PMS - Getting Worse
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Serious question. Does PMS get worse as women age? My wife has always had it bad, but the last couple of years it has become unbearable. She is like a tinderbox, the slightest thing I do or say wrong, or dont do and boom she explodes. Im currently into day 2 of her not talking to me, except to WhatsApp me messages of all the things I have done wrong, and what a b
d I am.
But let me be clear, I am not a bd. Im being shouted at because the weekend in the heatwave I was digging foots for a new deck, because of the heat, I couldn't finish, and now Im a total st bag because the garden is a mess, and she doesnt want a deck she wanted a patio, and she cant tell me because once I get an idea in my head I wont change, and we should have paid someone to do it.
Last night I couldn't find my glasses, I wear them all the time, but I took them off to rub my eyes, wandered off and couldnt find them. I said where are my glasses, and she said what you've lost your glasses, the glasses you wear. I said yes, I had them a minute ago, she said the glasses on your face, now at this point I'm on the floor about 1.5m away from her. I grumpily replied, they are not on my fking face right now, are they. That turned into , I shouted in her face, I'm a bully, it was "literal violence".
Today I also got told she is sick of hearing about how much I earn. As if I talk about it all the time, which I don't. She quit her job when we had kids, then retrained and picked and chose between scores of jobs, until she found one she liked, whilst I paid for everything and made something of myself.
Sorry I am ranting now, but its pissing me off being treated like this for 2-3 days each month. Once i realised it was on a monthly repeat I had started to block it out, but sometimes its impossible, like this month.
If I suggest this to her it would probably be the death of me. But is this PMS getting worse, is it something more than that? Am I actually an ahole?
ETA - I should also point out that we are 7 days into a 10 quarantine after my daughter tested positive for the rona. I'm quite happy at home, whereas she is someone who likes to get out everyday, so that probably doesn't help.
d I am. But let me be clear, I am not a b
d. Im being shouted at because the weekend in the heatwave I was digging foots for a new deck, because of the heat, I couldn't finish, and now Im a total st bag because the garden is a mess, and she doesnt want a deck she wanted a patio, and she cant tell me because once I get an idea in my head I wont change, and we should have paid someone to do it.Last night I couldn't find my glasses, I wear them all the time, but I took them off to rub my eyes, wandered off and couldnt find them. I said where are my glasses, and she said what you've lost your glasses, the glasses you wear. I said yes, I had them a minute ago, she said the glasses on your face, now at this point I'm on the floor about 1.5m away from her. I grumpily replied, they are not on my f
king face right now, are they. That turned into , I shouted in her face, I'm a bully, it was "literal violence". Today I also got told she is sick of hearing about how much I earn. As if I talk about it all the time, which I don't. She quit her job when we had kids, then retrained and picked and chose between scores of jobs, until she found one she liked, whilst I paid for everything and made something of myself.
Sorry I am ranting now, but its pissing me off being treated like this for 2-3 days each month. Once i realised it was on a monthly repeat I had started to block it out, but sometimes its impossible, like this month.
If I suggest this to her it would probably be the death of me. But is this PMS getting worse, is it something more than that? Am I actually an a
hole?ETA - I should also point out that we are 7 days into a 10 quarantine after my daughter tested positive for the rona. I'm quite happy at home, whereas she is someone who likes to get out everyday, so that probably doesn't help.
Edited by Scabutz on Thursday 22 July 22:13
Terminator X said:
Sounds like married life to me 
TX.
PMS is a made up thing. Does not exist. TX.
Made up to excuse the s
tty behaviour of men. According to.my wife and her sister. It must be a fact. Because they said it. And everything they think is fact. And any other rational theories are in fact lies by.men.
To the OP: wait until.the menopause.
I have no advice. I'm f
ked if I have any solution apart from the obvious. You can't l live with them.and you can't kill them (legally) but you won't live without them..so you are f
ked. What I will say is once you start apologising, it only enforces that she was entirely reasonable. So it will never change.
I can imagine how being in isolation doesn't help, I recently did the 10 days myself after getting Covid and I felt probably around the 7 day mark I was starting to lost the plot a bit. That said if it's a regular occurrence is it something she is willing to or has seen a doctor about?
Jamescrs said:
I can imagine how being in isolation doesn't help, I recently did the 10 days myself after getting Covid and I felt probably around the 7 day mark I was starting to lost the plot a bit. That said if it's a regular occurrence is it something she is willing to or has seen a doctor about?
If the examples of friends is common, then unfortunately one of the symptoms is not accepting there is a problem
wsurfa said:
Jamescrs said:
I can imagine how being in isolation doesn't help, I recently did the 10 days myself after getting Covid and I felt probably around the 7 day mark I was starting to lost the plot a bit. That said if it's a regular occurrence is it something she is willing to or has seen a doctor about?
If the examples of friends is common, then unfortunately one of the symptoms is not accepting there is a problemYou need to calmly tell her she's being unreasonable and offensive, and possibly have to illustrate. She may not appreciate how you're taking it.
There may be good reasons why she is but it's no more acceptable than you having a bad day at work then coming home and knocking her about.
There may be good reasons why she is but it's no more acceptable than you having a bad day at work then coming home and knocking her about.
just because she is hormonal doesn't make it right or acceptable that she abuses and takes it out on a partner.
Certainly if men abused women and claimed it was hormones, that definitely would be considered wrong and unacceptable......
They have a choice to take it out on you or deal with their emotions in a more healthy way. The fact so many choose to take it out on their partner instead, shows a lack of respect IMO.
Certainly if men abused women and claimed it was hormones, that definitely would be considered wrong and unacceptable......
They have a choice to take it out on you or deal with their emotions in a more healthy way. The fact so many choose to take it out on their partner instead, shows a lack of respect IMO.
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