Ungrateful/Argumentative wife
Discussion
Has the OP ever divulged his family's cultural background?
I am interested to know as his situation seems very different to the vast majority of (virtually secular) UK people that I am aware of in recent decades (probably post WW2)
There are of course people who regret marrying somebody, but given the earlier threads, including pre-marriage, most people would probably not have gone this far before getting out of it
I am interested to know as his situation seems very different to the vast majority of (virtually secular) UK people that I am aware of in recent decades (probably post WW2)
There are of course people who regret marrying somebody, but given the earlier threads, including pre-marriage, most people would probably not have gone this far before getting out of it
Edited by MC Bodge on Thursday 13th June 19:47
MC Bodge said:
Has the OP ever divulged his family's cultural background?
No, he hasn't.Not being facetious, but you know there's a "OP posts only" button? That's always a quick way to see everything the OP has contributes, even in multi-page threads. It seems most people don't seem to know about it!
LunarOne said:
MC Bodge said:
Has the OP ever divulged his family's cultural background?
No, he hasn't.Not being facetious, but you know there's a "OP posts only" button? That's always a quick way to see everything the OP has contributes, even in multi-page threads. It seems most people don't seem to know about it!
By getting the ball rolling I have told my family that I want a divorce, they are fully supportive of it.
Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
TheGreatDane said:
By getting the ball rolling I have told my family that I want a divorce, they are fully supportive of it.
Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
Thanks for answering, it gives a bit of context.Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
I hope that you can resolve what sounds to be a very a difficult situation.
TheGreatDane said:
By getting the ball rolling I have told my family that I want a divorce, they are fully supportive of it.
Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
Keep the momentum going, do something towards it every day. The sooner you're single the sooner you can get on with enjoying your life. Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
TheGreatDane said:
By getting the ball rolling I have told my family that I want a divorce, they are fully supportive of it.
Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
Going to sort things Monday, due to it being Eid Sunday and I don't want to ruin everyones day.
We are both British Pakistani and it wasn't arranged, we met fell in love and got married.
I'm not backing out but I feel extremely beaten up inside, almost like someone has died.
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It’s natural to feel hollowed-out inside, and I’m sure there will be manipulation and coercion to try to get you to change your mind, which might be tempting (“I’ll change!” “I see now how I was acting!”) but something tells me that’s not the right path for you.
Stay the course. Good luck!
TheGreatDane said:
Told her.
She's crying her eyes out and literally begging me, won't let me leave a room until I change my mind.
This is beyond tough.
Be prepared to call the police on 112 and ask for them to attend whilst you leave. She's crying her eyes out and literally begging me, won't let me leave a room until I change my mind.
This is beyond tough.
One sniff of you pushing past her and you can expect to be arrested.
TheGreatDane said:
Told her.
She's crying her eyes out and literally begging me, won't let me leave a room until I change my mind.
This is beyond tough.
TheGreatDane, it will be tough; very tough. Your wife will be convinced she's done nothing wrong. People who behave as she has have absolutely no self-awareness. If you do cave in, you are going to spend your lives like a couple of battling tops, and any children you have will grow up in a toxic stress-laden environment in which their parents do not communicate and are not a cohesive team.She's crying her eyes out and literally begging me, won't let me leave a room until I change my mind.
This is beyond tough.
For the long term good of everyone you must stick to your guns. The fact that your parents, who, as I recall, live with you, agreed pretty quickly that it was the right thing, shows that they are not blind to how hard it has been for you.
There are seven billion people in the world. At least two of those people are a better match for you and your wife. Be strong, be firm.
Digger said:
Get out the house & go for a walk. Take keys obviously. . .
Yes, and when you are in the house make sure you have essentials with you at all times. E.g. do not go into the bathroom in the morning without your wallet. If she's anything like mine was, she will take any opportunity to go in there and remove all your cash and cards so you do not have access to any money if you leave the house. And that was long before we even separated.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff