I feel sick

[Topboy]

Cara Van Man said:

Topboy said:

Cap'n Custud said:

oh st, I am now doomed!

How fit (in the sense of looks) are you?

That's dangerous talk from a man in your position.

[snitch]Ali! Ali! Ali![/snitch]

Git.....lol Youre getting me in trouble now...What i was meaning...oh sod it digging deeper hole by doing this

[Cap'n Custud]

Update: Well I am sat at my friends on a sunday and feeling like st! The ex asked me to go over last night to "say goodbye" aka goodbye sex. I couldn't bring myself to go. I sent hime a message as couldn't face the conversation with him. I have turned into such a coward and hate myself for it.

[Chrisgr31]

For what its worth you made the right decision. You need a total break from him, as he does from you. Yes you'll feel awful, but after a few weeks that feeling will go and you'll be able to get on with your life.

You'll also ten be able to be civil to him. Being close to ex's never works.

[Ace-T]

Cap'n Custud said:

Update: Well I am sat at my friends on a sunday and feeling like st! The ex asked me to go over last night to "say goodbye" aka goodbye sex. I couldn't bring myself to go. I sent hime a message as couldn't face the conversation with him. I have turned into such a coward and hate myself for it.

Why on earth would you go back and shag someone you have broken up with to say goodbye?????

You are pretty clear on the fact that you two should not be together any more, surely 'goodbye sex' will send all the wrong signals to him and completely confuse you.

I do not see this as cowardice at all but a refusal to bow to emotional blackmail.

Stay at friends, eat ice cream, watch bad films, post rubbish on tinternet but unless you decide that you have made a mistake and do want to seriously give the relationship another go, do not go back and visit if there is any expectation from the other party that sex will happen.

Trace

[trooperiziz]

Ace-T said:

Cap'n Custud said:

Update: Well I am sat at my friends on a sunday and feeling like st! The ex asked me to go over last night to "say goodbye" aka goodbye sex. I couldn't bring myself to go. I sent hime a message as couldn't face the conversation with him. I have turned into such a coward and hate myself for it.

Why on earth would you go back and shag someone you have broken up with to say goodbye?????

The difference between men and women, summed up in one sentence

[AJS-]

This is my worry with the internet. It's too easy to be completely honest and truthful, and so trivialise things which really are trivial.

I prefered it when these things were kept more secret and women genuinely believed that we said things like this out of a deep emotional attachment, and a romantic sense of finality about breaking up, rather than just to see if we could wangle a low effort shag.

And when men believed that women would come around to genuinely say goodbye, and then collapse into our arms and be unable to resist their carnal urges, rather than going around out of guilt knowing full well we just want a quick pity fk before they find someone else.

Alas, those days are gone.

[Cap'n Custud]

I am an idiot. Just popped round for a cup of tea, I shouldn't have gone but hindsight is a wonderful thing. He is in total denial, tried to kiss me goodby and when I said no he said just give it time! Watching the rugby now, GO ENGLAND!

[ali_kat]

Good on you for staying strong

Be proud of yourself

It is a crap time, you will be feeling awful at all sort of moments, but you'll get through this

[vixta]

^^^ what she said ! I'll see you at the weekend. just have a think of what you would like to do.

[Cara Van Man]

Cap'n Custud said:

I am an idiot. Just popped round for a cup of tea, I shouldn't have gone but hindsight is a wonderful thing. He is in total denial, tried to kiss me goodby and when I said no he said just give it time! Watching the rugby now, GO ENGLAND!

go on, admit it. he knobbed you.

[Landlord]

Cap'n Custud said:

I shouldn't have gone but hindsight is a wonderful thing.

ali_kat said:

Good on you for staying strong

Eh?!!

Face it - she liked the idea of going and being worshipped for a bit. She wasn't being strong.

[ali_kat]

It would have been very easy to have let him kiss her goodbye - she didn't, she was strong.

[Cap'n Custud]

Ok, so I ask the questin to the PH Massive. What do you do when your ex just wont let go?

I get a cross between innundated with nasty messages followed by even more pledging undying love and begging me to come back.

I don't want to be mean to him but I am lost as to what to do....

[JonRB]

Cap'n Custud said:

Ok, so I ask the questin to the PH Massive. What do you do when your ex just wont let go?

I get a cross between innundated with nasty messages followed by even more pledging undying love and begging me to come back.

I don't want to be mean to him but I am lost as to what to do....

Restraining order?

The nasty messages are a form of harassment. If it's not too great of an inconvenience, change your number(s) and don't tell him the new one(s).

[Cara Van Man]

Cap'n Custud said:

Ok, so I ask the questin to the PH Massive. What do you do when your ex just wont let go?

I get a cross between innundated with nasty messages followed by even more pledging undying love and begging me to come back.

I don't want to be mean to him but I am lost as to what to do....

Show him pictures of you with a mouthful of someones todger, holding a sign saying "This is the largest and hardest cock I've ever sucked".

Easy. Job done. No more texts.

[Andy Zarse]

Cap'n Custud said:

Ok, so I ask the questin to the PH Massive. What do you do when your ex just wont let go?

I get a cross between innundated with nasty messages followed by even more pledging undying love and begging me to come back.

I don't want to be mean to him but I am lost as to what to do....

Cruel to be kind time. Tell him once and for all it's over and that you're not going to reply any more. Ignore the texts. Don't see him. Don't speak to him. Never answer, never react, never reply. They'll stop eventually when he gets bored. Or is dead of a broken heart.

Seriously, you have to sever all ties. Probably the only way.

[tonyvid]

JonRB said:

Cap'n Custud said:

Ok, so I ask the questin to the PH Massive. What do you do when your ex just wont let go?

I get a cross between innundated with nasty messages followed by even more pledging undying love and begging me to come back.

I don't want to be mean to him but I am lost as to what to do....

Restraining order?

The nasty messages are a form of harassment. If it's not too great of an inconvenience, change your number(s) and don't tell him the new one(s).

It's not as easy as that if you have been together a long time, well, it is but its a bit mean I think.

The nasty bit is just an expression of confusion, he is an emotional mess and doesn't know which way to face. Unless he has been a complete bd to you, let it pass, it will go away with time. Does he fully understand why you split up?

[Cap'n Custud]

tonyvid said:

JonRB said:

Cap'n Custud said:

Ok, so I ask the questin to the PH Massive. What do you do when your ex just wont let go?

I get a cross between innundated with nasty messages followed by even more pledging undying love and begging me to come back.

I don't want to be mean to him but I am lost as to what to do....

Restraining order?

The nasty messages are a form of harassment. If it's not too great of an inconvenience, change your number(s) and don't tell him the new one(s).

It's not as easy as that if you have been together a long time, well, it is but its a bit mean I think.

The nasty bit is just an expression of confusion, he is an emotional mess and doesn't know which way to face. Unless he has been a complete bd to you, let it pass, it will go away with time. Does he fully understand why you split up?

He doesn't understand and is completely ignoring my reasons as to why I don't want us to be together anymore.

[JonRB]

Cap'n Custud said:

He doesn't understand and is completely ignoring my reasons as to why I don't want us to be together anymore.

Well, in that case I probably agree with Nick (Cara Van Man) for once then.

[tonyvid]

I know it is old fashioned, but, can you not write it down in a letter to him so he can go over it again and again until it dissolves into a sodden mass(I have visions of the programme Pulling....)

JonRB said:

Cap'n Custud said:

He doesn't understand and is completely ignoring my reasons as to why I don't want us to be together anymore.

Well, in that case I probably agree with Nick (Cara Van Man) for once then.

My original offer still stands