Divorce questions.
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I am into a marriage of 3 years with a 6 month old. Sounds perfect but I feel it was all hasty and I have never felt as comfortable as I should have. I have met someone else and although it has got no further than kissing, we have been talking and we have got very deeply involved. Now, I feel very guilty, but empty in the marriage. I am thinking about walking away and starting from scratch, but I want to know how it all works. What would be the score for me in a divorce court? As far as I am concerned it is me in the wrong and the 150K we have in out house I would give towards the comfort of my wife and baby. I don't feel I could take anything away as it is all my fault.
I'm not looking for judgement, although as a long-standing member, I know what to expect from some. I just need guidance really, and know there are many on here who have been in this situation.
I'm not looking for judgement, although as a long-standing member, I know what to expect from some. I just need guidance really, and know there are many on here who have been in this situation.
Grass, greener, other side, and all that.
f
king pack it in you ahole. You got married and reproduced as an adult. You had the choice to do this. If you leave your child now at six months old they will suffer unbelievably.
You are considering leaving your new wife and baby because you have met someone new. Is your wife purely there to service your selfish requirements or does she deserve better?
Why the fk did you get married?
What makes you think the new tart won't do it to you one day
I hope she does.
f
king pack it in you ahole. You got married and reproduced as an adult. You had the choice to do this. If you leave your child now at six months old they will suffer unbelievably. You are considering leaving your new wife and baby because you have met someone new. Is your wife purely there to service your selfish requirements or does she deserve better?
Why the f
k did you get married?What makes you think the new tart won't do it to you one day
I hope she does.
Pferdestarke said:
Grass, greener, other side, and all that.
fking pack it in you ahole. You got married and reproduced as an adult. You had the choice to do this. If you leave your child now at six months old they will suffer unbelievably.
You are considering leaving your new wife and baby because you have met someone new. Is your wife purely there to service your selfish requirements or does she deserve better?
Why the fk did you get married?
What makes you think the new tart won't do it to you one day
I hope she does.
Sorry OP, I'm with this guy ^^^^f
king pack it in you ahole. You got married and reproduced as an adult. You had the choice to do this. If you leave your child now at six months old they will suffer unbelievably. You are considering leaving your new wife and baby because you have met someone new. Is your wife purely there to service your selfish requirements or does she deserve better?
Why the f
k did you get married?What makes you think the new tart won't do it to you one day
I hope she does.
Doesn't mean I don't wish you the best of luck sorting it out.
Probably not what you want to hear but for sake of your child give it another a go with your wife.
Do you really want them growing up the result of a failed marriage, i know that its not that unusual in todays society but IMHO it affects kids.
Really it comes down to your relationship with your wife but surely its not that bad if you wanted kids with her a year ago??
Good luck
Do you really want them growing up the result of a failed marriage, i know that its not that unusual in todays society but IMHO it affects kids.
Really it comes down to your relationship with your wife but surely its not that bad if you wanted kids with her a year ago??
Good luck
Divorce is one thing, leaving your kid entirely different.
I'm divorced, see the lad every week and have done for the last ten years. What ever else you need to supprt the little one.
The law's view is, as i understand it, each as they can afford it and to address their needs. In other words if you have a child you pay, capital and/or income.
Seriously have a look at your self in the mirror, lots of grief for all concerned, and happy lawyers (GITS!).
I'm divorced, see the lad every week and have done for the last ten years. What ever else you need to supprt the little one.
The law's view is, as i understand it, each as they can afford it and to address their needs. In other words if you have a child you pay, capital and/or income.
Seriously have a look at your self in the mirror, lots of grief for all concerned, and happy lawyers (GITS!).
Been there, seen that, done it.... 12 years ago and still doesn't get any easier!!
If you can stop screwing around and make your marriage work then do so.... playing away only fks your mind up.
If you can't stop then go for it... you'll be in for years of emotional trauma and heartache.
How will you feel when you;
> miss your babies 1st steps
> miss your childs 1st words
> hear your child calling another man "daddy"
> miss their school days, 1st bike rides, learning to feed themselves, forming their own oppinions
ALso a biggie your child will be manipulated to think you're a complete wker.
If you can stop screwing around and make your marriage work then do so.... playing away only f
ks your mind up.If you can't stop then go for it... you'll be in for years of emotional trauma and heartache.
How will you feel when you;
> miss your babies 1st steps
> miss your childs 1st words
> hear your child calling another man "daddy"
> miss their school days, 1st bike rides, learning to feed themselves, forming their own oppinions
ALso a biggie your child will be manipulated to think you're a complete w
ker.ali_kat said:
Pulse said:
escargot said:
Pulse said:
Why is this in 'Health Matters'? 
Let's get it in The Lounge!!!
He wont be able to post in the lounge for a couple of weeks.Let's get it in The Lounge!!!
Anyway, it was still in the wrong section.
Marcellus said:
Been there, seen that, done it.... 12 years ago and still doesn't get any easier!!
If you can stop screwing around and make your marriage work then do so.... playing away only fks your mind up.
If you can't stop then go for it... you'll be in for years of emotional trauma and heartache.
How will you feel when you;
> miss your babies 1st steps
> miss your childs 1st words
> hear your child calling another man "daddy"
> miss their school days, 1st bike rides, learning to feed themselves, forming their own oppinions
ALso a biggie your child will be manipulated to think you're a complete wker.
Not all women are the same.If you can stop screwing around and make your marriage work then do so.... playing away only f
ks your mind up.If you can't stop then go for it... you'll be in for years of emotional trauma and heartache.
How will you feel when you;
> miss your babies 1st steps
> miss your childs 1st words
> hear your child calling another man "daddy"
> miss their school days, 1st bike rides, learning to feed themselves, forming their own oppinions
ALso a biggie your child will be manipulated to think you're a complete w
ker.But yes, you will miss so much...and does this 'other' person even want something more serious. Or is it just the thrill of doing something seen as wrong, and naughty?
The fact you have even posted on here, you are clearly in doubt....give yourself a good talking to before you decide anything.
Edited by Penny-lope on Tuesday 20th October 22:35
Empty said:
I am into a marriage of 3 years with a 6 month old. Sounds perfect but I feel it was all hasty and I have never felt as comfortable as I should have. I have met someone else and although it has got no further than kissing, we have been talking and we have got very deeply involved. Now, I feel very guilty, but empty in the marriage. I am thinking about walking away and starting from scratch, but I want to know how it all works. What would be the score for me in a divorce court? As far as I am concerned it is me in the wrong and the 150K we have in out house I would give towards the comfort of my wife and baby. I don't feel I could take anything away as it is all my fault.
I'm not looking for judgement, although as a long-standing member, I know what to expect from some. I just need guidance really, and know there are many on here who have been in this situation.
You asked for no judgement, so heres the 'technical' response.I'm not looking for judgement, although as a long-standing member, I know what to expect from some. I just need guidance really, and know there are many on here who have been in this situation.
You'll have to pay maintenance to the mother at 15% of your net pay.
You may well have to pay maintenance to your wife if she earns significantly less than you.
You are entitled to half the equity in the house. If your wife cant remortgage to pay you that, technically, you could have her move out but it would be tricky with the baby to enforce. You may well have to sit that out until the child is significantly older.
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