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Can you be Facebook friends with exes? I don't see the problem with this especially if you have moved on and its years down the line. Some people disagree and say it's not a good idea. I am not Facebook friends with my first love, who has and still is the most significant woman in my life, but can easily be friend s with other exes. After all it is only facebook and I don't value it that significantly. What do folks on here think?Surely everyone is curious to see what happens to people in life?
Edited by Chris7865677 on Monday 12th September 12:45
Depends on the nature of your relationship entirely, much like with everything else in life.
On facebook I am friends with my ex girlfriend from 10 years ago. This is partly to do with the fact that we were at uni together, and so we still have a number of mutual friends. Whilst initially the relationship ended on slightly difficult terms, we now are quite happy with each other.
I'm also still friendly with some other girls that I have had relationships with who weren't quite at the "girlfriend" level.
Equally though, the ex from 7 years ago, I never want to be exposed to ever again.
On facebook I am friends with my ex girlfriend from 10 years ago. This is partly to do with the fact that we were at uni together, and so we still have a number of mutual friends. Whilst initially the relationship ended on slightly difficult terms, we now are quite happy with each other.
I'm also still friendly with some other girls that I have had relationships with who weren't quite at the "girlfriend" level.
Equally though, the ex from 7 years ago, I never want to be exposed to ever again.
It's a No from me. Whenever I've broken up with someone I generally want to move on. The 'lets be friends' is a copout for the majority of cases, I dont want to be friends with them really, and I dont want them seeing a new life that I've got. I get a fairly regular request from an ex (strange thing is she left me about 6 years ago) asking to talk and generally how I am. I'm married with a kid on the way, no real interest in any kind of conversation with her, because I've moved on with my life and I respect my wife.
I don't see the point, there is no good that comes from being friends with ex's on social media. If I want to stay in touch with an ex we message privately.
I recently split up with my GF and although it was my choice, the pics of her on nights out etc really effected me.
I'd been talking for about 2 years about deleting facebook as I've always felt it is more of a negative in my life than a positive so went ahead and deleted it on Saturday. No more seeing pics and updates from people I hardly see telling me how amazing everything they do is.
As a side note, you can request a data file from FB that they email to you in a zip with all activity including photos, statuses, friends list, removed friends and even adverts clicked. So, you can delete it without losing any data.
I recently split up with my GF and although it was my choice, the pics of her on nights out etc really effected me.
I'd been talking for about 2 years about deleting facebook as I've always felt it is more of a negative in my life than a positive so went ahead and deleted it on Saturday. No more seeing pics and updates from people I hardly see telling me how amazing everything they do is.
As a side note, you can request a data file from FB that they email to you in a zip with all activity including photos, statuses, friends list, removed friends and even adverts clicked. So, you can delete it without losing any data.
Vitorio said:
X5TUU said:
Why on earth would you want to be??
Because she is the mother of my kids?Thats the only reason for me, the only reason i bother with FB as well..
Nanook said:
I'm still friends on FB with a couple of my exes.
It didn't work out. But they're still nice people, and I still speak to them occasionally.
One is in a long term relationship, she started seeing the guy a few months after we broke up, I'm not sure about the other because whilst she posts plenty of pictures, she keeps her relationship status out of it.
Some people don't like seeing exes being happy. That's sad.
I agree. Some don't like to see pictures of exes with kids etc. But I do. I like to see them married and with kids etc. It's all purely platonic. I am a very nosey person. I should point out I am not Facebook Friends with my first love due to her blocking me straight away. Very strange reaction when I only sent one request. It didn't work out. But they're still nice people, and I still speak to them occasionally.
One is in a long term relationship, she started seeing the guy a few months after we broke up, I'm not sure about the other because whilst she posts plenty of pictures, she keeps her relationship status out of it.
Some people don't like seeing exes being happy. That's sad.
It was over 30 years ago.Why can't people be civil?
Edited by Chris7865677 on Monday 12th September 14:17
Chris7865677 said:
Who?Me? Never met a woman like my first love. I have never married or had kids etc. What are people's reasons for not friending them? Is it that you just don't care or is it cos of feelings coming back?
For me personally, it's usually because I'm ashamed of how I acted towards them! Though I do have some exes on FB, but not many of them.Nanook said:
Or maybe he likes seeing pics of his kids having fun, that she posts.
Speaks volumes to me that you can't figure this s
t out on your own.
Having fun in a world he isn't involved in ... Yeah real boost for personal mental health and wellbeingSpeaks volumes to me that you can't figure this s
t out on your own.As a side note those pictures of the kids, no doubt will be pictures posted invariably without the child's consent ... Yes ... which there is currently a legal case in Europe assessing as to a parents rights (or lack of) to post pictures of their offspring without their express permissions, since FB then owns the images and they stay present pretty much indefinitely
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