "promise" that I'll never ask for anything more, plus a promise "she can have the same again in cash to spend as she wants". To date my wife although hating "car talk" has used and enjoyed and smiled more about "my" cars than I have. Let her test drive it and have her believe that she is control of ths buying/haggling and owning experience. 6 months later start again with "but the tyres are illegal and if I'm going to need tyres I might as well upgarde to 18" split rims..." (my current ongoing conversation stopper-although she's coming round to it...!!)
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456mgt said:
I find it best not to even try to justify it- on any rational grounds,
Make the point that if it doesn't work out you can sell it and get something else, so you're not going to be stuck with it forever.
Kevin
I've been given a MK2 Cav 1.8i Auto (Free) and she has pointed out that I'm stuck with it forever.
Still It's a right laugh and no one gets involved in road rage with you, as they can see that a paint pen will be more than my car ! And in years to come it will be the only one in existance cause no idiot would pay good money for one (Hence the price). I've asked for an angle grinder for my Birthday !
If your going to get so much grief you have got to change something
either:-
a Your choice of car.
or
b You wife.
I know what I would change LOL LOL LOL
I agree with some of the others.
GO with hr every time she goes shopping and tell her how many pairs of shoes/dresses/coats/jumpers etc she has just before she buys it. She will almost certainly not see the irony in this but at least yuo will feel better and p**s her off a little. Eventually she will either give in and let yuo have the car - or - bugger off. In which case yuo get the car anyway. Result!!
PS I have a GTO Twin Turbo and my good lady TOLD me to get it. How good is that. And she calls it the mistress cos I spend more time money and affection on it than I do on her.
What a wife that is eh!!!
Ming the Lucky One
either:-
a Your choice of car.
or
b You wife.
I know what I would change LOL LOL LOL
I agree with some of the others.
GO with hr every time she goes shopping and tell her how many pairs of shoes/dresses/coats/jumpers etc she has just before she buys it. She will almost certainly not see the irony in this but at least yuo will feel better and p**s her off a little. Eventually she will either give in and let yuo have the car - or - bugger off. In which case yuo get the car anyway. Result!!
PS I have a GTO Twin Turbo and my good lady TOLD me to get it. How good is that. And she calls it the mistress cos I spend more time money and affection on it than I do on her.
What a wife that is eh!!!
Ming the Lucky One
jacko lah said:
I've been given a MK2 Cav 1.8i Auto (Free) and she has pointed out that I'm stuck with it forever.
Still It's a right laugh and no one gets involved in road rage with you, as they can see that a paint pen will be more than my car ! And in years to come it will be the only one in existance cause no idiot would pay good money for one (Hence the price). I've asked for an angle grinder for my Birthday !
Had the Cav since January now, it passed the MOT first time and I've yet to touch the rusty rear arches. I had it on the www.mk2cav.com stand at Performance vauxhall Show at santa pod last weekend, where I had a few nice constructive comments.
HOWEVER !!!!!
There's a bloke in the club selling a mk2 cavalier convertible with XE engine (thats an astra gte 16V 150 bhp engine for them that think vauxhall is a part of London) He wants 900 quid. I'm now thinking, I want it I want it I want it.
How do I convince her indoors that I want a TOY. I'm only gonna use it in the summer and I'm gonna spend 100's on mods like leather etc.
I'm gonnna use the auto as my Daily driver (it's like driving your grandads old armchair with attitude - and no one EVER cuts me up)
I'm scared !!!
Gazboy said:
Christ alive champ, just pull yourself together and just get on with it, are you her bitch or something?
Well said. I'll go home tonight, give her a slap and prove I'm always right !
Seriously i was clever enough to get married and have kids and a mortgage, so I'm sure a little pampering of her feelings will have her on my side in no time.
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