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Was in your shoes 18 months ago.
Get your ass down the gym. Get fit, get active. Get out, see your friends. Made all the difference to my life.
I was going through s
t, then gf left me. I thought to myself - 'ok I can either sit here crying and eating biscuits, or i can f*ckin sort my life out'. And I did.
Do it.
Get your ass down the gym. Get fit, get active. Get out, see your friends. Made all the difference to my life.
I was going through s
t, then gf left me. I thought to myself - 'ok I can either sit here crying and eating biscuits, or i can f*ckin sort my life out'. And I did.Do it.
I used to get this a lot - for similar reasons by the sounds of it.
A bit of exercise does wonders, but also trying to rename your anxieties. For example, if you are 'anxious' about a meeting or event, say to yourself that your are 'excited' and don't use the word anxious - believe it or not, you'll start to believe it even if it does sound weird.
Some days I just feel plain 'unsettled' but usually I can work out why - perhaps going back to work the next day or something similar.
I think the biggest thing which helped me was learning some self hypnosis tricks. Sounds odd again (Im no hippy) but it kind of gives you a bit of confidence that you can make these feelings go away - there are loads of mp3s around which can help. Think of it as focussed meditation, if that makes it easier.
A bit of exercise does wonders, but also trying to rename your anxieties. For example, if you are 'anxious' about a meeting or event, say to yourself that your are 'excited' and don't use the word anxious - believe it or not, you'll start to believe it even if it does sound weird.
Some days I just feel plain 'unsettled' but usually I can work out why - perhaps going back to work the next day or something similar.
I think the biggest thing which helped me was learning some self hypnosis tricks. Sounds odd again (Im no hippy) but it kind of gives you a bit of confidence that you can make these feelings go away - there are loads of mp3s around which can help. Think of it as focussed meditation, if that makes it easier.
Edited by Maxf on Wednesday 12th May 22:57
Daveymoo said:
I find "guided relaxation" helps. Just type that into youtube. Just set aside 10 minutes in peace and quiet.
Most relaxation techniques help, but you 'need' to want to do them. Every time I tried this sort of technique I got very relaxed and then fell into REM and just flashed back to what I was trying to 'forget'Lose the alcohol, nicotine, caffeine and stimulants (un believeably not eating white bread made a huge difference for me) and get a physical excercise regime on board.
If all that fails, get some advice on some prescription drugs. They don't work long term, but sometimes you DO need them to break the anxiety cycle.
Good luck. You can beat anxiety/panic.
Counselling really worked for me, in the end went on 10mg Anti-depressants due to looming exams and I needed to be on form.
Think positive.
Exercise, had an exam last week and was stting it. A 30 mins passing/kicking session in the park with my housemate did the trick.
Counselling First two were Godawful and awkward, stuck at it and made some breakthroughs.
Family/Friends They'll be desperate to help, if you can, let them(Very hard for them or anyone to understand without going through it themselves. Friends, its interesting to see how many crawl out of the woodwork with similar stuff once you know what to look for.
Anti-depressants Try and stay away, they have their place. Just hopefully you dont get into a situation where you need them. I was on min. dose of 10mg for min. time of 6 months.
Feel free to PM any specific questions, could be more useful to you.
Think positive.
Exercise, had an exam last week and was s
tting it. A 30 mins passing/kicking session in the park with my housemate did the trick.Counselling First two were Godawful and awkward, stuck at it and made some breakthroughs.
Family/Friends They'll be desperate to help, if you can, let them(Very hard for them or anyone to understand without going through it themselves. Friends, its interesting to see how many crawl out of the woodwork with similar stuff once you know what to look for.
Anti-depressants Try and stay away, they have their place. Just hopefully you dont get into a situation where you need them. I was on min. dose of 10mg for min. time of 6 months.
Feel free to PM any specific questions, could be more useful to you.
TDutchy said:
Counselling really worked for me, in the end went on 10mg Anti-depressants due to looming exams and I needed to be on form.
Think positive.
Exercise, had an exam last week and was stting it. A 30 mins passing/kicking session in the park with my housemate did the trick.
Counselling First two were Godawful and awkward, stuck at it and made some breakthroughs.
Family/Friends They'll be desperate to help, if you can, let them(Very hard for them or anyone to understand without going through it themselves. Friends, its interesting to see how many crawl out of the woodwork with similar stuff once you know what to look for.
Anti-depressants Try and stay away, they have their place. Just hopefully you dont get into a situation where you need them. I was on min. dose of 10mg for min. time of 6 months.
Feel free to PM any specific questions, could be more useful to you.
Actually no, upon checking your "My Garage" I saw you had a Montego. This is the core of your problems.Think positive.
Exercise, had an exam last week and was s
tting it. A 30 mins passing/kicking session in the park with my housemate did the trick.Counselling First two were Godawful and awkward, stuck at it and made some breakthroughs.
Family/Friends They'll be desperate to help, if you can, let them(Very hard for them or anyone to understand without going through it themselves. Friends, its interesting to see how many crawl out of the woodwork with similar stuff once you know what to look for.
Anti-depressants Try and stay away, they have their place. Just hopefully you dont get into a situation where you need them. I was on min. dose of 10mg for min. time of 6 months.
Feel free to PM any specific questions, could be more useful to you.
Maxf said:
I think the biggest thing which helped me was learning some self hypnosis tricks. Sounds odd again (Im no hippy) but it kind of gives you a bit of confidence that you can make these feelings go away - there are loads of mp3s around which can help. Think of it as focussed meditation, if that makes it easier.
The subconcious mind is very powerful and can convince the concious mind of many things, good and bad. Oldbanger, please read 'feel the fear and do it anyway' by Dr Susan Jeffers, probably available at Amazon etc. It will help you alot
I've just been diagnosed as suffering with anxiety. I've had a pretty tough five months. I moved in January and had lots of problems with my flat. Added to that I work very long hours and my social life is almost non-existant. I changed career and relocated to London a year ago so have had some massive changes in my life. Trying to plan to see friends is almost impossible because of my shift pattern and as a result I feel isolated and lonely. I haven't discussed this with family as my dad's been very ill this year and he worries about me too much as it is.
I was told I needed to see a counselor three months ago but laughed it off, saying things weren't that bad and that I'd chat to friends about it. I thought I'd got better but recently my dad had a massive heart attack and it was touch and go for a couple of weeks so I've found myself back at the doctor. I was shocked when he basically told me to shut up and listen to his advice that I would have a break down if I did not get counseling.
I used to be a real gym bunny but since I've moved I have been totally bogged down with house problems and work. I think that since I stopped exercising I started to suffer. I know the benefits of exercise to mental health all too well as I helped to edit a friend's book on exercise and mental health a couple of years ago.
I'm a perfectionist so I set myself impossibly high standards and beat myself up badly if I don't reach the standard I'd like or make a mistake.
I spent ten days away from work and home and with my mum recently and I felt like a new person. I slept a ridiculous amount and looked a good three younger! I went out with some friends yesterday and it felt great. I've not drunk at home this week and that seems to have helped as I had been drink a lot at home and it was a concern.
I have been in denial that I have a problem as I don't like to show weakness and I see my struggling as weakness. It has been good to read your posts as I realise I am not alone. I'll be interested to see further posts and see how the OP recovers. I'll let you know how things go with me. I'm about to reduce my hours at work and consequently hope to start circuit training again. I'm desperate for a holiday but can't afford it this year so hope to enjoy chilling at home, doing a spot of decorating in my new pad and basking in the sun in my lovely new garden.
Thanks for listening
I was told I needed to see a counselor three months ago but laughed it off, saying things weren't that bad and that I'd chat to friends about it. I thought I'd got better but recently my dad had a massive heart attack and it was touch and go for a couple of weeks so I've found myself back at the doctor. I was shocked when he basically told me to shut up and listen to his advice that I would have a break down if I did not get counseling.
I used to be a real gym bunny but since I've moved I have been totally bogged down with house problems and work. I think that since I stopped exercising I started to suffer. I know the benefits of exercise to mental health all too well as I helped to edit a friend's book on exercise and mental health a couple of years ago.
I'm a perfectionist so I set myself impossibly high standards and beat myself up badly if I don't reach the standard I'd like or make a mistake.
I spent ten days away from work and home and with my mum recently and I felt like a new person. I slept a ridiculous amount and looked a good three younger! I went out with some friends yesterday and it felt great. I've not drunk at home this week and that seems to have helped as I had been drink a lot at home and it was a concern.
I have been in denial that I have a problem as I don't like to show weakness and I see my struggling as weakness. It has been good to read your posts as I realise I am not alone. I'll be interested to see further posts and see how the OP recovers. I'll let you know how things go with me. I'm about to reduce my hours at work and consequently hope to start circuit training again. I'm desperate for a holiday but can't afford it this year so hope to enjoy chilling at home, doing a spot of decorating in my new pad and basking in the sun in my lovely new garden.
Thanks for listening
Edited by EmmaP on Wednesday 19th May 08:30
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