Went ballistic at my OH browsing my facebook
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The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Martial Arts Man said:
The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Fair point, but this is Facebook. It's not going to have sensitive or commercial information on it. He's going to be seeing what people have been doing since school, and sending flirty messages to women. That's what it's for.It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
If she'd been accessing his online banking I could see his upset, even emails, but this just screams 'I'm keeping a couple of other women on the boil' incase things go tits up with you...which is fine but don't be upset when you get caught doing this.
I personally think you have over reacted. If as you say, there was nothing on there 'dodgy' then perhaps it was no big deal that she read your facebook messages.
I suppose it depends on how open the relationship is with your partner. However, I can see the other side of the coin too. Maybe she should not have been looking into your stuff.
Nevertheless, you could have been firm and diplomatic in your approah and achieved a better result.
I suppose it depends on how open the relationship is with your partner. However, I can see the other side of the coin too. Maybe she should not have been looking into your stuff.
Nevertheless, you could have been firm and diplomatic in your approah and achieved a better result.
Dr Imran T said:
Nevertheless, you could have been firm and diplomatic in your approah and achieved a better result.
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Scrubs said:
Dr Imran T said:
Nevertheless, you could have been firm and diplomatic in your approah and achieved a better result.
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I agree with many posters on this thread that she is the one that was at fault though.
I keep my facebook profile for family (overseas) and friends I rarely see. Its a strict policy. Never had more than 57 "friends" on there.
Until missus decides she wants in (to be added as a friend) and is going to huff till she gets it.
I said ok because I have nothing to hide, but on the condition that she doesnt get bent out of shape about anything she sees on there.
2 weeks later, shes screaming at me about some pictures she saw and how after checking the dates (that would be the date they were added, NOT the date they were taken), I must have cheated on her.
I deleted her from Facebook the next morning from my blackberry.
It really is more trouble than its worth.
Until missus decides she wants in (to be added as a friend) and is going to huff till she gets it.
I said ok because I have nothing to hide, but on the condition that she doesnt get bent out of shape about anything she sees on there.
2 weeks later, shes screaming at me about some pictures she saw and how after checking the dates (that would be the date they were added, NOT the date they were taken), I must have cheated on her.
I deleted her from Facebook the next morning from my blackberry.
It really is more trouble than its worth.
isee said:
Caught my mrs browsing my facebook on the iphone, reading the messages from my female friends etc.
There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
Go and punch her, let her know who is the BOSS! Just walk up, check first base, then WHAM, sucker punch her on the jaw.There was nothing incriminating on there but that really pissed me off in principle.
I confiscated the phone and told her in strong language that what she did is just not on.
To make a long story short she is now upset with ME and is not talking to me unless she has to...
WTF!?
Have I overreacted?
I suppose I made myself look guilty in her eyes by reacting so strongly. I have nothing to hide but it doesn't mean it's ok to read my personal inbox. I never read her messages whenever she leaves her mailbox open on my pc. I never browse through her text messages on her phone either.
I do believe that if you are looking for something you will find it eventually though...
It pisses me off that rather than apologising I am the guilty one now. Not sure how that works but if she keeps that up I am tempted to throw in the towel.
V8mate said:
isee said:
V8mate said:
I'll give it seven days until you post again bleating about your wife having left you.
in 7 days maybe but at this precise moment in time i feel like i'd help her pack her things.![](/inc/images/censored.gif)
Edited by V8mate on Tuesday 31st March 16:55
if you happy you dont go messing around.,and you certainley dont have a prob with other half reading your posts.......nothing to hide?????? I thinks NOT..!!!!!!!!!
If she is looking then she must feel she has reason too.
Dick_Phallus said:
Martial Arts Man said:
The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Fair point, but this is Facebook. It's not going to have sensitive or commercial information on it. He's going to be seeing what people have been doing since school, and sending flirty messages to women. That's what it's for.It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
If she'd been accessing his online banking I could see his upset, even emails, but this just screams 'I'm keeping a couple of other women on the boil' incase things go tits up with you...which is fine but don't be upset when you get caught doing this.
isee said:
Dick_Phallus said:
Martial Arts Man said:
The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Fair point, but this is Facebook. It's not going to have sensitive or commercial information on it. He's going to be seeing what people have been doing since school, and sending flirty messages to women. That's what it's for.It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
If she'd been accessing his online banking I could see his upset, even emails, but this just screams 'I'm keeping a couple of other women on the boil' incase things go tits up with you...which is fine but don't be upset when you get caught doing this.
tinman0 said:
escargot said:
What the f
k? Why are people siding with the psychotic, jealous bunny boiler in this?
Because if you love someone you have nothing to hide. Couldn't care less if MsT started reading my Facebook account.![](/inc/images/censored.gif)
srebbe64 said:
isee said:
Dick_Phallus said:
Martial Arts Man said:
The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Fair point, but this is Facebook. It's not going to have sensitive or commercial information on it. He's going to be seeing what people have been doing since school, and sending flirty messages to women. That's what it's for.It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
If she'd been accessing his online banking I could see his upset, even emails, but this just screams 'I'm keeping a couple of other women on the boil' incase things go tits up with you...which is fine but don't be upset when you get caught doing this.
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srebbe64 said:
isee said:
Dick_Phallus said:
Martial Arts Man said:
The way I see it, the access to information rules get more relaxed as a relationship progresses.
It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
Fair point, but this is Facebook. It's not going to have sensitive or commercial information on it. He's going to be seeing what people have been doing since school, and sending flirty messages to women. That's what it's for.It's easy to give the OP a hard time, but he may have only been with his partner for a short period. That is a totally different kettle of fish to being married guys!
Thing is, I'm not sure I would be comfortable to open my whole life to a girlfriend at all. A wife, no problem, you're in it together. But no way a girlfriend!
Is it really a girlfriend's place to have access to all one's private (and sometimes sensitive or commercial) info and correspondance?
Hell no!
If she'd been accessing his online banking I could see his upset, even emails, but this just screams 'I'm keeping a couple of other women on the boil' incase things go tits up with you...which is fine but don't be upset when you get caught doing this.
So, when you want a second opinion you tell your mates? (or the most trusted mate?) who then tells his most trusted mate, who then tells his girlfriend, who then tells her best mate who happens to be your girlfriend? Yeah I can see how that might be a better option...
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