Have you ever seriously fell out with a very good friend?
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There wasn't a fall-out as such. I had a friend that I had known since I was 5. Anyway, when we were 16, he would always come up the road to mine every day to listen to music, play some computer games, or we would get a couple of girls we knew to join us too.
Regular as clockwork, I looked out of my bedroom window, saw him leave his house, cross the road over to mine. Anyway, one day, I saw him leave his house but he never crossed the road and he went into someone elses house. Totally ghosted me. The other kid was more of a pub/club/booze type which I was not so that was the reason.
My father saw him a number of times during my 20s, 30s and 40s and he always left contact details for me to call him. I never did.
Regular as clockwork, I looked out of my bedroom window, saw him leave his house, cross the road over to mine. Anyway, one day, I saw him leave his house but he never crossed the road and he went into someone elses house. Totally ghosted me. The other kid was more of a pub/club/booze type which I was not so that was the reason.
My father saw him a number of times during my 20s, 30s and 40s and he always left contact details for me to call him. I never did.
Fell out with a good friend for many a year due to a woman who i thought, at the time, was the one i was meant to be with.
Turns out i was wrong and although we reconnected, he moves in different circles to me now so we don't speak unless i message him via social media and i don't always have the time.
Turns out i was wrong and although we reconnected, he moves in different circles to me now so we don't speak unless i message him via social media and i don't always have the time.
A few times, one man that I knew for 16 years, simply said that he didn't want further contact because he was a family man and I was single.
Another very good friend wanted nothing more because his wife kept saying to him, 'why can't you be more like Cammy'. Another friend borrowed money from me to buy a DB7, said he wasn't going to pay me back because I could afford to lose it. His wife gave me the key to the car and I took it from outside his house, brought it home. Kept it for a month, he reported it as stolen, rozzers came around and because I had been given the key took no further action. The friend paid half in cash, never saw the other half or him again.
Wouldn't want another friend, acquaintances only thanks.
Another very good friend wanted nothing more because his wife kept saying to him, 'why can't you be more like Cammy'. Another friend borrowed money from me to buy a DB7, said he wasn't going to pay me back because I could afford to lose it. His wife gave me the key to the car and I took it from outside his house, brought it home. Kept it for a month, he reported it as stolen, rozzers came around and because I had been given the key took no further action. The friend paid half in cash, never saw the other half or him again.
Wouldn't want another friend, acquaintances only thanks.
Yes, several times, though the most notable one was with someone I had been friends with for 21 years. I found out he was chatting to an ex of mine behind my back, i.e., without telling me. Since it was an ex, I wouldn't have minded if he had just told me rather than being weirdly sneaky about it. When I found out via the ex, I wasn't very impressed as I saw it as a breach of trust. I didn't speak to him about it, I simply blocked his number on Whatsapp and on the phone itself, and deleted him from Facebook. I've never spoken with him since and don't intend to either.
Yes, over £60.
I was in crowd of regulars in a pub where we all used to get together most weekends. We were all good friends.
One of the guys borrowed £60 off me promising it back the next day in the pub. He didn't show up. The next weekend he showed up but didn't have the money. Over the weeks there were various excuses or offers of non cash options.
I gave him an ultimatum of showing up with the cash, or stop socialising with us. I never saw him again.
Bizarre that someone would lose a group of friends over that much money. He was working and not short of cash.
I was in crowd of regulars in a pub where we all used to get together most weekends. We were all good friends.
One of the guys borrowed £60 off me promising it back the next day in the pub. He didn't show up. The next weekend he showed up but didn't have the money. Over the weeks there were various excuses or offers of non cash options.
I gave him an ultimatum of showing up with the cash, or stop socialising with us. I never saw him again.
Bizarre that someone would lose a group of friends over that much money. He was working and not short of cash.
A friend from aged 10. We were close for over 40 years, but always a bit superficial. He had a dozen 'stock phrases' if I asked how he was, or family or work was, like a 'mask'.
He stuck to a small number of subjects with me - music, hifi, cars, gigs, alcoholic accidents, old anecdotes from schooldays, forced laughter at repeated 'funny stories'. And everything included alcohol.
And then twice in a row he didn't turn up, or message / phone to say why. (Alcohol played a part in letting me and many others down).
In a later phone call he said he wouldn't be in touch much, if at all. Ironically, It was a moment of actually saying what he felt to me.
Thankfully, I still have a few friends from secondary school, college and previous work. And we talk openly and honestly about now, not so much about being teens.
He stuck to a small number of subjects with me - music, hifi, cars, gigs, alcoholic accidents, old anecdotes from schooldays, forced laughter at repeated 'funny stories'. And everything included alcohol.
And then twice in a row he didn't turn up, or message / phone to say why. (Alcohol played a part in letting me and many others down).
In a later phone call he said he wouldn't be in touch much, if at all. Ironically, It was a moment of actually saying what he felt to me.
Thankfully, I still have a few friends from secondary school, college and previous work. And we talk openly and honestly about now, not so much about being teens.
Forester1965 said:
No because I've never had any.
Fallings out or very good friends?Anyway - I had what I thought was a v.good friend for a number of years in the 90s. Then some others started behaving oddly towards me & I had no idea why. Turns out my vgf was spreading untrue rumours about me & a couple of others, for no other reason, seemingly, than for s
ts & giggles & to create a bit of drama....stuff like 'I saw Little Owl in a pub with Gavs missus, I wonder if Gav knows' & 'I think Harry & Lucy are having an affair behind their OH backs. Little Owl told me but also told me not tell anyone else' etc etc, schoolyard crap like that, which most of us had grown out of about 10 years before.His tales unravelled & most including myself told him to get f
ked & he largely vanished off the planet, bar the odd sighting.Ran into him about 12 years ago and he wanted to chat but I made it clear that I didn't want anything to do with him.
Chicken_Satay said:
Yes, several times, though the most notable one was with someone I had been friends with for 21 years. I found out he was chatting to an ex of mine behind my back, i.e., without telling me. Since it was an ex, I wouldn't have minded if he had just told me rather than being weirdly sneaky about it. When I found out via the ex, I wasn't very impressed as I saw it as a breach of trust. I didn't speak to him about it, I simply blocked his number on Whatsapp and on the phone itself, and deleted him from Facebook. I've never spoken with him since and don't intend to either.
That sounds rather immature on your part. Why do you have an issue with a mate talking to an ex? Weird.Edited by Martin315 on Sunday 22 September 00:24
Martin315 said:
That sounds rather immature on your part. Why do you have an issue with a mate to an ex? Weird.
Because, as I said, he was chatting to her behind my back for several months. It was a fairly recent ex and not once did he mention it. I thought that it was very strange and a breach of trust. It was really the tip of the iceberg anyway. There were other instances where he had proven himself to be either untrustworthy or disloyal.My 'best mate' when we were about 12 years old started acting a bit odd and eventually started swinging for me when we were out on our BMXs one day, so we kind of fell out. After a year or so we became pals again because we were both part of a wider group of lads and spent a lot of time together (apart from when either of us had a girlfriend..) Anyway we were going out with a pair of sisters and he started acting a bit weird again and I could see what was coming, it ended up with him headbutting me on the dance floor at his sisters wedding! That was probably 25years ago, haven't seen or spoken to him from that day to this which was pretty difficult at the time because I also left that whole group of friends behind too.
Looking back it was the best thing that could have happened, he was pretty manipulative although I didn't see it at the time and I suspect my life has turned out immeasurably better without him in it.
Looking back it was the best thing that could have happened, he was pretty manipulative although I didn't see it at the time and I suspect my life has turned out immeasurably better without him in it.
Martin315 said:
Chicken_Satay said:
Yes, several times, though the most notable one was with someone I had been friends with for 21 years. I found out he was chatting to an ex of mine behind my back, i.e., without telling me. Since it was an ex, I wouldn't have minded if he had just told me rather than being weirdly sneaky about it. When I found out via the ex, I wasn't very impressed as I saw it as a breach of trust. I didn't speak to him about it, I simply blocked his number on Whatsapp and on the phone itself, and deleted him from Facebook. I've never spoken with him since and don't intend to either.
That sounds rather immature on your part. Why do you have an issue with a mate talking to an ex? Weird.Edited by Martin315 on Sunday 22 September 00:24
Yep, a mate of mine who was married, but he liked to play away from home a lot. I don’t judge, he can do what he likes and it never caused me any issues.
Until I was at their family barbecue when his misses caught me alone and asked me if I could pay back the money I owed them as they desperately needed it.
That pretty much caused me to drop him like a hot potato, it was a very difficult situation to get dragged into and I distanced myself from him after that.
Also lent another mate some money which never got paid back and I never heard from him again despite living in the same area, literally never heard from him again.
Until I was at their family barbecue when his misses caught me alone and asked me if I could pay back the money I owed them as they desperately needed it.
That pretty much caused me to drop him like a hot potato, it was a very difficult situation to get dragged into and I distanced myself from him after that.
Also lent another mate some money which never got paid back and I never heard from him again despite living in the same area, literally never heard from him again.
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