Baby Sleep Issues
Discussion
https://www.woombieuk.co.uk might help?
ETA: not sure what PH rules are, but thought I'd add that the site is run by a friend of mine.
ETA: not sure what PH rules are, but thought I'd add that the site is run by a friend of mine.
Edited by Stevenj214 on Friday 27th November 19:29
Where does she sleep? Your room or own room?
When she wakes at 10pm for a feed where do you feed her?
Assuming she doesnt like to go to sleep again, what do you do?
What people forget is that children need to be sleep "trained" They dont know how to do this on their own. A 9 month old will quite often require a feed during the night still and may possibly go through a growth spurt which can disrupt the nights as they require more food.
Your bedtime routine is spot on. When she wakes for a feed make sure you do it in the same room as she sleeps, keep lights low, no talking, minimal disruption, feed, change is needed (it was recomended to me you dont change but my little boy would often then wake up wet having soaked through a nappy) Then place back in bed and walk out.
This is tough bit: COntrolled crying. Its a technisue used to teach babies to resettle themselves after waking. Let her cry for just a minute, sound like no time but just one minute of listening to your child cry is enough to break your heart! Then go into her, cuddle, comfort, then as she stops pop her back in and leave them room. Chances are she'll do it again! Leave her 3 minutes this time and increase each time. She will eventually fall asleep.
You may need to do this for several evenings but i can guarentee you after about 3 to 5 nights she will learn to settle herself. Expect the first night to be doing this for over an hour or two.
Each night it will be less time and then none at all.
My very top tips though are this:
1) be consistant and dont back down
2)send your wife out for the first night and do it alone. It is very hard for a mother to do and it will be easier all round if she doesnt feel strong enough to do it for her to go out.
Good luck though. Once mastered your daughter will be heppier for it. She doesnt want to be distresed and awake either!
When she wakes at 10pm for a feed where do you feed her?
Assuming she doesnt like to go to sleep again, what do you do?
What people forget is that children need to be sleep "trained" They dont know how to do this on their own. A 9 month old will quite often require a feed during the night still and may possibly go through a growth spurt which can disrupt the nights as they require more food.
Your bedtime routine is spot on. When she wakes for a feed make sure you do it in the same room as she sleeps, keep lights low, no talking, minimal disruption, feed, change is needed (it was recomended to me you dont change but my little boy would often then wake up wet having soaked through a nappy) Then place back in bed and walk out.
This is tough bit: COntrolled crying. Its a technisue used to teach babies to resettle themselves after waking. Let her cry for just a minute, sound like no time but just one minute of listening to your child cry is enough to break your heart! Then go into her, cuddle, comfort, then as she stops pop her back in and leave them room. Chances are she'll do it again! Leave her 3 minutes this time and increase each time. She will eventually fall asleep.
You may need to do this for several evenings but i can guarentee you after about 3 to 5 nights she will learn to settle herself. Expect the first night to be doing this for over an hour or two.
Each night it will be less time and then none at all.
My very top tips though are this:
1) be consistant and dont back down
2)send your wife out for the first night and do it alone. It is very hard for a mother to do and it will be easier all round if she doesnt feel strong enough to do it for her to go out.
Good luck though. Once mastered your daughter will be heppier for it. She doesnt want to be distresed and awake either!
Top tips from Lemmonie there. We had this problem with our eldest and it was exhausting. My OH was away for up to 6 months at a time (navy!) and I was knackered beyond belief. The controlled crying is very hard to cope with at first but SO worth it. I reckon it took me about 3 weeks to crack it but I went from having a wee boy who was awake more than he slept to one that would sleep for a straight 9 hours.
Good luck and I really sympathise!
Good luck and I really sympathise!
Lemmonie said:
Where does she sleep? Your room or own room?
When she wakes at 10pm for a feed where do you feed her?
Assuming she doesnt like to go to sleep again, what do you do?
What people forget is that children need to be sleep "trained" They dont know how to do this on their own. A 9 month old will quite often require a feed during the night still and may possibly go through a growth spurt which can disrupt the nights as they require more food.
Your bedtime routine is spot on. When she wakes for a feed make sure you do it in the same room as she sleeps, keep lights low, no talking, minimal disruption, feed, change is needed (it was recomended to me you dont change but my little boy would often then wake up wet having soaked through a nappy) Then place back in bed and walk out.
This is tough bit: COntrolled crying. Its a technisue used to teach babies to resettle themselves after waking. Let her cry for just a minute, sound like no time but just one minute of listening to your child cry is enough to break your heart! Then go into her, cuddle, comfort, then as she stops pop her back in and leave them room. Chances are she'll do it again! Leave her 3 minutes this time and increase each time. She will eventually fall asleep.
You may need to do this for several evenings but i can guarentee you after about 3 to 5 nights she will learn to settle herself. Expect the first night to be doing this for over an hour or two.
Each night it will be less time and then none at all.
My very top tips though are this:
1) be consistant and dont back down
2)send your wife out for the first night and do it alone. It is very hard for a mother to do and it will be easier all round if she doesnt feel strong enough to do it for her to go out.
Good luck though. Once mastered your daughter will be heppier for it. She doesnt want to be distresed and awake either!
She has her own room.When she wakes at 10pm for a feed where do you feed her?
Assuming she doesnt like to go to sleep again, what do you do?
What people forget is that children need to be sleep "trained" They dont know how to do this on their own. A 9 month old will quite often require a feed during the night still and may possibly go through a growth spurt which can disrupt the nights as they require more food.
Your bedtime routine is spot on. When she wakes for a feed make sure you do it in the same room as she sleeps, keep lights low, no talking, minimal disruption, feed, change is needed (it was recomended to me you dont change but my little boy would often then wake up wet having soaked through a nappy) Then place back in bed and walk out.
This is tough bit: COntrolled crying. Its a technisue used to teach babies to resettle themselves after waking. Let her cry for just a minute, sound like no time but just one minute of listening to your child cry is enough to break your heart! Then go into her, cuddle, comfort, then as she stops pop her back in and leave them room. Chances are she'll do it again! Leave her 3 minutes this time and increase each time. She will eventually fall asleep.
You may need to do this for several evenings but i can guarentee you after about 3 to 5 nights she will learn to settle herself. Expect the first night to be doing this for over an hour or two.
Each night it will be less time and then none at all.
My very top tips though are this:
1) be consistant and dont back down
2)send your wife out for the first night and do it alone. It is very hard for a mother to do and it will be easier all round if she doesnt feel strong enough to do it for her to go out.
Good luck though. Once mastered your daughter will be heppier for it. She doesnt want to be distresed and awake either!
When she first wakes, we give her a bottle/water/dummy
Always in her room with no lights/no eye contact/no talking
She always goes straight back down after waking but wakes 3-5 nightly
Is this just normal?
staceyb said:
How does the mini sleep during the day and when?
Do they do activities during the day?
I get up with her at 6am.Do they do activities during the day?
Her first nap is 9.30 for 30 minutes
2nd nap 12.30ish for 1.5 to 2 hours
3rd nap between 4 to 5 for 15 minutes ( if she doesn't have this one, she is a moo to get to go down at night )
Lots of activities. She is already cruising around the furniture.
For what it's worth we have the same problem; ours is 10 months old, so you're not on your own in suffering.
I think at this age a lot of it is down to a growth spurt/genuine hunger. However, controlled crying is definitely worth a go as they get older. We're on our third (and last), and did do controlled crying on the first two when they were a bit older.
I think at this age a lot of it is down to a growth spurt/genuine hunger. However, controlled crying is definitely worth a go as they get older. We're on our third (and last), and did do controlled crying on the first two when they were a bit older.
pretty good advise above
my 1st slept thru no problem
No2 was a bugger - loved his 4am feed and wouldnt let it go. Every night crying for it @4am. Only way we broke it was let him cry, pop in for a shhhhh and a rub on the back every 10 mins. 3 nights, hour each solid crying and eventually he just gave up!
my 1st slept thru no problem
No2 was a bugger - loved his 4am feed and wouldnt let it go. Every night crying for it @4am. Only way we broke it was let him cry, pop in for a shhhhh and a rub on the back every 10 mins. 3 nights, hour each solid crying and eventually he just gave up!
Some wise words above, paricularly about allowing them to cry. If you have a baby monitor chuck it in the bin. If she needs you to wake up she'll make sure that you do. We have a 9 month old (child number 4) and she goes through the night as often as not now.
What are you feeding your little one? I suspect there's a good chance she is hungry. We feed ours a mixture of baby food, and food from our own plates. Just mash it up in a bowl with a fork. She seems to sleep better when she has had home made baby food than the stuff out of the jar. I suspect this is because it has some proper lumps to keep her full for longer.
HTH as its bloody hard hard work when you're up that many times a night.
What are you feeding your little one? I suspect there's a good chance she is hungry. We feed ours a mixture of baby food, and food from our own plates. Just mash it up in a bowl with a fork. She seems to sleep better when she has had home made baby food than the stuff out of the jar. I suspect this is because it has some proper lumps to keep her full for longer.
HTH as its bloody hard hard work when you're up that many times a night.
rocksteadyeddie said:
Some wise words above, paricularly about allowing them to cry. If you have a baby monitor chuck it in the bin. If she needs you to wake up she'll make sure that you do. We have a 9 month old (child number 4) and she goes through the night as often as not now.
What are you feeding your little one? I suspect there's a good chance she is hungry. We feed ours a mixture of baby food, and food from our own plates. Just mash it up in a bowl with a fork. She seems to sleep better when she has had home made baby food than the stuff out of the jar. I suspect this is because it has some proper lumps to keep her full for longer.
HTH as its bloody hard hard work when you're up that many times a night.
She eats Weetabix for breakfast with some toast. Followed by a bottle.What are you feeding your little one? I suspect there's a good chance she is hungry. We feed ours a mixture of baby food, and food from our own plates. Just mash it up in a bowl with a fork. She seems to sleep better when she has had home made baby food than the stuff out of the jar. I suspect this is because it has some proper lumps to keep her full for longer.
HTH as its bloody hard hard work when you're up that many times a night.
Lunch is home made food. Lasagne, pie, risotto.
Evening meal is whatever we're having.
Bottle before bed.
She is already on full solids.
paoloh said:
staceyb said:
How does the mini sleep during the day and when?
Do they do activities during the day?
I get up with her at 6am.Do they do activities during the day?
Her first nap is 9.30 for 30 minutes
2nd nap 12.30ish for 1.5 to 2 hours
3rd nap between 4 to 5 for 15 minutes ( if she doesn't have this one, she is a moo to get to go down at night )
Lots of activities. She is already cruising around the furniture.
staceyb said:
paoloh said:
staceyb said:
How does the mini sleep during the day and when?
Do they do activities during the day?
I get up with her at 6am.Do they do activities during the day?
Her first nap is 9.30 for 30 minutes
2nd nap 12.30ish for 1.5 to 2 hours
3rd nap between 4 to 5 for 15 minutes ( if she doesn't have this one, she is a moo to get to go down at night )
Lots of activities. She is already cruising around the furniture.
Agree with what has been said already (although I can't remember precise dates miniBill dropped sleeps) IIRC he was only on one sleep during the day at that stage.
If you do do the controlled crying thing (as people has said it's tough but worthwhile) it's important to remember that you're not making her cry, you're letting her cry. And they will, at times it'll sound like someone's in there stabbing them so send your SWMBO out.
If you do do the controlled crying thing (as people has said it's tough but worthwhile) it's important to remember that you're not making her cry, you're letting her cry. And they will, at times it'll sound like someone's in there stabbing them so send your SWMBO out.
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