Your children and depression.
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At last we now seem to be on a bit of a level.
Some background; my 21 year old son has been battling depression for about 5 years.He was diagnosed 2 years ago.We have had many ups and even more downs,suicide threats,self harming,self medicating with drugs both hard and soft.
He went yo the UK to study,couldn’t cope and spiralled further down.I went to support him for 6 months last year leaving my wife and 19 year old daughter at home in France.We bought him home in January and decided to sell everything in the UK as he can’t cope without the full support of the family.
Pistonheads is an escape for me,Mrs S and I seem to talk of very little else our son’s depression dominates our lives.My daughter is sometimes comes a distant second because she is so confident and assertive.My children are worlds apart emotionally and it’s a very difficult to manage.
At the moment I can’t see a future where my son will be able to live alone and that worries me.
Just needed to get it off my chest,thanks for listening.
Some background; my 21 year old son has been battling depression for about 5 years.He was diagnosed 2 years ago.We have had many ups and even more downs,suicide threats,self harming,self medicating with drugs both hard and soft.
He went yo the UK to study,couldn’t cope and spiralled further down.I went to support him for 6 months last year leaving my wife and 19 year old daughter at home in France.We bought him home in January and decided to sell everything in the UK as he can’t cope without the full support of the family.
Pistonheads is an escape for me,Mrs S and I seem to talk of very little else our son’s depression dominates our lives.My daughter is sometimes comes a distant second because she is so confident and assertive.My children are worlds apart emotionally and it’s a very difficult to manage.
At the moment I can’t see a future where my son will be able to live alone and that worries me.
Just needed to get it off my chest,thanks for listening.
I get from your post that like most parents you just want the best for your kids. The old line about "being a parent is the hardest job in the world" applies to all of us. Just don't beat yourself up about it, it is nobody's "fault". I hope he finds a way through it and you all do as a family.
Kudos to you for providing so much support. I went through the same at that age with both of my parents burying their heads in the sand, calling me lazy, telling me that there was no such thing as mental health. Because of this I am still dealing with the issues 20 years later. With the support you are giving it will go a long way to helping with recovery.
Not all children have all of these symptoms. In fact, most will display different symptoms at different times, and in different settings. Although some children may continue to function reasonably well in structured environments, most children with significant depression will suffer a noticeable change in social activities, loss of interest in school and poor academic performance, or a change in appearance. Children may also begin using drugs or alcohol, especially if they are over age 12.
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kratom mate
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Edited by JenniferChurchillZYc on Friday 27th November 13:31
That sounds really hard. Can you speak to someone? I would say this sounds like this is causing you a degree of depression too.
Keep speaking to your wife. Try and reserve a little bit of time for yourselves, a half hour walk a few times a week.
To look after your son, you need to look after yourselves first.
Both my wife and I have suffered with periods of being down, and I am trying to work out how to indirectly teach my daughter (3) some of the coping methods that I find help (cbt) so hopefully it won't ever be a problem.
Keep speaking to your wife. Try and reserve a little bit of time for yourselves, a half hour walk a few times a week.
To look after your son, you need to look after yourselves first.
Both my wife and I have suffered with periods of being down, and I am trying to work out how to indirectly teach my daughter (3) some of the coping methods that I find help (cbt) so hopefully it won't ever be a problem.
has he tried sustained talking therapies or psychiatrist.
You need to get at the underlying cause of depression (or none-cause) otherwise you are treating symptoms and not causes.
Then I say none-cause I mean fundamental problems such as Bi-Polar, BPD, Things like Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia can also result in depression. Conditions like this cannot be fundamentally fixed, but can be treated/worked with to make their lives better.
Things like unresolved childhood or adulthood trauma and cPTSD can be successfully dealt with using talking therapies.
Simple things like swapping to another medication or dosage can also work. Is he actively being managed by someone.
Of course the current situation isnt helping anyones mental health
I hope you can get it sorted.
Dont worry about venting here - you need to vent somewhere otherwise it could start to do you damage.
You need to get at the underlying cause of depression (or none-cause) otherwise you are treating symptoms and not causes.
Then I say none-cause I mean fundamental problems such as Bi-Polar, BPD, Things like Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia can also result in depression. Conditions like this cannot be fundamentally fixed, but can be treated/worked with to make their lives better.
Things like unresolved childhood or adulthood trauma and cPTSD can be successfully dealt with using talking therapies.
Simple things like swapping to another medication or dosage can also work. Is he actively being managed by someone.
Of course the current situation isnt helping anyones mental health
I hope you can get it sorted.
Dont worry about venting here - you need to vent somewhere otherwise it could start to do you damage.
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