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Maybe this is just me being stupid but... do you believe in them?
A few years ago my Dad had a series of 'mini' heart attacks - he'd just black out and fall over. It took the hospital a while to figure it out (even though I was telling them all along it was his heart!) anyway, they did (after a big one) and he now has a pacemaker
But apart from the 1st one - every time he had one, I was home with migraine; and the first one I was on my way home from work with a migraine attack. Migraines that cleared the moment I had to go to the hospital (not a 'normal' behaviour for a migraine).
Dad is not a well man, he's had several large heart attacks, and those small ones, He's had diest controlled diabetes since he was 55 (20 years!); his short term memory is going - which is a bit worrying... Those that know him can see him ageing
And we don't let him drive on his own very often as he can get lost (it took him 4 hours to drive from Tamworth to Solihull a couple of months ago - whcih is straight down the M42 a 30 mintue journey).
Sorry, I'm rambling, but I'm a bit shaken. For the last week I've been - well - back in the depths of my depression again, I'm not sure why. The past few nights I've been having bad 'flash' dreams about my parents going on a cruise around the Baltic that they've booked for May/June So bad that this morning I've been lying awake crying since 4am, as in this one it reached its conculsion - and neither of them come home. Something happened to Mum and Dad went with her.
Mum has been ill for the last couple of days - I found out yesterday. She says it is just trapped wind, but she's had pains in her chest and sickness.
I've just rung to check on her, and she's been up all night, to the extent that they are on their way to the hospital to get her checked out
She says it is just Dad being overly protective, but has asked me if I'm doing anything today, and if not would I maybe go and buy her a couple of nightdresses later today, if needed if they keep her in. That is not like her!
I know they are doing the right thing, but - I'm scared.
A few years ago my Dad had a series of 'mini' heart attacks - he'd just black out and fall over. It took the hospital a while to figure it out (even though I was telling them all along it was his heart!) anyway, they did (after a big one) and he now has a pacemaker
But apart from the 1st one - every time he had one, I was home with migraine; and the first one I was on my way home from work with a migraine attack. Migraines that cleared the moment I had to go to the hospital (not a 'normal' behaviour for a migraine).
Dad is not a well man, he's had several large heart attacks, and those small ones, He's had diest controlled diabetes since he was 55 (20 years!); his short term memory is going - which is a bit worrying... Those that know him can see him ageing
And we don't let him drive on his own very often as he can get lost (it took him 4 hours to drive from Tamworth to Solihull a couple of months ago - whcih is straight down the M42 a 30 mintue journey).Sorry, I'm rambling, but I'm a bit shaken. For the last week I've been - well - back in the depths of my depression again, I'm not sure why. The past few nights I've been having bad 'flash' dreams about my parents going on a cruise around the Baltic that they've booked for May/June
So bad that this morning I've been lying awake crying since 4am, as in this one it reached its conculsion - and neither of them come home. Something happened to Mum and Dad went with her.Mum has been ill for the last couple of days - I found out yesterday. She says it is just trapped wind, but she's had pains in her chest and sickness.
I've just rung to check on her, and she's been up all night, to the extent that they are on their way to the hospital to get her checked out
She says it is just Dad being overly protective, but has asked me if I'm doing anything today, and if not would I maybe go and buy her a couple of nightdresses later today, if needed if they keep her in. That is not like her!
I know they are doing the right thing, but - I'm scared.
Well at least they are doing the right thing and going to hospital to get things checked out and hopefully they can pinpoint what is causing your mum so much discomfort.
I also lost my nan to a heart attack (my nan practically raised me from a 3yr old) so I understand what you are going through and your anguish.
You know where I am if you need me Ali, just pick the phone up.
I also lost my nan to a heart attack (my nan practically raised me from a 3yr old) so I understand what you are going through and your anguish.
You know where I am if you need me Ali, just pick the phone up.
That is something - they refused to go yesterday - don't like to make a fuss 
xTry to stop worrying, i know that sounds easy, but if its going to happen then its going to happen. If you went to your mum and dad and said'I don't want you to go on holiday cos I had a dream you wouldn't come back' would they not think your slightly loopy, say 'nothing is going to happen' and go anyway?
Its good that your worried, it means you care but there is a time where you have to let them do their own thing and just worry quietly in the background. Its a role reversal thing from being a kid! I worry everythim my mum and dad are away, or even don't answer their phones, as my mum is very ill and my dad has had heart troubles but I have to remind myself that when they cotton-wool me, I go mad, so I have to return the favour. It sounds terrible but I would rather something happened to them whilst they were out enjoying themselves than being stuck at home.
As for the dreams etc it can be a horrible loop, you have one bad dream so it plays on your mind during the day, so its in your brain as you sleep so you dream it again and it goes round and round. You have to try to break the cycle, if that makes sense. Also, don't forget, the chemicals in your body are all over the place and that doesn't help anything
HTH
Apologies for spelling/grammer, I seem to have someones elses fingers on today!
Its good that your worried, it means you care but there is a time where you have to let them do their own thing and just worry quietly in the background. Its a role reversal thing from being a kid! I worry everythim my mum and dad are away, or even don't answer their phones, as my mum is very ill and my dad has had heart troubles but I have to remind myself that when they cotton-wool me, I go mad, so I have to return the favour. It sounds terrible but I would rather something happened to them whilst they were out enjoying themselves than being stuck at home.
As for the dreams etc it can be a horrible loop, you have one bad dream so it plays on your mind during the day, so its in your brain as you sleep so you dream it again and it goes round and round. You have to try to break the cycle, if that makes sense. Also, don't forget, the chemicals in your body are all over the place and that doesn't help anything
HTH
Apologies for spelling/grammer, I seem to have someones elses fingers on today!
Morning Ali Kat............Been away this weekend so sorry for replying to your post late.
One thing to remember whilst your are suffering from any form of depression.Your normal ways of dealing with emotional issues changes. Everything you are feeling can be explained medically and backed up with many other stories and clinical reports.It is only half the picture. Anti depressants only dull part of the brain and chemicaly controls the symptoms of your condition. Sevearal years ago i was away from work with the same thing for about 3months. I got to the point where if there was a lot of noise in the house or around me i could hear voices shouting to me. Very clear and very specific. I went back to my docs and saw a younger doctor who at first was writting notes as i spoke, about paronoid schitsophrenia ( Dreadfull at spelling so bear with me) After about half an hour and establishing only good things were been said to me he scrapped that idea. I started to have premonitions, even having people appear in the house which was scarry!!!!! The doctor explained that my brain was working at a different level. My perseptiveness had changed and what i was seeing and hearing were very much real. We are all born with a "3rd" eye, we simply loose it and most never feel it again. However, some, through many reasons partially get it back. In answer to your post, yes i believe. You canot influence the outcome of your dreams. The strange thing for me was my interpretation of mine was always wrong!!! Your Mum and Dads trip may have a delayed return. Your Mum might miss the bus back to the hotel and your Dad may be with her. Dont think the worst as we are invareably wrong. Think positive not negative. Please also consider seeing a Homeopathic Practitioner to get you away from the prescription drugs. They dont help long term. Speaking from experience.........PM if you want to talk.
Steve.
PS.......Please remember you are not alone in your feelings. Talking about my depression and finding the root cause helped me to overcome it. Through homeopathic remedies i am now more in tune with my emotions and it helps to deal with things before i fall back...........And have i needed that in the last few months and will for years to come!!!!!. Take care and stay focused on the positives.
One thing to remember whilst your are suffering from any form of depression.Your normal ways of dealing with emotional issues changes. Everything you are feeling can be explained medically and backed up with many other stories and clinical reports.It is only half the picture. Anti depressants only dull part of the brain and chemicaly controls the symptoms of your condition. Sevearal years ago i was away from work with the same thing for about 3months. I got to the point where if there was a lot of noise in the house or around me i could hear voices shouting to me. Very clear and very specific. I went back to my docs and saw a younger doctor who at first was writting notes as i spoke, about paronoid schitsophrenia ( Dreadfull at spelling so bear with me
) After about half an hour and establishing only good things were been said to me he scrapped that idea. I started to have premonitions, even having people appear in the house which was scarry!!!!! The doctor explained that my brain was working at a different level. My perseptiveness had changed and what i was seeing and hearing were very much real. We are all born with a "3rd" eye, we simply loose it and most never feel it again. However, some, through many reasons partially get it back. In answer to your post, yes i believe. You canot influence the outcome of your dreams. The strange thing for me was my interpretation of mine was always wrong!!! Your Mum and Dads trip may have a delayed return. Your Mum might miss the bus back to the hotel and your Dad may be with her. Dont think the worst as we are invareably wrong. Think positive not negative. Please also consider seeing a Homeopathic Practitioner to get you away from the prescription drugs. They dont help long term. Speaking from experience.........PM if you want to talk. Steve.
PS.......Please remember you are not alone in your feelings. Talking about my depression and finding the root cause helped me to overcome it. Through homeopathic remedies i am now more in tune with my emotions and it helps to deal with things before i fall back...........And have i needed that in the last few months and will for years to come!!!!!. Take care and stay focused on the positives.
Mad Mitch makes some great points. When our emotions are heightened as they can by though anxiety (depression and anxiety/stress are at each end of a sliding scale and when suffering from one there is always a varying degree of the other) we tend to see things differently. Premonitons are probably just expressions of our inner fears and anxieties, often expressed at times when they are appropriate. I would strongly suggest you get some counselling to allow you to discuss your fears, and re-orientate them in the map of your emotions so they don't take such a prominent position. I have little or no experience of the benefits of homeopathy - except for a lady who tried homeopathic treatment for breast cancer, and rapidly died. If it works for you, go for it, because in the end, whichever treatment helps, that's the right one!
This used to be the P&P, didn't it?...
out of his office in time to get to his afternoon round of golf, implied that everyone has this 3rd eye and that you were just fine? Buddhist monks claim to use the 3rd eye to see people's aura FFS. As far as I know, seeing imaginary people is not a normal thing.
I would advise anyone who is hearing voices or having hallucinations seek a proper mental health specialist - soon.
Mad Mitch said:
I started to have premonitions, even having people appear in the house which was scarry!!!!! The doctor explained that my brain was working at a different level. My perseptiveness had changed and what i was seeing and hearing were very much real. We are all born with a "3rd" eye, we simply loose it and most never feel it again. However, some, through many reasons partially get it back.
So your doctor, in a bid to get the mad wierdo out of his office in time to get to his afternoon round of golf, implied that everyone has this 3rd eye and that you were just fine? Buddhist monks claim to use the 3rd eye to see people's aura FFS. As far as I know, seeing imaginary people is not a normal thing. I would advise anyone who is hearing voices or having hallucinations seek a proper mental health specialist - soon.
Oh dear.......Everything in your world has to be black or white then. The op asked if any one believed. I do.You obviously dont, fair comment. I am however far from mad. Yea ok.Go see a mental health expert. But also look at the bigger picture. If a person has a gift to feel or see things, it doesnt mean they are barking just because we cant!!! The point remains that I believe there are things we will never fully understand but am 100% sure they excist. You are one of the many that as it cant be proven it doesnt.End of. I guess ghosts and bumps in the night are on your " Mad and wierd" list as well then. I know this is a subject that will see me as the loser in a discussion forum. Ali Kat.......Do i believe, yes i do. However, as i said in my previous post, dont look at the negative side of your premonitions. That is just human nature. Remain positive and recall them in that "Positive" frame of mind. Look at happy outcomes. Take care.
steve.
steve.
Glad to hear all's ok with your mum. I'm not an expert when it comes to premonitions by any stretch but I wonder whether what you and your mum have been experiencing is more stress related and resultant from your concerns about your dad.
My dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer a few years ago, given the all clear and then rediagnosed a few months ago. Naturally it plays on your mind and I tend to go through phases where I constantly stress about him and worst case scenarios and the like. Given what you've said about depression, maybe it would be a good time to think about therapy?
All the best
D
My dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer a few years ago, given the all clear and then rediagnosed a few months ago. Naturally it plays on your mind and I tend to go through phases where I constantly stress about him and worst case scenarios and the like. Given what you've said about depression, maybe it would be a good time to think about therapy?
All the best
D
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