School girl bullying?

[5MUG]

Hello
my daughter was passed a note in a Maths lesson saying 'I hate ........... (her name)' . She is 8 yo. The person that handed it to her was the person that wrote it. She has given me the note. There is other stuff going on as well.

I intend to speak to the teacher tom morn. Any ideas as to how to tackle it? it has really upset her.

[randlemarcus]

Ask the school for a copy of their bullying policy, and make sure you support your daughter in line with it (i.e. explaining that bullies are unhappy people, rather than telling her to get her knee behind their kneecap when tripping them over)

Bear in mind though that children of all ages and sexes can be right little horrors.

[oldbanger]

Girls can be absolute evil horrors to each other, though they tend not to get really creative with it until they're in their teens. It's worth getting it nipped in the bud now.

[oilandwater]

oldbanger said:

Girls can be absolute evil horrors to each other, though they tend not to get really creative with it until they're in their teens. It's worth getting it nipped in the bud now.

Get it sorted now. My son was bashed about, the headmaster put them both in the same room for half an hour, he told them to sort it out themselves. When I heard what he had done I was livid. That headmaster has now left. (He was the same headmaster that said you can grow out of dyslexia.)

[littlegreenfairy]

Teenage girls are just the most awful creatures alive. I'm sorry she's having to go through this so young. Let's hope it's out of their systems for when they hit teenage hood.

Is there anything she can get really into outside of school to give her more purpose and worth - so she has non-school friends?

[Penny-lope]

You have to explain to your daughter that she must talk to her teacher, as well as you.

Too many teachers are left in the dark by pupils until their parents call, or visit the school reading the riot act.

Fingers crossed you get it sorted out. Kids can be so nasty at that age

[Pickled Piper]

You are doing the right think in speaking with the teacher. Young girls are also very fickle. You may find that next week she is suddenly best buddies with the girl who sent the note. As somebody else posted help her understand that it is the girl who sent the not who is troubled. Also, help your daughter build her confidence so that she is not troubled by this type of thing in the future. The more she responds the more she will be a victim. It's very likely that the girl sending the note is jealous because your daughter did not play with her at break time.

Lots of stuff goes on in the relationships between young girls, some odd dynamics that it is very difficult for an adult to understand. I know, I've got two daughters in primary school and have had similar issues.

pp

[drivin_me_nuts]

Pickled Piper said:

You are doing the right think in speaking with the teacher. Young girls are also very fickle. You may find that next week she is suddenly best buddies with the girl who sent the note. As somebody else posted help her understand that it is the girl who sent the not who is troubled. Also, help your daughter build her confidence so that she is not troubled by this type of thing in the future. The more she responds the more she will be a victim. It's very likely that the girl sending the note is jealous because your daughter did not play with her at break time.

Lots of stuff goes on in the relationships between young girls, some odd dynamics that it is very difficult for an adult to understand. I know, I've got two daughters in primary school and have had similar issues.

pp

I very much agree with this. I see the effects of childhood bullying in adults of all ages on an a regular basis. The very best thing that you can do to help a child in this matter is to help them build their self confidence and self belief so that what others say to them has less significance and impact.

[5MUG]

Thanks all for taking the trouble to reply. I spoke to the deputy head (class teacher off sick!) and she said she would deal with it. What she actually did was read the class a book on bullying and horrid note writing! I was rather disappointed as I thought she might tackle it head on! Anyway, things are ok today and my daughter isnt withdrawn or trying to get out of going to school. We shall see how things develop.

[E21_Ross]

Penny-lope said:

people can be so nasty....

EFA

[fido]

Perhaps she could return a note to sender: "Why?" That's what i used to do at school.