Today's Wimmin Question
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I'm easily confused, so....
I split up with the Ex almost 2 years ago and we have no contact apart from once a week for 5 mins as we share the dogs. She told me on Saturday that I would be getting a letter from her Solicitor about agreeing to a 2 year separation divorce(her doings but I will go along with that as there is no reason not to) and then she went all crumbly chin and tearful. I asked her why she was upset and she said it's not a very nice thing to be doing(Err, it's what you wanted love). Roll on to yesterday and I get a call about 8.30 and it is her, the boiler isnt working and can I remember what lights should be on etc? There are 8 houses down that road and they all have the same oil fired boiler so she could just pop around to the neighbours and have a peek. She also starts telling me all about her woes at work...
This is very odd as we have had nothing to do with each others lifes since we split, it's 2 years since I last saw the bolier and I only knew it for a few months anyway. Why ring me about all this, WTF?
It may be a stupid thing to some of you but it these last two "chats" have really confused me
By the way, no immersion heater at that house, oh dear
I split up with the Ex almost 2 years ago and we have no contact apart from once a week for 5 mins as we share the dogs. She told me on Saturday that I would be getting a letter from her Solicitor about agreeing to a 2 year separation divorce(her doings but I will go along with that as there is no reason not to) and then she went all crumbly chin and tearful. I asked her why she was upset and she said it's not a very nice thing to be doing(Err, it's what you wanted love). Roll on to yesterday and I get a call about 8.30 and it is her, the boiler isnt working and can I remember what lights should be on etc? There are 8 houses down that road and they all have the same oil fired boiler so she could just pop around to the neighbours and have a peek. She also starts telling me all about her woes at work...
This is very odd as we have had nothing to do with each others lifes since we split, it's 2 years since I last saw the bolier and I only knew it for a few months anyway. Why ring me about all this, WTF?
It may be a stupid thing to some of you but it these last two "chats" have really confused me
By the way, no immersion heater at that house, oh dear
Edited by tonyvid on Thursday 9th April 11:41
As said, it's getting real. She wants you to make her feel wanted by begging her not to go ahead and make it real - because you're not, she feels vulnerable and unattractive. Hence boo-hoo-ing etc.
Your best bet is to phone her up and say "Alright, chubby. That letter still hasn't arrived yet. Any chance you can get your solicitor to hurry up. Nice one. Gotta go - I've got some tight-bunned slut coming round shortly. Byyeeee!"
Your best bet is to phone her up and say "Alright, chubby. That letter still hasn't arrived yet. Any chance you can get your solicitor to hurry up. Nice one. Gotta go - I've got some tight-bunned slut coming round shortly. Byyeeee!"
As I see it, what she had planned on happening was for you to say something along the lines of
"Where did we go wrong, we had some good times, why dont we meet up and talk about it all, see if theres something we can salvage here"
The past two years havent exactly gone to plan for her and she is probably sitting home alone with only the good memories for comfort, and has some desperate hope that you still miss her / think about her
Have you started seeing anyone else recently that she knows about?
"Where did we go wrong, we had some good times, why dont we meet up and talk about it all, see if theres something we can salvage here"
The past two years havent exactly gone to plan for her and she is probably sitting home alone with only the good memories for comfort, and has some desperate hope that you still miss her / think about her
Have you started seeing anyone else recently that she knows about?
G'kar said:
It's getting real.
by this very act of announcing separation/divorce and you acknowledging to go forth with it brings the reality of the situation to the fore.If you have moved on (apart from the dogs connection) and are genuinely happy to separate then I would try to rebuff this current rekindled interest she appears to be displaying. Once your ex gets her head around the situation she will revert back to the mindset that initially made the split with you 2 years back.
at that.
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