Making new friends approaching 40?
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mike9009 said:
It's been discussed around before, but pick an interest and join a club. Volunteer for stuff.
This definitely.
mike9009 said:
Or have kids....
Yes. My wife suddenly introduced me to the husbands of large numbers of people she had met through various child groups and then school. 
M1AGM said:
Take up a sport and join a club? Some sports are more inclusive than others. Whereabouts in the country do you reside?
I’m close to the Lake District. Only issue with sports is that I have had eye surgery that has meant I need to be careful with exertion as it increases my eye pressure. Bit of a downer! Haha
CountVacillate said:
M1AGM said:
Take up a sport and join a club? Some sports are more inclusive than others. Whereabouts in the country do you reside?
I’m close to the Lake District. Only issue with sports is that I have had eye surgery that has meant I need to be careful with exertion as it increases my eye pressure. Bit of a downer! Haha
What about motorcycles or interesting cars, do you partake in either of those hobbies?
Volunteering? Amateur dramatics?
As a side note, as a father with 2 kids, the ‘make friends through your kids’ makes me smile. Schools always have the groups of parents who are desperately looking to make friends/social climb through their kids and it is always cringe stuff. What these adults fail to understand is their kids will make friends with the kids they want to be friends with, not who the parents want them to be friends with, no matter how much they try to influence and cajole them. It can be proper car crash stuff, hilarious to watch from the sidelines.
CountVacillate said:
Petrus1983 said:
Go to your local. Sit at bar. Be interesting but not overly interested. Make friends. HTH.
I’d feel a right prat, that’s just not me at all. Even if I’m waiting to meet someone I hate sitting alone in a pub for 5 mins! https://www.meetup.com/
I went on it when I first moved to France and have met some really lovely people who I still consider friends 10 years since leaving there. Don’t confuse it with dating sites as it definitely isn’t.
Take up new hobbies which lead to group learning or joint training. For example look for group learn sessions for golf. It was a handy way to meet some alternate players way back when.
Volunteering, the folk on Facebook doing good for charity of nature seem to be full of friendships.
Go pull anti climate protestors from road surfaces, you will become popular quickly if on the news!
Volunteering, the folk on Facebook doing good for charity of nature seem to be full of friendships.
Go pull anti climate protestors from road surfaces, you will become popular quickly if on the news!
M1AGM said:
As a side note, as a father with 2 kids, the ‘make friends through your kids’ makes me smile. Schools always have the groups of parents who are desperately looking to make friends/social climb through their kids and it is always cringe stuff.
Really? It's always like this, is it? Alternatively, some people are just friendly and people tend to gravitate towards people similar to themselves, if they exist, of course. Some people just stand aloof.
M1AGM said:
It can be proper car crash stuff, hilarious to watch from the sidelines.
Right.... Petrus1983 said:
Ok - my next suggestion is this then -
https://www.meetup.com/
I went on it when I first moved to France and have met some really lovely people who I still consider friends 10 years since leaving there. Don’t confuse it with dating sites as it definitely isn’t.
It seems to be predominantly North American.https://www.meetup.com/
I went on it when I first moved to France and have met some really lovely people who I still consider friends 10 years since leaving there. Don’t confuse it with dating sites as it definitely isn’t.
The gym can be good.
I don't mean the backstreet steroid filled muscle man sawdust and sweat hellhole. (Unless that does it for you?)
I mean the local leisure centre/David lloyd etc..
So as well as getting fit there can be a lot of friendly lycra clad eye candy around.
Amateur dramatics/operatics and similar team/group stuff is also very good.
If you are a healthy reasonable looking man who can sing or act a bit you will be like a Greek God at your local operatic group.
Men are generally in the minority and welcomed with open arms and enthusiastic heaving thespian bosoms.
I've met many very 'welcoming' ladies over the years doing this..
I don't mean the backstreet steroid filled muscle man sawdust and sweat hellhole. (Unless that does it for you?)
I mean the local leisure centre/David lloyd etc..
So as well as getting fit there can be a lot of friendly lycra clad eye candy around.
Amateur dramatics/operatics and similar team/group stuff is also very good.
If you are a healthy reasonable looking man who can sing or act a bit you will be like a Greek God at your local operatic group.
Men are generally in the minority and welcomed with open arms and enthusiastic heaving thespian bosoms.
I've met many very 'welcoming' ladies over the years doing this..
Edited by peterperkins on Wednesday 3rd November 08:15
As above, arrange something that involves your own hobby. You're at least guaranteed to meet people that share one of your interests, vaguely.
A local pub car meet arranged on PH will easily bring in some people you can awkwardly chat to in a car park, and the odd one of them may be a normal human
If you're ever in / around Northampton / Milton Keynes, I'm up for a beer
A local pub car meet arranged on PH will easily bring in some people you can awkwardly chat to in a car park, and the odd one of them may be a normal human
If you're ever in / around Northampton / Milton Keynes, I'm up for a beer
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