Urgent Help - Divorce related?
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Matt_N said:
Stigette said:
Is it because you have seen my saggy breasts?
Why not let us be the judge of that?
Far from daring to suggest that TTIUWP, it might be worth mentioning that when somebody has been helped into the correct lane on life's journey, it's customary to express thanks by flashing your hazards. Has Stigette flashed her hazards yet?
Zen. said:
Access:
Please sort this ASAP, a child deserves/needs both parents, but those parents need to hold the childs best interests at heart at all times. Children need boundaries and routine, the access is going to be a life long thing you are going to have to work around, there will be Parents evening, 18th Birthday parties, Graduations and Weddings to name but a few, all these mile stones in your childs life, could endup being tainted, if you don't resolve the access issue. Put you time and energy into facilitating access, even if it drives you mad, I can't tell you the number of times I've bitten my tongue over 15 years, but bite it I do, as it's not just parental access, but there is extended family to consider, which often gives a child a sense of belonging.
Your child may be having difficulty in articulating his feelings, there are a couple of good books out there which may help supprt you all, for children divorce is an emotion the experience a bit like grieving. Try and explore different methods of communicating, writing, drawing model making.
I really really do hate the idea of the stop in access as I have said before I want him to have access, when we first split we were going to be pretty much 60:40 but he has been more like 95:5. It breaks my heart to watch my son sitting by the window waiting for his dad to arrive only for him not to show and there is only so many excuses I can give on behalf of his dad. His actions this week are only a sample of how he messes us about, with lying about working away and then canceling his saturday so he could extend his holiday. The temp stop in access is hopefully a means to an end and I am going to be very explicit with this and why I am doing it with him so that hopefully we can resolve it out of court. My only fear is he will use it as an excuse to walk away. Please sort this ASAP, a child deserves/needs both parents, but those parents need to hold the childs best interests at heart at all times. Children need boundaries and routine, the access is going to be a life long thing you are going to have to work around, there will be Parents evening, 18th Birthday parties, Graduations and Weddings to name but a few, all these mile stones in your childs life, could endup being tainted, if you don't resolve the access issue. Put you time and energy into facilitating access, even if it drives you mad, I can't tell you the number of times I've bitten my tongue over 15 years, but bite it I do, as it's not just parental access, but there is extended family to consider, which often gives a child a sense of belonging.
Your child may be having difficulty in articulating his feelings, there are a couple of good books out there which may help supprt you all, for children divorce is an emotion the experience a bit like grieving. Try and explore different methods of communicating, writing, drawing model making.
His dads extended family can see son anytime they want. Sadly even when we were together they made no effort to.
Yes I think book purchasing would be good. We did make a feelings book together like a picture diary which he has used to express how he feels. I am fortunate enough that in my job I work with professionals in teaching/childcare so I have good resources to draw on.
Matt_N said:
Stigette said:
Is it because you have seen my saggy breasts?
Why not let us be the judge of that?
turbobloke said:
Matt_N said:
Stigette said:
Is it because you have seen my saggy breasts?
Why not let us be the judge of that?Far from daring to suggest that TTIUWP, it might be worth mentioning that when somebody has been helped into the correct lane on life's journey, it's customary to express thanks by flashing your hazards. Has Stigette flashed her hazards yet?
I was thinking more a beer tho? I have no advice I can add but I wanted to chip in with an "all the best". You do seem to have a great attitude to all this plus life in general, but most notably for the welfare of your son. I hope things work out for the best for the pair of you. It's a thoroughly unenviable situation.
Andy Zarse said:
He'll be reduced to living in a damp and filthy bedsit, looking through a mildew covered window at his vandalised Rover 25 sitting up on bricks with it's lights kicked out, a bottle of rancid milk sat on the window ledge outside blindly looking back at him as he can't afford a fridge. He'll watch you and your fantastic new fella picking your boy from school, and realise what a dumb gimp he's been. In short order, his life will become one of abject misery, his girlfriend gone when the money dried up, reduced to eating stale Sunblest white (thin sliced) and daily tins of Heinz BigSoup warmed up on a dirty old Baby Belling stove in a handleless saucepan. As he turns off the naked 40 watt light dangling from the yellowing stained ceiling, slithers into his grimy single bed encrusted with grease and dried spunk from w
king himself asleep, finally sobbing into a stinking thin pillow as he cries the lonely nights away, repeating his mantra "Oh Stigette, what 'ave ya done to us babes?".
Look, it's this kind of positive outcome upon which you need to focus right now.
HTH
king himself asleep, finally sobbing into a stinking thin pillow as he cries the lonely nights away, repeating his mantra "Oh Stigette, what 'ave ya done to us babes?".Look, it's this kind of positive outcome upon which you need to focus right now.
HTH
That sounds wonderful
Sorry me again, another quick question. I think ex maybe be purposely setting himself up for bankrupcy to avoid legal fees etc, if he is caught doing this on purpose i.e. I can prove he had other income and his outgoings were not exceeding his incomings can I do anything to prevent it? i.e. legal action?
p.s. Been rereading this all day and my typing / spelling has been appalling so sorry about that
p.s. Been rereading this all day and my typing / spelling has been appalling so sorry about that
Stigette said:
Sorry me again, another quick question. I think ex maybe be purposely setting himself up for bankrupcy to avoid legal fees etc, if he is caught doing this on purpose i.e. I can prove he had other income and his outgoings were not exceeding his incomings can I do anything to prevent it? i.e. legal action?
Well worth a go but don't let him know that you have that information - again seek legal advice.As an aside, do you have legal cover from your bank or credit card? You maybe able to put some legal costs through them.
JonRB said:
Stigette said:
can backrupy people come after me for money?
I think they can whilst you're married. Certainly your house may be at risk, particularly for loans secured against it obviously. All the more reason to crack on with the Petition.
Surely its illegal to do it on purpose?
Cara Van Man said:
Stigette.
thank you for the private mail, complete with portfolio of your norks.
You do indeed have a whazzer pair of jugs, but no need to risk posting them on the thread.
Thank you. You have made my day with your ample breast.
p.s. Pics of my cock inbound.
No problem! Feel free to pass the pics about. thank you for the private mail, complete with portfolio of your norks.
You do indeed have a whazzer pair of jugs, but no need to risk posting them on the thread.
Thank you. You have made my day with your ample breast.
p.s. Pics of my cock inbound.
I have of yet received no cock pictures. Although someone has mysteriously sent a picture of a maggot?
Is there a fishing forum here? Stigette said:
I have of yet received no cock pictures. Although someone has mysteriously sent a picture of a maggot? Is there a fishing forum here?
Duh! Is there a fishing forum here? You must be looking at the thumbnail of the picture. If you look at the picture in full scale you will notice I have kindly put a 12 inch steel rule next to my rather impressive dong, proving it is in fact a full 3 inches long when angry.
I have the picture of Stigette's boobies and have hosted them up for all.
Click here to see them (NSFW).
Click here to see them (NSFW).
JonRB said:
I have the picture of Stigette's boobies and have hosted them up for all.
Click here to see them (NSFW).
:|Click here to see them (NSFW).
return of the thread killer.
Edited by Cara Van Man on Friday 27th March 16:23
JonRB said:
I have the picture of Stigette's boobies and have hosted them up for all.
Click here to see them (NSFW).
They appear to be pretty erect!Click here to see them (NSFW).
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