Anyone else had enough?

[sociopath]

I'm not talking about depression or anxiety, I've had those over the years so know what they feel like.

I'm just thinking, I'm 61, physically bits are failing, I wake up every morning with aches and pains in my knees, shoulders and neck, and a bad headache caused by my neck issues, and I honestly don't think I want to do this for the next 20 or 30 years.

I have plenty of hobbies and an active social life, love my wife to bits, but honestly not sure why I should keep going beyond that.

Both my parents, and my FiL have died over the last 3 years all from cancer, and I just wonder, why keep going in pain to then suffer a painful demise?

So, my basic question, does anyone else feel anything similar, or is it just me?

[Doofus]

Change your mattress and pillow/s, then report back in a month.

[sociopath]

Doofus said:

Change your mattress and pillow/s, then report back in a month.

Been there, done that.

I blame the head banging as a teenager

[Depthhoar]

How physically active are you? Regular physical activity, where you get out of breath, can really help lift your mood and over the long term improve your physical condition and possibly the quality of your sleep.

I have various muscular/skeletal issues (wear & tear but also some long-term injuries) that always improve with exercise. I need to be very fit in order to do my job and therefore have to keep on top of my various physical ailments all the time. I'm more or less pain-free during the winter months but tend to suffer a bit during the summer. Common sense suggests it should be the other way around but it's definitely not.

You don't need to go mad on the exercise front (not advocating training for a marathon or such like) but keeping up a regular regime of meaningful exercise where you get out of breath might just help.

Also, think about some weight-bearing activity to maintain or slightly improve your muscle mass since it's more than likely you're suffering the effects of age-related sarcopenia. Better muscle condition will help protect joints in your back and legs.

BTW I'm no spring chicken either (actually a few years older than you).

[Piginapoke]

Exercise more.

[Mirinjawbro]

sociopath said:

I'm not talking about depression or anxiety, I've had those over the years so know what they feel like.

I'm just thinking, I'm 61, physically bits are failing, I wake up every morning with aches and pains in my knees, shoulders and neck, and a bad headache caused by my neck issues, and I honestly don't think I want to do this for the next 20 or 30 years.

I have plenty of hobbies and an active social life, love my wife to bits, but honestly not sure why I should keep going beyond that.

Both my parents, and my FiL have died over the last 3 years all from cancer, and I just wonder, why keep going in pain to then suffer a painful demise?

So, my basic question, does anyone else feel anything similar, or is it just me?

height / weight?

do you take supplements? fish oils etc? even if they help 5% its worth it for the price

[sociopath]

So to answer a few questions, I'm not depressed, I know what that feels like. I'm also not contemplating anything drastic or terminal. I reckon it's just getting old that sucks


I'm 6'3" and weigh about 15 stone, so while I could lose a few pounds I'm not significantly overweight.
I also exercise regularly - cycling (indoor or out dependent on weather) 3 times a week, and while I'm not olympic level, I work hard at it, rather than pootle along, so I'm definitely out of breath and knackered when I've finished. I also take the dog out twice a day.

[bloomen]

Your body's only going one way.

Sever certain vital bits pathways in your spine, enter the Metaverse and remain in there.

[croyde]

Feel the same mate. 60, living on my own, very lonely and money getting tight.

I work, which stops me going mad, gives me a reason to get up, eat breakfast, pack a lunch then pop to Tesco's for my dinner ingredients on the way home.

Sit in flat and worry about having the heating on.

So it's like being a pensioner but with more money coming in.

No idea how I'll survive once forced to retire through ill health or redundancy.

I do wonder what's the point now.

[sociopath]

croyde said:

Feel the same mate. 60, living on my own, very lonely and money getting tight.

I work, which stops me going mad, gives me a reason to get up, eat breakfast, pack a lunch then pop to Tesco's for my dinner ingredients on the way home.

Sit in flat and worry about having the heating on.

So it's like being a pensioner but with more money coming in.

No idea how I'll survive once forced to retire through ill health or redundancy.

I do wonder what's the point now.

You have my sympathy, I at least have my wife and my dog, and don't need to work, but what I'm holding on for, apart from sunny days out in the car, I'm not sure

[mcelliott]

Cycling does fk all for joints and posture, get in the weight room, add muscle and strengthen joints at the same time then throw in some swimming.

Also get some early morning sun on your face, take some walks amongst nature, proven to lift mood.

Edited by mcelliott on Tuesday 6th December 13:15

[dundarach]

Yes, 50 last month, now older than my dad.

No time for myself, life full or arguing, stress, jobs, bills.

It just goes around and around, all seems a bit pointless really!

[sociopath]

mcelliott said:

Cycling does fk all for joints and posture, get in the weight room, add muscle and strengthen joints at the same time then throw in some swimming.

Also get some early morning sun on your face, take some walks amongst nature, proven to lift mood.

Edited by mcelliott on Tuesday 6th December 13:15

Agreed about cycling that's why I walk the dog, and I do get early morning sun, the dog makes sure.

As I said, my mood doesn't need lifting, it's fine. Just asking if anyone else doesn't see the point of just continuing, seems a few others do looking at a couple of responses.

[MOBB]

Do you have kids?

I don't, aged 50 and have similar thoughts to you sometimes, occasional depression if I don't look after myself properly (food/exercise).

I sometimes think that people with kids have that "purpose" for existing, I never wanted kids and glad I didn't, but I think it does affect your perceived purpose in life.

If you do have kids, ignore the above :-)

[Chainsaw Rebuild]

Can you get your neck and shoulders looked at by an osteopath or chiropractor?

It comes across like of you could mend that you would be much better off.

You could try yoga too.

[Kawasicki]

mcelliott said:

Cycling does fk all for joints and posture, get in the weight room, add muscle and strengthen joints at the same time then throw in some swimming.

Also get some early morning sun on your face, take some walks amongst nature, proven to lift mood.

Edited by mcelliott on Tuesday 6th December 13:15

Good advice.

It's good to give your muscles a hard time.

And I know this sounds harsh, but try to focus on what you can do., find something to do that you are enthusiastic about.

[sociopath]

MOBB said:

Do you have kids?

I don't, aged 50 and have similar thoughts to you sometimes, occasional depression if I don't look after myself properly (food/exercise).

I sometimes think that people with kids have that "purpose" for existing, I never wanted kids and glad I didn't, but I think it does affect your perceived purpose in life.

If you do have kids, ignore the above :-)

No, I'm like you, no kids, so it could certainly be a reason,

[sociopath]

Chainsaw Rebuild said:

Can you get your neck and shoulders looked at by an osteopath or chiropractor?

It comes across like of you could mend that you would be much better off.

You could try yoga too.

I'm seeing a physio for neck knees and shoulders.
My wife is a pilates and yoga. instructor so do a lot of that stuff already

[MOBB]

If you think about it;

- people with kids have the growth of their kids, then grandkids to keep them going
- people without, well my next 20 years will include the death of my 3 dogs, possibly myself or my wife, friends, physical pain increasing generally, untold ilnesses etc etc

Positive fker, me lol

It must make a difference, having kids?

[Kawasicki]

MOBB said:

It must make a difference, having kids?

Yes the years of not sleeping enough accelerated the aging process.

On the other hand my kids make me laugh.