Things you learned late in life

[lornemalvo]

I could write a book about things I learned late in life, or even too late, but I was thinking about one pretty trivial thing I discovered only in the last year or so. I wet shave and instead of applying shaving foam and immediately shaving, I let the foam/gel sit for a two or three minutes first. It makes a big difference to the smoothness of the shave, especially if my blade is not particularly sharp. This being PH, obviously I'm expecting some to scoff because it's trivial and perhaps obvious to some, but I only discovered this fairly recently.

[Monkeylegend]

This being PH I suspect most shave with an axe, hand honed for sharpness.

One thing I learned is that it is easier to just grow a beard.

Edited by Monkeylegend on Sunday 6th October 09:03

[languagetimothy]

lornemalvo said:

I could write a book about things I learned late in life, or even too late, but I was thinking about one pretty trivial thing I discovered only in the last year or so. I wet shave and instead of applying shaving foam and immediately shaving, I let the foam/gel sit for a two or three minutes first. It makes a big difference to the smoothness of the shave, especially if my blade is not particularly sharp. This being PH, obviously I'm expecting some to scoff because it's trivial and perhaps obvious to some, but I only discovered this fairly recently.

ive always done this, foam/gel on then go and sort out which clothes ill be wearing today. i think it makes the hairs softer so easier to shave. yes it does make a difference on the overall shave.

[loafer123]

On a related matter, I was told by a colleague years ago to always shave in the shower as the steam softens the beard.

Certainly works for me.

[Doofus]

As I've got older I've learned that doing things half-arsed takes less time and effort, and most people won't notice until it's too late.

[PlywoodPascal]

Doofus said:

As I've got older I've learned that doing things half-arsed takes less time and effort, and most people won't notice until it's too late.

Me 2

[AB]

Monkeylegend said:

One thing I learned is that it is easier to just grow a beard.

Surprises me the number of people I see completely clean shaven, such a PITA to keep up with.

The last few years I've just gone with getting the beard trimmed every 3 or so weeks when I get a haircut, or if the beard needs trimming for whatever reason, I'll combine it with a haircut whether I need it or not. Between these times it goes untouched.

Maybe I'm just a scruff.

[PlywoodPascal]

I have learnt that ‘just carrying on’ or ‘just pushing through’ isn’t sustainable in the long run.

I used to be very emotionally level, even though I was doing things that were really hard and stretched me a lot in life/work/career (I think I’m probably autistic and I deffo have adhd). I pushed and pushed to get to the top of my profession, but now I’m here I’m exhausted and capacity for coping with stuff (people, life admin, work stresses, mismatched expectations/abilities) has got worse, or at least it feels like that way.

Now I’m in the middle of a multi year task (I guess) of rebuilding work/life/relationships so that they are based on what I’m really capable of, but that work is fking hard work and extra distress on top of the initial distress of the situations themselves. It’s exhausting and I feel so emotionally labile, I am leaning so much on other people sharing my feeling with them.

So yeah, if somethings hard, learn to recognise it, step back, work out why, don’t give up, but do find ways to do it that work for you instead of ‘the way you’re supposed to do it’. That is still hard, because there are many inflexible people in this world and they often won’t accept other versions of ‘a thing’, other paths to successful outcomes, or other ‘ways of being’.

Snifffle sniffle etc.

[PlywoodPascal]

Oh, also, go to the fking dentist even if you’re st scared of it.

A piece of my tooth broke off yesterday, the above post is brought to you by the distress of that. I haven’t been to a dentist in 23 years and haven’t felt any pain or anything but I wish I had gone, now. I’m just terrified of them. Like properly st scared the way other people are of things like flying or blancmange.
Sorry driller if you’re still on PH.

[lornemalvo]

AB said:

Monkeylegend said:

One thing I learned is that it is easier to just grow a beard.

Surprises me the number of people I see completely clean shaven, such a PITA to keep up with.

The last few years I've just gone with getting the beard trimmed every 3 or so weeks when I get a haircut, or if the beard needs trimming for whatever reason, I'll combine it with a haircut whether I need it or not. Between these times it goes untouched.

Maybe I'm just a scruff.

I wear a goatee, saves a lot of time.

[nuyorican]

That Greenland is kind of part of North America. I always assumed it was nowhere near there, but nearer to the UK just near Iceland. I had a globe as a kid so should know this, maybe I never turned it round…

[lornemalvo]

PlywoodPascal said:

I have learnt that ‘just carrying on’ or ‘just pushing through’ isn’t sustainable in the long run.

I used to be very emotionally level, even though I was doing things that were really hard and stretched me a lot in life/work/career (I think I’m probably autistic and I deffo have adhd). I pushed and pushed to get to the top of my profession, but now I’m here I’m exhausted and capacity for coping with stuff (people, life admin, work stresses, mismatched expectations/abilities) has got worse, or at least it feels like that way.

Now I’m in the middle of a multi year task (I guess) of rebuilding work/life/relationships so that they are based on what I’m really capable of, but that work is fking hard work and extra distress on top of the initial distress of the situations themselves. It’s exhausting and I feel so emotionally labile, I am leaning so much on other people sharing my feeling with them.

So yeah, if somethings hard, learn to recognise it, step back, work out why, don’t give up, but do find ways to do it that work for you instead of ‘the way you’re supposed to do it’. That is still hard, because there are many inflexible people in this world and they often won’t accept other versions of ‘a thing’, other paths to successful outcomes, or other ‘ways of being’.

Snifffle sniffle etc.

I Know exactly what you mean, I also learned this too late.

[Pistom]

When changing oil on cars with alloy sumps, loosen the sump plug whilst the engine is still really hot (oil should be warm anyway when draining).

Don't tighten the sump plug until the engine has cooled down completely.

Otherwise, the next time you come to drain it, the plug might be tough to shift.

[Pistom]

Women telling you about a problem want sympathy - not a solution.

[Sheepshanks]

lornemalvo said:

I could write a book about things I learned late in life, or even too late, but I was thinking about one pretty trivial thing I discovered only in the last year or so. I wet shave and instead of applying shaving foam and immediately shaving, I let the foam/gel sit for a two or three minutes first. It makes a big difference to the smoothness of the shave, especially if my blade is not particularly sharp. This being PH, obviously I'm expecting some to scoff because it's trivial and perhaps obvious to some, but I only discovered this fairly recently.

This being PH, I’ve learned that you don’t let product sit, you leave it to dwell.

[DickyC]

The thing I've learned late in life is that I should have done things I wanted to do much earlier. You know, when I had energy and most of my faculties worked.

. . . . .

Time Line Example:

When I retire, I'll walk from John o'Groats to Lands End.

Got older and retired.

Walk from John o'Groats to Lands End? No chance. Even though JoG to LE is downhill.

. . . . .

I have said to my sons 'Do it while you're young' so frequently, they are tired of hearing it.

"Shup, dad."

[996Type]

PlywoodPascal said:

I have learnt that ‘just carrying on’ or ‘just pushing through’ isn’t sustainable in the long run.

I used to be very emotionally level, even though I was doing things that were really hard and stretched me a lot in life/work/career (I think I’m probably autistic and I deffo have adhd). I pushed and pushed to get to the top of my profession, but now I’m here I’m exhausted and capacity for coping with stuff (people, life admin, work stresses, mismatched expectations/abilities) has got worse, or at least it feels like that way.

Now I’m in the middle of a multi year task (I guess) of rebuilding work/life/relationships so that they are based on what I’m really capable of, but that work is fking hard work and extra distress on top of the initial distress of the situations themselves. It’s exhausting and I feel so emotionally labile, I am leaning so much on other people sharing my feeling with them.

So yeah, if somethings hard, learn to recognise it, step back, work out why, don’t give up, but do find ways to do it that work for you instead of ‘the way you’re supposed to do it’. That is still hard, because there are many inflexible people in this world and they often won’t accept other versions of ‘a thing’, other paths to successful outcomes, or other ‘ways of being’.

Snifffle sniffle etc.

Do you think this is also a characteristic of just getting older? This certainly resonates with me as I appear to be turning into a grumpy middle aged man. The focus seems to shift more onto the journey than the destination!

[vixen1700]

Wearing an alice band when you're growing your hair out stops it blowing in your face on a windy day, and is acceptable for blokes these days.

[nuyorican]

Pistom said:

Women telling you about a problem want sympathy - not a solution.

Good one!

[PlywoodPascal]

nuyorican said:

Pistom said:

Women telling you about a problem want sympathy - not a solution.

Good one!

Wait what
Maybe we should explain to them how useful a solution would be