Using the kids as weapons!
Discussion
I think this is awful but my ex seems to think it's OK.
She also drops into the conversation that little one has to go for important blood test the next day, I enquire (nicely) what the blood test are for and she says "I'm not telling you"
What triggered it off was that I was an hour late to pick him up b/c I had a meeting, I did email her to tell her about 5 hours before which she did receive but made a point of telling me that she was on holiday so wouldn't normally have got it. She hadn't informed me that she was on holiday - I suppose I should have know somehow
She shouts "you've pizzed him off b/c you are late", calling me an 'F'ing this and 'F'ing that and a s
te father and swearing constantly (with him just 2 feet away). He wasn't bothered at all, he was more concerned with getting back to play on his xbox 
He has got into bother at school recently for swearing, I never swear in front of him and I don't argue either so I wonder where he got that from????
For the record she walked out on me knowing she was expecting and then some time later when she decided she wanted money got in touch to tell me all about it!
Anyway, back on topic - fighting in front of the kids a "no no" in my eyes.
Discuss...
She also drops into the conversation that little one has to go for important blood test the next day, I enquire (nicely) what the blood test are for and she says "I'm not telling you"
What triggered it off was that I was an hour late to pick him up b/c I had a meeting, I did email her to tell her about 5 hours before which she did receive but made a point of telling me that she was on holiday so wouldn't normally have got it. She hadn't informed me that she was on holiday - I suppose I should have know somehow
She shouts "you've pizzed him off b/c you are late", calling me an 'F'ing this and 'F'ing that and a s
te father and swearing constantly (with him just 2 feet away). He wasn't bothered at all, he was more concerned with getting back to play on his xbox He has got into bother at school recently for swearing, I never swear in front of him and I don't argue either so I wonder where he got that from????
For the record she walked out on me knowing she was expecting and then some time later when she decided she wanted money got in touch to tell me all about it!
Anyway, back on topic - fighting in front of the kids a "no no" in my eyes.
Discuss...
Edited by Kentish on Thursday 9th April 14:41
Jasandjules said:
AS above, it's not going to be much of a discussion, it shouldn't be done.....
Completely agree myself but I wondered whether it was just me?She told me not to be pathetic when I told her not to speak to me like that in front of our son.
Little wonder he is disrespectful at times and I nip that in the bud whenever it occurs.
DamoLLb said:
magic torch said:
What's to discuss, it's a No No.
Correct. She sounds like she has a mouth on her that a lot of women around Maidstone have. It's all too bloody common!
She acts all posh and plummy until she lets rip.
You should see the state of her house, certainly not seen a vacuum cleaner or duster for years.
Too posh to clean you know
Kentish said:
DamoLLb said:
magic torch said:
What's to discuss, it's a No No.
Correct. She sounds like she has a mouth on her that a lot of women around Maidstone have. It's all too bloody common!She acts all posh and plummy until she lets rip.
You should see the state of her house, certainly not seen a vacuum cleaner or duster for years.
Too posh to clean you know
ahhh the Garden of EnglandKentish said:
She also drops into the conversation that little one has to go for important blood test the next day, I enquire (nicely) what the blood test are for and she says "I'm not telling you"
Mature, eh?Apply for custody. Go talk to the authorities about your "concerns". See if you can't manage a surprise visit from them.
Can't have kids being brought up in a filthy, abusive environment, now can you?
drivin_me_nuts said:
It happens a lot. The thing is not to let it impact on how you behave - that is NOT the same as ignoring it, it means not letting their actions trigger the same crap behaviour in you.
Many ex wives and husbands and parents are fantastic at screwing their kids up.
I know and it's very sad and this is what is worrying me.Many ex wives and husbands and parents are fantastic at screwing their kids up.
She stopped me seeing him for nearly 4 years until he was getting a bit awkward to deal with and also was asking about me. Then 2 years ago I heard from her inviting me back into his life.
I've loved the opportunity to see him again and couldn't believe how he has grown up. I've been seeing him again for 2 years this summer and he's now 7, I hadn't been allowed to see him from 18 months old.
She even lied to him saying that I was in the army and had been away fighting FFS
Just so she didn't feel so guilty I suppose?
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