Guidance counselling?

[Stupidlikeafox]

Not sure if this is the right place for this topic...

I seem to have lost all focus in terms of my studies/career aspirations, which is not only unusual, it's bloody worrying for me, who always had the motivation to do well and always knew where I was going.
Its not really as if I've ditched the study and the planning for partying etc, I just seem to spend a lot of time thinking and mulling things over in my head (obviously whilst doing other things, not just sat in a room). I seem to change my mind daily on what I want to do as a career, and at this rate, I'll be earning stars in McDonalds! I think the problem is I have nothing to focus on, and that doesn't motivate me.

I guess I could do with a sort of guidance counsellor, almost like a career advisor but someone you can talk to about other issues (anxiety etc). Does such a thing exist? I'll be in touch with the University to see if they offer something.

Has anyone been through anything similar and has any suggestions?

PS: I know this may come across as a festering turd of self-pity to some of you, but please, sensible replies only. Thanks.

[sday12]

Have you thought of using these guys?

http://www.nikandeva.com/

[chimera40]

"Sensible replies only please"


This is PH you numpty, personally i think you would suit the stars on the badge job.

[Swilly]

sday12 said:

Have you thought of using these guys?

http://www.nikandeva.com/

Agreed, stand in just your pants in front of a full lenght mirror, doing a standing-jog and air-box whilst repeating these pearls..........





Tragedy doesn't lie in not reaching your goals, tragedy is when you have no goals to reach.

Success leaves clues. Whatever you want, find someone who already has it and copy them.

The day that the opinions of other people don't control you any more is the day you find your true self.

Goals are dreams... with deadlines.

It is more important to be kind than to be right.

Don't go where the path leads. Go where there's no path and leave a trail.

If you cannot find contentment within yourself, it's useless to see it elsewhere.

You don't make mistakes, you just find new ways of doing things.

Persistence, persistence, persistence, will overshadow anything, even talent.

You will become what you think about, so choose wisely.

Shoot for the moon. If you miss you'll be among the stars.

The man who follows a crowd will never be followed by a crowd.

No decision is a decision.

Pain is wisdom in disguise.

Remember: success is not limited by your place of birth or the colour of your skin, it is only limited by the size of your belief.

Happiness is a choice. We choose to be happy.

Intimacy is really 'into - me - see.'

It is more important to be kind than to be right.

You have to give your best, no-one who gave their best ever regretted it.

Success leaves clues. Whatever you want, find someone who already has it and copy them.

Successful people make a habit of doing things they don't want to do.

A lesson is repeated until learned.

It's the start that stops most people. You've just got to get going.

Success is the sum of small efforts that are repeated day in and day out. So never give up.

Don't try and change everything at once.

You will get the farthest when you are willing to do and dare. The 'sure thing' boat never gets far from shore.

Welcome frustration. It is a gift that says we need to change something.

Edited by Swilly on Friday 15th January 16:05

[MikeO996]

sday12 said:

Have you thought of using these guys?

http://www.nikandeva.com/

Why would anyone take a look at that pair and think "I bet they have some good lifestyle advice"??

In seriousness, if you're at Uni you probably have a counselling service via the Uni health centre which would be relevant and helpful.

[bazking69]

Kenny G is your man...



Seriously, go and see a career advisor and a shrink if you think you need one too.

[paoloh]

sday12 said:

Have you thought of using these guys?

http://www.nikandeva.com/

Is that a Lesbian couple???

[Rude-boy]

But I am sure the blond bloke is Nervous.

Edited by Rude-boy on Friday 15th January 16:39

[AyBee]

What are you doing at the moment? Universities will have careers guidance people and others who should be able to sort you out.

[Kit80]

Do you have any agencies like connexions? I went and saw a career guidance person from there as I was going all over the place and I am now nearly 30 and still have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. She was actually quite helpful but also did the job of planting more ideas in my head, which was the initially problem such a long list of things I would like to be.

Also you can google tests that you do like in school which could help identify some paths for you.

Biggest issue I ever had is weighing up realistically what was possible, how much to you reach for the ultimate goals or weigh up a more likely career path.

Also your Uni will have advisors go speak to them to.

[Huff]

AyBee said:

What are you doing at the moment? Universities will have careers guidance people and others who should be able to sort you out.

Quite.

I'd go so far as to say - feeling like this, at Uni (possibly nearng the end of..?) is quite normal. Until now everything has been a mapped-out process - aim for this, work for that, get to Uni - and now, the future looks wide open and you don't know what to do with it. And possibly, what's lurking but unarticulated is the fear of Failing - not least becasue not having a defined goal appears in itself, a kind of failure.

So the first thing to do is realise that 1) this too will pass and 2) it's not until you've done/lived through something(s) you consider - in retrospect - was less-than successful you'll really find out what you are good at, what you want to do, what new path(s) you should pursue. Making mistakes is part and parcel of getting-on with life and we've all been there and those who tell you otherwise are either lying or exceptionally unimaginative... Just try to take it as it comes for a while, and not force it. You are young! Chill out! Try stuff!

[oldbanger]

Universities usually have both careers guidance counsellors and the ordinary type of guidance counsellors. For the latter it might be worth contacting the student union as they tend to have info on what's available.

Edited to add: What Huff said is 100% true and eminently sensible advice.

Edited by oldbanger on Friday 15th January 20:36

[mr_spock]

Talk to your parents? Your best mate's dad? Uncle? Tell them up front you don't want someone to solve your problems, just to talk them through. you'll figure it out yourself in time, but airing it is a good start.