Cancer.... not good...

[Dupont666]

my mum of 58 has been diagnoised with breast cancer.... thankfully it is stage one so it is only just above cyst and calcification and into cancer... thankfully she got it early as she does/did mamography and knows what to look out for.

Is it strange that me/my brother and my dad went along the lines of st happens and if we cant help then what is the point of worrying as we are all scientists and thought logically.

We are all there for her and the the thing that scares her the most is being put under.

I am feeling for her and hope everything goes well but she has everything as dads insurance makes the NHS look stupid as he has everythin and annything at his hands and stuff that is not would be paid for by me/my brother and my dad as my mum means everything to us.

So why am I doing this..... i dont know... but hey....

[Soovy]

I wish you the best my friend.

It's going to be tough, but she has the best of care. She needs love - discovering your "own inevitable destiny" happens to us all and it isn't easy when it does. My discover came at 23, and my life is better for it.

Having had my father die from cancer two years ago, you need to understand as her son that you cannot fix this, it isn't your fault, and the best you can do is love her and ensure she knows this to be the truth.

That's all I can offer you mate.


I pray for her.

Edited by Soovy on Saturday 9th May 20:08

[Dupont666]

Soovy said:

I wish you the best my friend.

It's going to be tough, but she has the best of care. She needs love - discovering your "own inevitable destiny" happens to us all and it isn't easy when it does. My discover came at 23, and my life is better for it.

Having had my father die from cancer two years ago, you need to understand as her son that you cannot fix this, it isn't your fault, and the best you can do is love her and ensure she knows this to be the truth.

That's all I can offer you mate.


I pray for her.

Edited by Soovy on Saturday 9th May 20:08

hopefully it should not be too bad as it was got early and should be radiotheropy and not chemo.

[pies]

All the best for all the family

[Merc fan]

Best of luck, Dupont.

[Ozone]

I wish your mum all the best.
My mum is having her second lot of chemo for advanced lung and kidney cancer. It is a tough time, all i can suggest is spend as much time with your mum as possible and your dad will need your support too.

[Jasandjules]

Wish her all the best.

[Dupont666]

my dad is going for st happens type of thing and we are lucky to catch it early and she has a lot of friends who are consultants and are lining up to help her... thank god for the face she is a UNION member/senior bod/runs the agm/has something to go with the docs (doe to a simple radiographer having a better car than them... they are phers)(thanks dad for being a multilateral driller)

[anonymous-user]

I wish your mum all the best mate, my other half was diagnosed with stage two a couple of years ago. She went through surgery, chemo and radio and is now having to take tamoxiphene (sp?) which makes her tired all the time, also gives her aching joints. It's just st really but she's doing alright despite all she's had to endure and I'm immensly proud of her.

I'm sure you'll give your mum all the love and support you can and that's all any of us have to offer in these situations. When it comes to having the surgery the hospital where my o/h was treated were absolutely brilliant and they really looked after her post op. Don't worry, your mum will come out of it just fine.

[RemaL]

all the best . my mum at the age of 51 went throught this last year. they caught it early so after the op all good.

give you mum my thoughts mate

[Smiler.]

My mum had a mastectomy at 72. Her's was caught early & she has been clear for for six years, it was a traumatic time or all of us too.

I wish you & your ma all the best & hope she responds well to the treatment.

[staceyb]

Best of luck to your Mum, getting it early as it is is a very good thing.

[CatherineJ]

Best of luck to her.

[Dupont666]

thank you all for the thinking of someone you dont know... its this kind of thing that makes he glad that im part of ph and want to be part of it...

[Rach*]

Best of luck to your Mum and thinking of you and the rest of the family xx

[D14 AYS]

Going through a very similar thing with my dear old ma, I feel your pain mate.

[drivin_me_nuts]

best of luck. Lots for her to think about, lots to deal with at many levels. All you can do is be there in the way that she needs. Deal with your own stuff too, keep the Cancer monster in its place.

[BlackVanGirl]

All good thoughts to you and your mum.

I've had three general anaesthetics since September last year, it really honestly isn't that bad. They fix you up with a cannula in your hand, which hurts a tiny bit as the needle goes in and then not at all once it's just the tube in there not the needle.

Then they put a big syringe of white sleepy-drugs in it, which can ache a tiny bit, and you do the counting-backwards thing and by the time you get from 10 down to 7 they put an anaesthetic mask over your face and...

Then you wake up in recovery, back in a comfy bed with a nice nurse there to hold your hand and ply you with painkillers and generally keep an eye on you 'til you're well enough to go back to the ward.

It's hardly fun but there's honestly nothing to be scared about, I was on a ventilator for my last 2 so when I woke up I had a bit of a sore throat but that was truly the worst part. They're SO GOOD at getting people through generals now, obviously risk is always there but it's minimised.

If your mum still feels really really uncomfortable at the thought it may be possible to do it under a local, as her cancer's in such an early stage it'll hopefully only be a pretty small and quick operation.

All the very best to you and yours.

[V8A*ndy]

You mum is very lucky to have someone like you.

Tell your mum get well soon from us all.

[ShadownINja]

Dupont666 said:

my mum of 58 has been diagnoised with breast cancer.... thankfully it is stage one so it is only just above cyst and calcification and into cancer... thankfully she got it early as she does/did mamography and knows what to look out for.

Is it strange that me/my brother and my dad went along the lines of st happens and if we cant help then what is the point of worrying as we are all scientists and thought logically.

Sounds early stages like my mum. How big is the cancer? My mum's was <5mm so she didn't even need chemo or radio (very lucky, in other words).

I don't understand the second paragraph, though. Looking at it logically, it would either be down to it being a hereditary illness (her mum or gran had breast cancer) or lifestyle (lack of exercise, poor nutrition, smoking, too much alcohol etc etc), not st happening. Additionally, it's a "better" cancer to have because it's so common that the docs know how to treat it, so there is less for her to worry about.

Edited by ShadownINja on Saturday 9th May 21:44