Match.com (Vol. 7)

[Bluevanman]

Monkeylegend said:

She probably invited him and for drinks afterwards with her and Travis.

[Monkeylegend]

Good work out for those tonsils

[BunkMoreland]

I do wonder about some of the posters on this thread whether their tales are true, or whether they are all Munchausen by proxy sufferers.

I also want to point out that its clear for a lot of you WHY you are single.

[Petrus1983]

Saleen836 said:

How the hell did Petrus end up going to a Taylor Swift concert!?

A group of friends decided we'd basically book anything that's playing in Cardiff/Swansea. I missed Bruce Springsteen a few weeks ago (they went), but we have Foo Fighters this Tuesday coming and Avril Lavigne the week after. It's so refreshing just jumping on a 1 hour train then strolling to the stadium (via some bars) and then getting home at a reasonable time. Previously going to any sort of gigs seemed like a complete (and expensive) mission.

[Kowalski655]

Also,Swifties are pure filth

[ThingsBehindTheSun]

I was out shopping yesterday when I spotted someone I had dated a few times in my early days of OLD back in 2013. It was just after my separation from my ex wife and I was still a bit messed up emotionally, she was one of the first people I met and I put in way more effort than I should have done. We ended up becoming more like friends with (very) occasional benefits, I used to basically go over and spend time with her at her flat when both of us had nothing better to do.

Back then she wasn't working and was living in a one bedroom council flat. What makes me laugh looking back is that at the time she made it pretty clear I wasn't what she wanted and that she was holding out for the exciting, good looking man with money to wife her up. I would estimate she was about 32 at the time and a 5/6 out of ten maximum.

Nearly 11 years on and time had really not been kind, she looked a lot older than her 43 years and I bet she is still single and living in the same council flat. It got me thinking, in hindsight women like her were ten a penny on OLD sites, all holding out for the right guy and not prepared to lower their standards on what they would accept whilst bringing nothing at all to the table.

I must have been on dates with 20+ women like her, I would love to know what happened to them. I suspect a large percentage are still single, probably still on the dating sites and wondering where all the good men went.

I guess OLD gives some women a completely delusional impression of what man they deserve due to the amount of attention even an average looking woman gets.

I will just add I got the hell out of the shop as soon as I clocked her.

[GloverMart]

moanthebairns said:

Monkeylegend said:

Petrus1983 said:

C4ME said:

That is for the couple to agree on boundaries together. It is not for the fiancé to decide. He does not own her !

Very much this. A good (older) friend told me when I was in my early 20's to treat a partner like a butterfly - if you squeeze to tightly you'll crush them, and they'll die - but if they want to fly off, you have to let them.

Or you can put them in a jam jar with the lid on and an air hole for breathing.

This ended me.

And me....

[trackdemon]

Blown2CV said:

C4ME said:

Blown2CV said:

nobody said that. I don't know where you get your attitudes from but the fact you are filling in the gaps yourself makes me wonder how well adjusted you really are compared to how you'd like to be seen. Do they not call this sort of stuff 'white knighting'? Women don't want pushovers by the way.

I am very well adjusted and thank you for asking. You seem rather old fashioned in attitude from your comments. Women don’t want pushovers is another

I did ask you how you would deal with the situation which you have not answered.

Edited by C4ME on Thursday 20th June 15:45

i suspect she won't go home and tell her fiance about it so it's a moot point. I'd carry on unaware of it, if it was me.

It's probably safe to assume there's a disparity between what's written here and reality.

The problem with your missus giving her number out is we (as in, us blokes) know that there's almost always an MO for blokes getting a womans number and we all know where that ends. It's how we're programmed, it's not a critique, just base biological fact. Ask yourself this - would you get the number of an ugly chubber because she had a nice personality? Would you even talk to her in the first place? I know that's harsh but it's human reality, we like to be around attractive people. And if she's hot there's probably a thought of what it might be like to jump into bed with her, it's natural to think that way. Ergo there's every reason to be a bit sus about a guy getting your g/f or wives number, because it's highly likely they are seeing a target no matter how innocent the interaction is posited as....

[interstellar]

How was the meet up with the couple Petrus?

[Blown2CV]

trackdemon said:

Blown2CV said:

C4ME said:

Blown2CV said:

nobody said that. I don't know where you get your attitudes from but the fact you are filling in the gaps yourself makes me wonder how well adjusted you really are compared to how you'd like to be seen. Do they not call this sort of stuff 'white knighting'? Women don't want pushovers by the way.

I am very well adjusted and thank you for asking. You seem rather old fashioned in attitude from your comments. Women don’t want pushovers is another

I did ask you how you would deal with the situation which you have not answered.

Edited by C4ME on Thursday 20th June 15:45

i suspect she won't go home and tell her fiance about it so it's a moot point. I'd carry on unaware of it, if it was me.

It's probably safe to assume there's a disparity between what's written here and reality.

The problem with your missus giving her number out is we (as in, us blokes) know that there's almost always an MO for blokes getting a womans number and we all know where that ends. It's how we're programmed, it's not a critique, just base biological fact. Ask yourself this - would you get the number of an ugly chubber because she had a nice personality? Would you even talk to her in the first place? I know that's harsh but it's human reality, we like to be around attractive people. And if she's hot there's probably a thought of what it might be like to jump into bed with her, it's natural to think that way. Ergo there's every reason to be a bit sus about a guy getting your g/f or wives number, because it's highly likely they are seeing a target no matter how innocent the interaction is posited as....

cheating is not only instigated by men; far from it. It doesn't sound like Petrus was doing anything wrong, but the point is no one knows her intentions, as she was the only one who knew she was engaged until she happened to mention it - it sounds late on in the convo.

[Secret lemonade drinker]

LordHaveMurci said:

mickythefish said:

Ok my tiktok plan failed, but realised on Facebook there are hiking singles and hiking dating and single groups. So will try that place now

Good luck with that

Yeah it’s worse than pof

[PAUL.S.]

interstellar said:

How was the meet up with the couple Petrus?

He is a bit tied up at the moment to reply I think, picture the basement scene in Pulp Fiction

[Petrus1983]

PAUL.S. said:

interstellar said:

How was the meet up with the couple Petrus?

He is a bit tied up at the moment to reply I think, picture the basement scene in Pulp Fiction

It's meant to be later in the week but I may have to cancel anyway to dash up to Manchester.

[Secret lemonade drinker]

Is bumble friends and Facebook friends a secret way for none out men to meet men

Innocently I am on both just looking for friends to build a social circle but I’ve got a suspicion I’ve inadvertently advertised myself as a closet gay

[Blown2CV]

Secret lemonade drinker said:

Is bumble friends and Facebook friends a secret way for none out men to meet men

Innocently I am on both just looking for friends to build a social circle but I’ve got a suspicion I’ve inadvertently advertised myself as a closet gay

i think you may already know the answer to this!

[Secret lemonade drinker]

Blown2CV said:

Secret lemonade drinker said:

Is bumble friends and Facebook friends a secret way for none out men to meet men

Innocently I am on both just looking for friends to build a social circle but I’ve got a suspicion I’ve inadvertently advertised myself as a closet gay

i think you may already know the answer to this!

I know

Edited by Secret lemonade drinker on Tuesday 25th June 19:50

[Secret lemonade drinker]

Switched back to dating, phone lit up this time not with fellow men wanting a good old bum blasting

[Capitan Obvio]

Secret lemonade drinker said:

Blown2CV said:

Secret lemonade drinker said:

Is bumble friends and Facebook friends a secret way for none out men to meet men

Innocently I am on both just looking for friends to build a social circle but I’ve got a suspicion I’ve inadvertently advertised myself as a closet gay

i think you may already know the answer to this!

I know

Edited by Secret lemonade drinker on Tuesday 25th June 19:50

Meh look on the bright side, at least you'll get some free fashion advice and a trendy haircut.

[Secret lemonade drinker]

Capitan Obvio said:

Meh look on the bright side, at least you'll get some free fashion advice and a trendy haircut.

I still feel like I parked up at a French airie to grab a refreshing pit stop and discovered the stall had a glory hole

I’ll not be making that mistake again. fool me twice and all that

Now for another question. It’s been 2 months since getting the elbow, it had been ropey for a while. Is now too soon to get back in the game?

[ThingsBehindTheSun]

Secret lemonade drinker said:

Now for another question. It’s been 2 months since getting the elbow, it had been ropey for a while. Is now too soon to get back in the game?

Only you will know when you are ready. How long were you together, was it a relief when it ended or did you not see it coming?

Did you live together, are you married, children involved, finances/house to sort out?