Question for the Men

[Amy-Lea]

Just out of interest really but;

Have any of you wanted kids and your Other half hasn't?

Be it to be a first time parent or trying for child number 2,3 etc

[Mc Lovin]

I wanted one, she wanted one, we had one, i wanted another one, ao did she, sadly it was taken away from us.

[Emsman]

Im in that situation right now.

I have a son from a previous relationship.

New fiancee wants a child, i do not.

Its not easy at all.

But i am standing my ground, as in the long run its better to not have a child if you are not a 100% sure that is what you want to do.

[theshrew]

Yeah

[lord summerisle]

the missus used to go out with a chap who wanted a kid and was pushing for them to start a family...

she didnt and the relationship fizzled out.

now we're married.

She doesnt want kids
i dont want kids.

we're happy

[Mexico.]

Yes and no HTH

[GTIR]

men rarely change their minds when it comes to having kids.

I have a daughter and i am content with that, although i am open to having more.

[Marquis_Rex]

No, but I've had women try to shack up with me who have kids already and see me as an easy ticket.....

[Romanymagic]

Never really wanted kids, my wife has 2 from a former marriage who were in there teenage years when me and my wife met. We did discuss having our own but in the end decided to put all our energies into her current 2, which has panned out quite well given that 1 of the children has a very bad ongoing illness and requires a lot of help and assistance. More children would have over-complicated matters. I do occasionally get pangs of regret but realise that this is just pipe dreaming, especially when I hear the woes of my friends with young children.

[Don]

Neither of us wanted kids.

Would have been a problem if we hadn't seen eye to eye on that, I think.

[Dupont666]

I would like them at some stage, but the OH has yet to figure out what she is doing with her life and wont know til September, she changes her mind every other week.... especially when she sees a brat.

[Arese]

Yeah, I'm ready for kids now and have been for a couple of years. Mrs Arese-to-be wants to wait until we're married though (May 2010). It's all about compromise, so I'll just wait.

[Colin_147]

Arese said:

Yeah, I'm ready for kids now and have been for a couple of years. Mrs Arese-to-be wants to wait until we're married though (May 2010). It's all about compromise, so I'll just wait.

My missues is the same, she wants to get married first. Maybe its a girl thing

[MaxAndRuby]

I didn't want children. My wife did.

We had children.

How the fk did that happen?

They're ace btw.

[Muzzer]

No.

She doesn't want one. I don't want one. Everyone's happy.

If that were to change for one of us but not the other there'd have to be a lot of discussion......

It can be one of those rare relationship-breakers where you're both crazy about each other but if one wants kids and the other doesn't, and you are both adamant, there's no option but to part. Very sad.

Personally, I can't imagine having a child to please a partner or for 'a quiet life'. Recipe for disaster....

[otolith]

Whether they both agree about having / not having kids is the first thing anyone should consider before getting married, IMO. More non-breeders here, by the way.

[dan1981]

Having this problem at the moment.

I don't want them. (i'm 27) I have no idea if this will change in the future.

She is 22 and wants them in the future.

This is casuing problems.

[bigandclever]

I didn't, she did. She suggested, since I was so adamant, that I should have the snip. I refused to have my equipment sullied. We had 2 kids

[Mc Lovin]

dan1981 said:

Having this problem at the moment.

I don't want them. (i'm 27) I have no idea if this will change in the future.

She is 22 and wants them in the future.

This is casuing problems.

Future being the key word, if you stay together long enough to consider getting married then it will be a problem.

[Johnny]

bigandclever said:

I didn't, she did. She suggested, since I was so adamant, that I should have the snip. I refused to have my equipment sullied. We had 2 kids

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