Pregnant and Bleeding
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hi
My Partner is 12 weeks pregnant, and started bleeding lightly on Sunday evening. This got heavier through to last night, when she had cramps - she says like a light period - I would not know! This morning she went to the loo and some clots came out. We had spoken to the hospital yesterday and today we have been in to A&E who have shrugged their shoulders and booked her in for a scan tommorow.
This leaves is in for something of a rough night. Clearly we would very much not like to have lost the baby, but she was convinced as of this morning that this had happened. We have been reading books, checking sites etc. and seen that there are some people who have experienced this and had healthy babies.
Is there anyone with medical knowledge who would be able to help us - are we right to get our hopes up or is this a longshot and simply setting us up for a fall. Feeling quite down as you can imagine and not really getting a lot of anything done today!
My Partner is 12 weeks pregnant, and started bleeding lightly on Sunday evening. This got heavier through to last night, when she had cramps - she says like a light period - I would not know! This morning she went to the loo and some clots came out. We had spoken to the hospital yesterday and today we have been in to A&E who have shrugged their shoulders and booked her in for a scan tommorow.
This leaves is in for something of a rough night. Clearly we would very much not like to have lost the baby, but she was convinced as of this morning that this had happened. We have been reading books, checking sites etc. and seen that there are some people who have experienced this and had healthy babies.
Is there anyone with medical knowledge who would be able to help us - are we right to get our hopes up or is this a longshot and simply setting us up for a fall. Feeling quite down as you can imagine and not really getting a lot of anything done today!
It's not completely out of the question that it's a threatened miscarriage as the symptoms you've described, (including the cramps- though it tends to be less heavy bleeding), are compatible with this and indeed happens in around a third of ultimately successful pregnancies. However, without wanting to get your hopes up too much, it is equally possible there has been a complete(or incomplete) miscarriage. Even if this is the case try not to be too disheartened, my wife had three miscarriages before her first successul pregnancy and subsequently her second (both these pregnancies involved threatened miscarriages by the way) and we now have two healthy kids.
All the best for tomorrow and even it is the worst scenario remember it's not the end.
All the best for tomorrow and even it is the worst scenario remember it's not the end.
Thanks Guys - I am grateful, even though I am not saying much. It all seems so vague it's hard to know what to expect, other than a bad nights sleep. I was expecting this morning for A&E to pull out a scanning machine alla Casualty style, but obviously not to be!
Seems all we can do is keep our fingers crossed, but be wise to be prepared for the worst this time.
Seems all we can do is keep our fingers crossed, but be wise to be prepared for the worst this time.
Sorry to hear of the difficulty you are having
In the midst of the pessimism my SOH and I were convinced she was having a miscarriage at 9 weeks
Symptoms much as you have described
The wait for the scan the next day was unbearable and amazingly it showed a foetus with attitude!!!!
Much like the attitude now shown by our eldest several years afterwards
Conversely we also have later experience of a miscarriage for real
That time wasnt at all painful, just persistant and very obvious when it happened
Good luck, and more importantly best wishes for your partner - either way she'll need you
Cheers
Lemmonie said:
It is surprisingly common as well. I think one in every three pregnancies ends in miscarraige. To be fair most very early on.
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It's probably even higher than this (especially including those where the lady didn't know she was pregnant).x
Probably easier said than done, but there's a good argument that you shouldn't really even consider yourself pregnant till you pass 12 weeks.
jessica said:
Nothing you do will change the situation. please just make sure whatever happens you look after each other.
parapaul said:
Miscarriage is nature's way of saying something wasn't right though.
OP,Those two quotes are the best advice/info I have seen on PH. Please take note of them.
Especially the "look after each other" that Jessica said.
Best wishes to you and your wife.
So sorry to hear this.
Sadly we very rarely know why it happens and that seems to be one of the main things people want to know.
Miscarriage is unfortunately a lot more common that most people realise. Reports vary depending on when they classify "pregnancy" but it's approximately 1:3.
As has been said look after eachother, it's physically and emotionally draining, especially with it being at 12 weeks, just the time that people tend to start making it public knowledge. Hopefully you both have good support from friends and family.
Best wishes to you both and good luck in the future.
Sadly we very rarely know why it happens and that seems to be one of the main things people want to know.
Miscarriage is unfortunately a lot more common that most people realise. Reports vary depending on when they classify "pregnancy" but it's approximately 1:3.
As has been said look after eachother, it's physically and emotionally draining, especially with it being at 12 weeks, just the time that people tend to start making it public knowledge. Hopefully you both have good support from friends and family.
Best wishes to you both and good luck in the future.
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