Martial Art / Self Defence? What to choose?

[s3pc1989]

Hi All,
I'm a very peaceable easy going chap, but warming to the idea of taking up some kind of martial art or similar.....but which one?? Primary motivations are fitness, bit of increased self confidence and hopefully having the knowledge that if I ever get into a confrontation, I should have some idea how to de-escalate, respond or protect myself.....?? To add, I'm rather late to the party being in my late 50's (although resonably fit) and not remotely interested in breaking bricks, kick boxing or similar.
There's a bewildering array of choices out there, so interested to hear any suggestions particularly from anyone at a similar stage in life.

Thanks all....

[s3pc1989]

Hi all - sorry for my slow reply.

There are some really helpful and thought provoking replies. Particularly with regards to situational awareness......!
I am fully in agreement that the best course of action is de-escalation and avoidance, but as mentioned having confidence in your abilities should the worst occur should (imho) improve your chances of successful de-escalation.

I'm probably going to investigate Ju Jitsu initially and see where that takes me. Likewise also some situational awareness training could be valuable. I've no intention of getting into these situations deliberately in the first place, but a bit of knowledge and quiet confidence would be great to have.

Thanks all - much appreciated....