Any tips on trying get someone close to give up weed?
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I’m not looking for judgements on whether it’s harmful or not, accepabke in today’s society etc just wanting some tried and tested ways to persuade someone to give up. Currently the person has to isolate for 14 days due to possible Covid. I’m currently trying reverse psychology but it’s not having any effect, just getting all the usual arguments. It’s obvious they don’t like being called an addict. Any suggestions?
If someone had a real problem with drugs, you aren't likely to be able to persuade them to change. They'll be massively in denial. They'll only change once they've recognised for themselves that they need to change. That often requires a massive crisis that they cannot pretend to themselves hasn't happened or is somehow OK. I'd hazard a guess that the best thing you can do would be to clearly state the harm you think they're doing to themselves and others. No ambiguity, no attempt at reverse psychology manipulation. Just meet it head on. That at least might seed the idea in their head that they've got a problem. If that leads to a rupture in your friendship, so be it. If you think they're genuinely harming themselves, the kindest thing to do is to try to bring it to a head ASAP and if that means precipitating them hitting rock bottom by withdrawing your emotional, financial or physical support, so be it.
If it's just too much use for your tastes and the smell is a bit offensive, but no schizo collapse on the horizon, then perhaps just say "I really hate the smell" and ask them to deal with that because that is the actual extent of the problem.
If it's just too much use for your tastes and the smell is a bit offensive, but no schizo collapse on the horizon, then perhaps just say "I really hate the smell" and ask them to deal with that because that is the actual extent of the problem.
Edited by ATG on Thursday 19th November 02:18
elanfan said:
I’m not looking for judgements on whether it’s harmful or not, accepabke in today’s society etc just wanting some tried and tested ways to persuade someone to give up. Currently the person has to isolate for 14 days due to possible Covid. I’m currently trying reverse psychology but it’s not having any effect, just getting all the usual arguments. It’s obvious they don’t like being called an addict. Any suggestions?
Are you certain it's weed ? Fairly harmless tbh , if it were crack or fentanyl I'd be more concerned but yet to know of anyone addicted to weed . Saying that , with some of the new crap nowadays , who knows what's mixed in with it .fttm said:
Are you certain it's weed ? Fairly harmless tbh , if it were crack or fentanyl I'd be more concerned but yet to know of anyone addicted to weed . Saying that , with some of the new crap nowadays , who knows what's mixed in with it .
I wouldn't say weed is fairly harmless, perhaps if used occasionally but for frequent users it definitely can be harmful.I have a friend who gets really depressed,almost suicidal,when he's on the stuff
Weed is a lot less harmful to physical and mental health than alcohol. Obviously either taken to excess is a problem, like anything taken to excess. If the person in question is managing with life maybe you ought to leave them to it. I have several successful friends who smoke weed regularly and have had no problems whatsoever. Maybe even try it yourself sometime OP so you can see what the fuss is all about.
Telling someone to stop something won’t work if they don’t want to and being able to relax is important for mental health.
Telling someone to stop something won’t work if they don’t want to and being able to relax is important for mental health.
Oakey said:
There's faeces in the ice cube dispensers of restaurants like McDonalds, etc but that doesn't stop people having ice in their drinks either.
Why is there faeces in the ice cube dispenser? Or do you just mean that if you swab everything humans touch you’ll find trace amounts of faeces or whatever on it.
I used to deliver groceries and a shocking number of houses absolutely reek of weed - in quite nice areas too a lot of the time.
Pre covid, i used to refuse to go in the house and told them outright that i don't want to smell of weed and you could tell they were mortified (not angry). I said that i'm a professional driver and don't want to smell of illegal drugs if i get pulled over.
I was being a bit obtuse, but I do wonder if the comments made them more self aware. There was one house with young kids and I almost reported them, wish I had to be honest. They were baked and the passive smoking element alone is a shocking disregard for health.
I don't actually have a problem with it per se, but what annoys me is the blatant disregard for the law and others - houses, cars, high streets - there are seemingly few people that try and hide it.
I don't really have a point to make, but perhaps you could send an anonymous letter from a 'neighbour' complaining of the smell.
Pre covid, i used to refuse to go in the house and told them outright that i don't want to smell of weed and you could tell they were mortified (not angry). I said that i'm a professional driver and don't want to smell of illegal drugs if i get pulled over.
I was being a bit obtuse, but I do wonder if the comments made them more self aware. There was one house with young kids and I almost reported them, wish I had to be honest. They were baked and the passive smoking element alone is a shocking disregard for health.
I don't actually have a problem with it per se, but what annoys me is the blatant disregard for the law and others - houses, cars, high streets - there are seemingly few people that try and hide it.
I don't really have a point to make, but perhaps you could send an anonymous letter from a 'neighbour' complaining of the smell.
I'm pretty impartial with the use, it appears to have some positive affects when used correctly on things such as mental health and anxiety. Unfortunately, it stinks. We left our last rental because the neighbours were just habitual smokers. Any time of day too, any day (as they didn't work, not one of them) Pleasant enough, and relatively friendly. But no thank you, i'm oot.
Weed isn’t addictive. It is called ‘the habit’ for a reason.
Smoking isn’t great for your health anyway and weed is most often mixed with tobacco which is addictive.
Excessive use is subjective
The presence of the smell in the house is not, although nothing a mason jar and a few steps away from the house won’t fix.
Smoking isn’t great for your health anyway and weed is most often mixed with tobacco which is addictive.
Excessive use is subjective
The presence of the smell in the house is not, although nothing a mason jar and a few steps away from the house won’t fix.
elanfan said:
I’m currently trying reverse psychology but it’s not having any effect, just getting all the usual arguments. It’s obvious they don’t like being called an addict. Any suggestions?
So you’ve tried insulting their intelligence and accusing them of being an addict and neither of these strategies brought them onto your side?
All out of ideas
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