Is 36 too young to have the snip??

[Lizardking]

As above really.
I have two wonderful children, both under 5 and to be honest, two does seem enough!
The wife is having issues with various types of contraception, so i'm wondering whether to "man up" and get this done.
Does anybody know how painful the procedure can be?
Or any advice for post operation?
Cheers

[Soft Top]

Age is really irrelevant. If you are finished with kids then it all sounds good.

I was 32 and we don't have any kids.

Pain is not an issue. A bit if discomfort and that's about it. Obviously they provide local anaesthetic. This was what I was most worried about but I didn't even feel it.

The big issue is aftercare. You really must put your feet up, (literally and figuratively), for 2 days. I didn't and recovery was extended.

[h0b0]

I would really investigate the alternative contraceptive pills as the NHS has a habit of being cheap which can cause issues in some women. My friend had it done at a time in his life where he thought he had finished having kids then got divorced and remarried. At 50 he is going to be a father and the process was not ideal for him.

[ShadownINja]

I think 18 is too young. Just right is any time after you've had enough kids. Reversal is not guaranteed... that'd be the only issue for me.

[dubbs]

We've got all we need but I'm waiting until 40.

Don't know why, just feels right.... maybe because past 40 I don't think I'd ever want more regardless of what life brings.

[pistonlager]

Sorry to interrupt this serious matter,

As a Mr T would say, 'crazy fool'

You never know what life has in store for you in the future.
One day you might need to be reproductive again.

If it's about not getting the other half pregnant, why can't she be sterilized?

Are you gonna get that much more sex,

I would only ever be done for health reasons.

Edited by pistonlager on Saturday 22 May 13:03

[ShadownINja]

dubbs said:

We've got all we need but I'm waiting until 40.

Don't know why, just feels right.... maybe because past 40 I don't think I'd ever want more regardless of what life brings.

Yes, you could argue that as you get older you have less energy to play with your football or whatever with kids.

[Tiggsy]

pistonlager said:

If it's about not getting the other half pregnant, why can't she be sterilized?

Edited by pistonlager on Saturday 22 May 13:03

Yeah...cause thats a walk in the park!

[Shaw Tarse]

My dad was 32 when he had the snip (according to my maths), it was a more "serious" op in them days, he was in hospital overnight when he got home I : jumped on his lap as I was glad to see him

[pistonlager]

Tiggsy said:

pistonlager said:

If it's about not getting the other half pregnant, why can't she be sterilized?

Edited by pistonlager on Saturday 22 May 13:03

Yeah...cause thats a walk in the park!

Maybe that came across wrong.

I meant it in a black and white sense.
I know what trauma is associated with a hysterectomy.
I'd never have the snip mind and would be happy to carry on with less permanent forms of contraception....
For both parties.

[Tuscanless Ali]

My husband was around 33 when he finally had his done, (He had been asking since he was 28.) The doctor wasn't keen to do it but with 4 children we definitely didn't want anymore and it is so much easier for a man to do it than a woman. (Doc would have happily sterilized me though!!)

He was given a Valium and a local, didn't even get a stitch, just a plaster, and was back at work the next day.

Best thing he ever did

[nick_j007]

pistonlager said:

Sorry to interrupt this serious matter,

As a Mr T would say, 'crazy fool'

You never know what life has in store for you in the future.
One day you might need to be reproductive again.

If it's about not getting the other half pregnant, why can't she be sterilized?

Are you gonna get that much more sex,

I would only ever be done for health reasons.

Edited by pistonlager on Saturday 22 May 13:03

What he said.

Good luck whatever you do though.

[Tiggsy]

pistonlager said:

I know what trauma is associated with a hysterectomy.

Righhhhht - you do know that not how they steralise women? Or do you cure headaches with a lobotomy?

[Fort Jefferson]

I was 32 and we don't have kids. If you want to put your mind at rest, watch an episode of "Outnumbered"

[nick_j007]

I'd say (for me anyway) that having a child was simply the best thing ever.

She's 11 now, and paddling in 10" of water in a 6' pool with the dog looking in and all her toy horses lined up on the side. Bless 'er.

Of course YMMV

Nick

[pistonlager]

Tiggsy said:

pistonlager said:

I know what trauma is associated with a hysterectomy.

Righhhhht - you do know that not how they steralise women? Or do you cure headaches with a lobotomy?

Did you mean to say ' you do know how they sterilise women'
Yes I do, but it still ends up in a couple unable to have kids,
same as a man having the snip.

Say the couple split up the man tries for reversal in his new relationship.
It's not usually available on the NHS and if done after 3 years from the original snip there's only a 50% pregnancy rate
which diminishes over time.

You obviously have a problem with me suggesting hysterectomy, it was only a suggestion after all.

As for headaches Dr Pistonlager suggests not taking paracetamol as it is rammed to the rafters with caffeine,
not good for the mind or body.

[Tiggsy]

If you are a woman and want to be steralised you dont get a hysterectomy. That was my point.

Its like suggesting you remove a testicle when having the snip.

[Lizardking]

Some interesting thoughts going on here.
The only fear (other than the pain!!)is like what my good wife said "what happens if we split up and you meet someone else, and she wants to have kids" This is a slight fear but at this point in time/my life i'm happy with the boy and girl I already have.

[ShadownINja]

Lizardking said:

Some interesting thoughts going on here.
The only fear (other than the pain!!)is like what my good wife said "what happens if we split up and you meet someone else, and she wants to have kids" This is a slight fear but at this point in time/my life i'm happy with the boy and girl I already have.

She mentioned that??

[Lizardking]

Hell yeah, it's honest as no-one knows thier future, but i thought to myself, now this doesn't bode well!