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Low libido
New relationship, already struggling, don't want to take supplements as they have bad side effects, it's really hard to admit, and very difficult on a partner too, but for some reason I am just not that bothered about sex! Not the first time.
Anyone else had this, I know it's common and a sore point, but any basics in advice or supplements with no side effects would be greatly received, coz this lass is great and she is gone if this ain't sorted, as I have been here before.
Thanks in advance.
New relationship, already struggling, don't want to take supplements as they have bad side effects, it's really hard to admit, and very difficult on a partner too, but for some reason I am just not that bothered about sex! Not the first time.
Anyone else had this, I know it's common and a sore point, but any basics in advice or supplements with no side effects would be greatly received, coz this lass is great and she is gone if this ain't sorted, as I have been here before.
Thanks in advance.
Two things
I think porn maybe, I don't watch much, but it is all I have done sexually for years, devoid of long term relationships for years. And also find it harder to get off watching it too, weirdly.
And regarding second post, I am just not that interested, can get hard but never stays and haven't completed with a woman for a long time, last two girlfriends. That is probably porn as you get that cheap, awful, pathetic thrill for a few seconds and it's gone, in ridiculous circumstances, so that's a start.
Am a bit overweight, not much, don't smoke or drink.
Just doesn't seem to be that important sadly. And it should be
I think porn maybe, I don't watch much, but it is all I have done sexually for years, devoid of long term relationships for years. And also find it harder to get off watching it too, weirdly.
And regarding second post, I am just not that interested, can get hard but never stays and haven't completed with a woman for a long time, last two girlfriends. That is probably porn as you get that cheap, awful, pathetic thrill for a few seconds and it's gone, in ridiculous circumstances, so that's a start.
Am a bit overweight, not much, don't smoke or drink.
Just doesn't seem to be that important sadly. And it should be
Thinking about the problem and worrying about it will raise stress which makes it worse.
Knock the porn on the head totally, it only takes about a week or so for most of the effects to wear off and your full sacks will give you another problem, you won't last long.
Try a bit of a change of diet and drinking habits if you think that may help, look into what to eat if you want to maximise payload.
Knock the porn on the head totally, it only takes about a week or so for most of the effects to wear off and your full sacks will give you another problem, you won't last long.
Try a bit of a change of diet and drinking habits if you think that may help, look into what to eat if you want to maximise payload.
A500leroy said:
Luke, its fine, some people just dont want to do it. If its that important to your new partner, then shes not the right one.
that's very true for some!OP - please don't let this advice stop you from finding out if something is actually wrong, some good pointers to look at thus far I'd say.
I am a little overweight, but not much. Don't eat amazingly well, but not junk food or takeaways etc.
This has been a problem for years, in fact most of my adult life other than short periods, have never really been that interested in the bedroom scene! I don't know why, I enjoy it yes, but always been problematic which leads to tension and apprehension even if it is largely subliminal, am always honest about it with partners, but it obviously is not a desirable fact.
I don't really want to take supplements as I feel the side effects are not great.
Am not stressed really dont drink, no fags. So can only put it down to very low libido and praps taking a break from porn, though I only perhaps do that once or twice a week!
This has been a problem for years, in fact most of my adult life other than short periods, have never really been that interested in the bedroom scene! I don't know why, I enjoy it yes, but always been problematic which leads to tension and apprehension even if it is largely subliminal, am always honest about it with partners, but it obviously is not a desirable fact.
I don't really want to take supplements as I feel the side effects are not great.
Am not stressed really dont drink, no fags. So can only put it down to very low libido and praps taking a break from porn, though I only perhaps do that once or twice a week!
LukeBrown66 said:
I am a little overweight, but not much. Don't eat amazingly well, but not junk food or takeaways etc.
This has been a problem for years, in fact most of my adult life other than short periods, have never really been that interested in the bedroom scene! I don't know why, I enjoy it yes, but always been problematic which leads to tension and apprehension even if it is largely subliminal, am always honest about it with partners, but it obviously is not a desirable fact.
I don't really want to take supplements as I feel the side effects are not great.
Am not stressed really dont drink, no fags. So can only put it down to very low libido and praps taking a break from porn, though I only perhaps do that once or twice a week!
You might not think it but type of food intake makes a massive difference. This has been a problem for years, in fact most of my adult life other than short periods, have never really been that interested in the bedroom scene! I don't know why, I enjoy it yes, but always been problematic which leads to tension and apprehension even if it is largely subliminal, am always honest about it with partners, but it obviously is not a desirable fact.
I don't really want to take supplements as I feel the side effects are not great.
Am not stressed really dont drink, no fags. So can only put it down to very low libido and praps taking a break from porn, though I only perhaps do that once or twice a week!
Given New Year is a few days away it’s as good a time as any to prepare all meals from scratch. Healthy meals.
Also go to bed early say 9:30pm every night - lots of decent rest too makes a difference. (For all things).
Another serious question is maybe you are Bi or totally gay and this is the way your body is telling you.
Or why not start with sex come morning glory.
Maybe foreplay is lacking- maybe you are extremely naive in the bedroom maybe you are oversexed (though first post appears that is not the case).
Maybe counselling is the way - possibly you have something mentally driven which can be investigated and solved.
But do the weight diet no booze home made food no processed food. Get active as normal weight but not fit is just as bad.
These cost you nothing and in a few weeks/month things may change.
I get what you say about this new lady if you don’t “get it on” she’ll be off ski as clearly it would make her feel that it’s that you simply don’t find her attractive. Also even if not then to many ladies it would be a turn off.
I’ve no idea how telling a lady upfront would work out - personally if I was in that situation I couldn’t I simply couldn’t.
Sex drive like most human traits varies between people. Some are obsessed and have to have it at least once a day but there are people at the other end of the spectrum too. Don’t beat yourself up if that happens to be you. Most people also experience a tailing off of interest in sex as they age.
I think quite a lot of women, especially after menopause, lose their interest in sex. You might be quite a catch for that group, who are looking for a partner for companionship and other reasons rather than sex.
As others have noted, best to have a medical check up if you are really worried to exclude any physical issues.
I think quite a lot of women, especially after menopause, lose their interest in sex. You might be quite a catch for that group, who are looking for a partner for companionship and other reasons rather than sex.
As others have noted, best to have a medical check up if you are really worried to exclude any physical issues.
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