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Who here has been plagued by nerves all their life?
I suffer from nerves pretty badly. First noticed it when Swimming at County level and got so nervous in one final that I got cramp in my stomach and couldn't swim
Caused me to fail my driving test 3 times as I my left leg was shaking from being nervous for most the test. Took rescue remedy on the third and fourth goes which helped
It has also prevented me from being successful in job interviews as completely go to pot and just can't answer questions the way I know I should, just have complete mental block
Also kick in when trying to talk to girls who I like and just as above I seem to go to pot mentally and don't know what to say
If nerves didn't exist then my life to date would have been far simpler
I suffer from nerves pretty badly. First noticed it when Swimming at County level and got so nervous in one final that I got cramp in my stomach and couldn't swim
Caused me to fail my driving test 3 times as I my left leg was shaking from being nervous for most the test. Took rescue remedy on the third and fourth goes which helped
It has also prevented me from being successful in job interviews as completely go to pot and just can't answer questions the way I know I should, just have complete mental block
Also kick in when trying to talk to girls who I like and just as above I seem to go to pot mentally and don't know what to say
If nerves didn't exist then my life to date would have been far simpler
Now don't laugh.......
But I have found the Paul McKenna stuff to be quite effective. Sounds like complete nonsense if you listen to the tape in cold light of day but if you want it to work then it will.
No seriously......
A typical 'trick' is to identify someone whom in your opinion would cope with the situation better than yourself. Simon Cowell, Prince Charles, whoever. Then you focus your attention on play acting through the situation as that person.
But I have found the Paul McKenna stuff to be quite effective. Sounds like complete nonsense if you listen to the tape in cold light of day but if you want it to work then it will.
No seriously......
A typical 'trick' is to identify someone whom in your opinion would cope with the situation better than yourself. Simon Cowell, Prince Charles, whoever. Then you focus your attention on play acting through the situation as that person.
Non laughing matter, nerves is such a wide ranging thing. As has been mentioned on here before me and Mrs Alliray called it a day about 5 year ago ater 10 years of marriage, we have since made amends and although live apart are very much a couple (odd i know but it works). I have a very prominent job that ivolves conversing with and lecturing to a great many varied people, with which I have no problem with, I have no confidence issues whatsoever, however I now find myself prone to anxiety attacks when in situations beyond my control, traffic jams, being on a plane etc and get a racing heart and become extremely nervy after eating a lot, meals out, christmas day etc. Got put on anti depressants to cure it all but they made me depressed (GO FIGURE) Horrible horrible state of affairs....I'm fat and no Brad Pitt but if i could change one thing in my life it would be that this didn't happen NOT my appearance. Proper full blown panic attacks are THE worst thing ever. I'd genuinely rather die than have another!
ETA to add relevance, all these symptoms only emerged after the trauma of splitting with my wife!
ETA to add relevance, all these symptoms only emerged after the trauma of splitting with my wife!
Edited by alliray on Friday 9th April 22:00
52classic said:
A typical 'trick' is to identify someone whom in your opinion would cope with the situation better than yourself. Simon Cowell, Prince Charles, whoever. Then you focus your attention on play acting through the situation as that person.
Don't think acting like a 
would help in any / many situations?I have them badly, but being my age, its always hormonal and nothing but.
I've been to my GP about it a few times but every second time I feel a little better and brighter so it seems fine to them. Although, medication is apparently not the way to cope with it.
Caffeine is the worst thing for nerves/anxiety i've found. I've had two glasses of coke today and i'm shaky and anxious. Tiredness too.
Tiredness mixed with caffeine is of course just silly.
Another good way to cope, I find, is, act a bit air-headed. Don't over-think things, and they don't seem bad. Most people don't think about things, get nervous, then think about being nervous, then think how bad it is to be nervous, then get more nervous by realizing they shouldn't be getting nervous.
Or, take a cacophony of drugs daily to just make life a humorous blur.
I've been to my GP about it a few times but every second time I feel a little better and brighter so it seems fine to them. Although, medication is apparently not the way to cope with it.
Caffeine is the worst thing for nerves/anxiety i've found. I've had two glasses of coke today and i'm shaky and anxious. Tiredness too.
Tiredness mixed with caffeine is of course just silly.
Another good way to cope, I find, is, act a bit air-headed. Don't over-think things, and they don't seem bad. Most people don't think about things, get nervous, then think about being nervous, then think how bad it is to be nervous, then get more nervous by realizing they shouldn't be getting nervous.
Or, take a cacophony of drugs daily to just make life a humorous blur.
Luke. said:
I do. And it's a bugger to be honest. Been given Propanolol on the odd occasion which helps.
Yes, it's anxiety, I too have the occasional half-inderal (slow release propranolol) for special moments, but mine tend to be specific to feeling trapped in a situation and has a slight claustrophobic tinge.Everybody suffers from nerves to a certain extent. Different circumstances affect different people and in different ways.
I'm a performer and performance anxiety manifests itself in most of my colleagues - whether through the shakes, needing the loo, panic attacks, dry mouth, whatever. Everybody deals with it in a different way - but you learn what your foibles are and how you deal with it.
Unfortunately it's often a mental thing that manifests itself in a physical way, so even if you feel relaxed and are not worried by the situation, your body decides it should be and that's that!
I have a friend who went for hypnotherapy for performance anxiety and found that it helped him a lot.
There's a couple of good books on the subject - "The Inner Game of Golf" (which I've not read) and "The Inner Game of Music" (which I have and it's useful).
I'm a performer and performance anxiety manifests itself in most of my colleagues - whether through the shakes, needing the loo, panic attacks, dry mouth, whatever. Everybody deals with it in a different way - but you learn what your foibles are and how you deal with it.
Unfortunately it's often a mental thing that manifests itself in a physical way, so even if you feel relaxed and are not worried by the situation, your body decides it should be and that's that!
I have a friend who went for hypnotherapy for performance anxiety and found that it helped him a lot.
There's a couple of good books on the subject - "The Inner Game of Golf" (which I've not read) and "The Inner Game of Music" (which I have and it's useful).
Bboy I thought Prince Charles would have brought me more criticism than SC!
However, you can be Bruce Forsythe, Jeremy Clarkson, David Beckham.. (p'raps not!)
Still, it is the sort of trick that can be effective to break the spiral of bad nreves. I guess the idea is for the acting to take your mind off it.
This is a serious problem for many people I have met others in the course of dealing with it who do suffer so much worse than myself. One chap, principal of a quite sucessful business, told me that he has driven 200 miles for a meeting only to find that he 'lost his bottle' fearing confinement in the meeting room, then drove straight back home again.
However, you can be Bruce Forsythe, Jeremy Clarkson, David Beckham.. (p'raps not!)
Still, it is the sort of trick that can be effective to break the spiral of bad nreves. I guess the idea is for the acting to take your mind off it.
This is a serious problem for many people I have met others in the course of dealing with it who do suffer so much worse than myself. One chap, principal of a quite sucessful business, told me that he has driven 200 miles for a meeting only to find that he 'lost his bottle' fearing confinement in the meeting room, then drove straight back home again.
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