almost crashed today, my fault
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driving home down the same stretch of road i've used for years. it's a NSL A road and i arrive at a cross roads where i turn right. i indicate in advance, slow down, one last check theres nothing coming and turn.
i was so sure there was nothing coming but he had to lock up to miss me. id just looked straight down the road at him and not seen him.
theres no way i shouldn't have seen him it's nice and sunny but no glare and a nice straight road. he didn't seem to be going too fast i just hadn't f
king seen him.
i feel so st i could have killed the driver, his missus and myself, as well as anyone else travelling behind him.
sat at home now, shaking like a stting dog watching james may on dave and need some calming thoughts 
i was so sure there was nothing coming but he had to lock up to miss me. id just looked straight down the road at him and not seen him.
theres no way i shouldn't have seen him it's nice and sunny but no glare and a nice straight road. he didn't seem to be going too fast i just hadn't f
king seen him.i feel so s
t i could have killed the driver, his missus and myself, as well as anyone else travelling behind him.sat at home now, shaking like a s
tting dog watching james may on dave and need some calming thoughts 
Don't worry, know 2 things
1) You're still here
2) You're now a much better/more considerate driver than half the other people out there.
Lesson learnt?
My first 'nearly' accident was a shakey affair. Turning left at the junction. Checked both ways and totally missed the VW that had to slam on the anchors to avoid me.
I hope its made me a better drive.
1) You're still here
2) You're now a much better/more considerate driver than half the other people out there.
Lesson learnt?
My first 'nearly' accident was a shakey affair. Turning left at the junction. Checked both ways and totally missed the VW that had to slam on the anchors to avoid me.
I hope its made me a better drive.
Happens to us all to some degree, it goes to show how many near misses on the road could turn bad by only a hairs breadth.
I've had a couple of ones over the years where i think how close they were. And generally i have learnt from them all, not making the same mistake twice is something so important.
Count yourself lucky, say a prayer or whatever you need to do... but most of all dont beat yourself up for too long, you will be a wiser driver because of it.
I've had a couple of ones over the years where i think how close they were. And generally i have learnt from them all, not making the same mistake twice is something so important.
Count yourself lucky, say a prayer or whatever you need to do... but most of all dont beat yourself up for too long, you will be a wiser driver because of it.
Learn from it - statistics suggest you are more likely to have an accident on a local road you know well as one's brain can easily slip into neutral.
I give it until 6pm before there's a ranting thread with the title:
"Unbelievable!! This fella actually looked at us before pulling out of a side road causing me to lock up.. Fook me!!"
You can then say sorry and all will be well again.
I give it until 6pm before there's a ranting thread with the title:
"Unbelievable!! This fella actually looked at us before pulling out of a side road causing me to lock up.. Fook me!!"
You can then say sorry and all will be well again.
Edited by matt uk on Monday 6th April 15:24
I think sometimes think our brains just miss things, the other day I some how didn't see a Merc Sprinter and nearly pulled out in front of it at a T junction. Fortunately I always double check. I also have a friend that claims to regularly miss blue cars, they're extra cautious every where they go.
Glade that you got away with it.
Glade that you got away with it.
I had a similar experience several years ago when overtaking in that I 'looked but didn't see' a car coming the other way.
Just put it down to experience, and keep it in the back of your mind the next time you pull out of a junction or go for an overtake.
Accidents can and do happen with that sort of mistake, but if you lived your life thinking like that you'd never leave the house!
Just put it down to experience, and keep it in the back of your mind the next time you pull out of a junction or go for an overtake.
Accidents can and do happen with that sort of mistake, but if you lived your life thinking like that you'd never leave the house!
Ever heard the phrase "Familiarity breeds contempt?".
Well your brain gets conditioned to the norm on roads you use regularly, some times to the effect (and this actually happened to me on my motorbike some years ago), that you can leave and arrive without remembering anything in-between!
This was a very sobering experience, I can tell you.
Well your brain gets conditioned to the norm on roads you use regularly, some times to the effect (and this actually happened to me on my motorbike some years ago), that you can leave and arrive without remembering anything in-between!
This was a very sobering experience, I can tell you.
cheers guys im calming down a bit now. it is a road i've driven down most days since i passed my test (over 3 years ago).
sure as hell im going to take that extra bit of time now.
it's a good excuse not to go the gym tonight as id go down the same road.
thanks again for all the kind thoughts
Sam.
PH - self affirmation matters
sure as hell im going to take that extra bit of time now.
it's a good excuse not to go the gym tonight as id go down the same road.
thanks again for all the kind thoughts
Sam.
PH - self affirmation matters
randomman said:
My first 'nearly' accident was a shakey affair. Turning left at the junction. Checked both ways and totally missed the VW that had to slam on the anchors to avoid me.
Did the same thing, but it was a cyclist hidden behind the A-pillar because of the angle of the junction, and the speed we both approached it at. Bloody unlucky set of circumstances that all came together on a road I travelled most days, almost home from a day in the office. Since then, I always bob my head forward to check the cyclist-sized blindspot.matt uk said:
Learn from it - statistics suggest you are more likely to have an accident on a local road you know well as one's brain can easily slip into neutral.
I give it until 6pm before there's a ranting thread with the title:
"Unbelievable!! This fella actually looked at us before pulling out of a side road causing me to lock up.. Fook me!!"
You can then say sorry and all will be well again.
hope he's not on here, it was a knackered old maroon escort estate with a broken front bumper and badly fillered front wing. <- not a bad description for a car i didn't see huh?I give it until 6pm before there's a ranting thread with the title:
"Unbelievable!! This fella actually looked at us before pulling out of a side road causing me to lock up.. Fook me!!"
You can then say sorry and all will be well again.
Edited by matt uk on Monday 6th April 15:24
i wouldn't like to mock him for his s
tty repair job after i almost made the dent in his front end a lot fking biggersamdale said:
sat at home now, shaking like a stting dog watching james may on dave and need some calming thoughts
Did exactly the same thing after years of seemingly safe driving. Near miss luckily. Concluded that I'd got to a point where I was doing too much 'automatically' and needed to re-focus on making certain manoevres (checking at junctions) more thoroughly and consciously worked through. tting dog watching james may on dave and need some calming thoughts As others have mentioned, I'm doing much more 'looking around' the a-pillar too these days.
Eight lives to go...
I reckon it usually takes two people to make an accident - one to start it and one to fail to avoid it. Luckily for you he did the necessary thing.
Ultimately it's simple luck. Last year the Griff spun away from me (at only 55mph) and I ended up backwards on the verge of a dual carriageway, having missed all the other cars, with no damage whatsoever. It could have been very different - 50 yards further on was a bridge parapet and 50 yards before was a layby. Ulp.
I reckon it usually takes two people to make an accident - one to start it and one to fail to avoid it. Luckily for you he did the necessary thing.
Ultimately it's simple luck. Last year the Griff spun away from me (at only 55mph) and I ended up backwards on the verge of a dual carriageway, having missed all the other cars, with no damage whatsoever. It could have been very different - 50 yards further on was a bridge parapet and 50 yards before was a layby. Ulp.
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