Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
C4ME said:
^^^^
I think you are viewing it through who your partner's father dates. Lots of women in their 50s, 60s own their house, financially independent, don't want to live with you full time and are physically attractive. Perhaps your partner's father attracts (perhaps he does it deliberately) a certain type of woman.
I am with you on not dating a woman you do not find sexually attractive as otherwise it's just friendship. Not all 50+ women are poor and unattractive though, just as not all 50+ men are rich desirable hunks (except on PH
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One thing you do find is an increase in poly relationships and part time (timewise) relationships in the 50+ as people look to manage their lives and relationships in a more self centred way. It takes a shift in mindset. Feeld is a good dating app for this (Feeld is my OLD app of choice).
Attracting and dating a successful 50+ who is not looking for the 'one', is comfortable with themselves, and sees you as an addition to their life rather than the centre of it has different rules and expectations. Some people can find this hard to adapt to.
Fair enough. I think you are viewing it through who your partner's father dates. Lots of women in their 50s, 60s own their house, financially independent, don't want to live with you full time and are physically attractive. Perhaps your partner's father attracts (perhaps he does it deliberately) a certain type of woman.
I am with you on not dating a woman you do not find sexually attractive as otherwise it's just friendship. Not all 50+ women are poor and unattractive though, just as not all 50+ men are rich desirable hunks (except on PH
)One thing you do find is an increase in poly relationships and part time (timewise) relationships in the 50+ as people look to manage their lives and relationships in a more self centred way. It takes a shift in mindset. Feeld is a good dating app for this (Feeld is my OLD app of choice).
Attracting and dating a successful 50+ who is not looking for the 'one', is comfortable with themselves, and sees you as an addition to their life rather than the centre of it has different rules and expectations. Some people can find this hard to adapt to.
Edited by C4ME on Tuesday 18th June 22:15
I guess when I’m in my 70s I’ll evaluate whether I’m now seeing lots of physically attractive women in their 60s.
But for now they’re obviously all on a secret island somewhere I’ve never visited.
CloudStuff said:
Need to up our game with a little vid to add to the OLD profiles;
https://x.com/sarah_katilyn/status/180285428175150...
that's amazing; loving the costume changes showing his varied looks including cool leather bomber.https://x.com/sarah_katilyn/status/180285428175150...
and that will actually appeal to some too
I ended up at the Taylor Swift concert last night and got talking to a funny, sexy girl who amazingly had gone to the same high school in Dallas that my son goes to, had a good job, lives less than 5 miles away, she suggested we could play tennis during the summer, exchanged numbers etc etc. Later on I suggested we could grab a drink at the nice beach bar near us sometime and she replied "that's a nice idea - my fiancé really likes it there too". 
Petrus1983 said:
I ended up at the Taylor Swift concert last night and got talking to a funny, sexy girl who amazingly had gone to the same high school in Dallas that my son goes to, had a good job, lives less than 5 miles away, she suggested we could play tennis during the summer, exchanged numbers etc etc. Later on I suggested we could grab a drink at the nice beach bar near us sometime and she replied "that's a nice idea - my fiancé really likes it there too".
She wants to see you taking it from the bf.Petrus1983 said:
I ended up at the Taylor Swift concert last night and got talking to a funny, sexy girl who amazingly had gone to the same high school in Dallas that my son goes to, had a good job, lives less than 5 miles away, she suggested we could play tennis during the summer, exchanged numbers etc etc. Later on I suggested we could grab a drink at the nice beach bar near us sometime and she replied "that's a nice idea - my fiancé really likes it there too".
What happened to the hairdresser or alot changed in the space of 24 hours? Petrus1983 said:
Blown2CV said:
not sure about that man you swapped numbers
To grab a coffee and play tennis. I'd obviously thought it would be nice for more - but she wanted coffee and a game of tennis. There's nothing wrong with that in a relationship. Blown2CV said:
Petrus1983 said:
Blown2CV said:
not sure about that man you swapped numbers
To grab a coffee and play tennis. I'd obviously thought it would be nice for more - but she wanted coffee and a game of tennis. There's nothing wrong with that in a relationship. Blown2CV said:
Petrus1983 said:
Blown2CV said:
not sure about that man you swapped numbers
To grab a coffee and play tennis. I'd obviously thought it would be nice for more - but she wanted coffee and a game of tennis. There's nothing wrong with that in a relationship. C4ME said:
Blown2CV said:
Petrus1983 said:
Blown2CV said:
not sure about that man you swapped numbers
To grab a coffee and play tennis. I'd obviously thought it would be nice for more - but she wanted coffee and a game of tennis. There's nothing wrong with that in a relationship. C4ME said:
That is for the couple to agree on boundaries together. It is not for the fiancé to decide. He does not own her !
Very much this. A good (older) friend told me when I was in my early 20's to treat a partner like a butterfly - if you squeeze to tightly you'll crush them, and they'll die - but if they want to fly off, you have to let them. Petrus1983 said:
C4ME said:
That is for the couple to agree on boundaries together. It is not for the fiancé to decide. He does not own her !
Very much this. A good (older) friend told me when I was in my early 20's to treat a partner like a butterfly - if you squeeze to tightly you'll crush them, and they'll die - but if they want to fly off, you have to let them. Blown2CV said:
I think a guy is certainly allowed to decide where his own boundaries are? He can certainly decide whether he would be pissed off about it or not
Of course he can decide what his boundaries are and communicate to his partner what they are. Knowing your boundaries and communicating them clearly is a good quality in a relationship. It is however for a couple to jointly agree boundaries, not have them imposed by either side.Blown2CV said:
Besides if it is an agreeable boundary then there would be no perceived issue in letting him know.
I am going to take an educated guess that she has a good relationship with her fiancé and was going to let him know. The lady clearly let Petrus know she was attached in a respectful way at the point she felt there might be a misinterpretation of intention. Behaved very honorably IMO.Blown2CV said:
Most guys would be pretty pissed off if their mrs' were out there giving out their numbers to guys to meet up with.
There is so much assumption in this sentence.Blown2CV said:
I don't really think this is something that needs a sit down discussion for every couple, it's fairly obvious.
Open communication is a very important part of any relationship.How would you deal with this situation if you were the fiancé?
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