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Clueless old lad, you've really got to start networking. Join some clubs or societies where other young people meet. Maybe through the church. Don't spend all your time at home dwelling on how crap life is. If you keep beating yourself up, you'll never get yourself out from under. Do some internet dating; honestly anything must be better than where you are at the moment.
I'm old enough to be your dad, maybe even granddad and I've been in a fair amount of s
t in my life. You will get through this bad period, but you must start getting your mind into a more positive frame. If you are really up against a wall of depression, get help; start with your GP.
I'm old enough to be your dad, maybe even granddad and I've been in a fair amount of s
t in my life. You will get through this bad period, but you must start getting your mind into a more positive frame. If you are really up against a wall of depression, get help; start with your GP. Utterly Clueless said:
AJS- said:
Are you a virgin?
no, but i was until i was 18 and have only had sex the once, again here comes the pisstaking, but oh well.Edited by Utterly Clueless on Sunday 22 March 23:44
Poor girl just doesn't want to drown, that's all.
rabw said:
Utterly Clueless said:
ianash said:
Utterly Clueless said:
OllieWinchester said:
When will you learn. Stop dropping yourself in it FFS! You are either a troll, or you get off on being ridiculed on a public forum. Throw your bloody PC out of the window and go out with your mates or something!
I would if i had friends.ETA: this will solve everything as you won't think about this girl, you'll get some new ones, and when you do you won't be so needy and uptight as there will be other ones to distract you if one starts becoming hard work.
Edited by rabw on Sunday 22 March 23:58
You need to get out, make some new friends, get into more social circles, and most of all, get talking to other women. It seems that you are locking yourself away and you have nothing else to concentrate on other than this girl and your current situation.
You said you have known her for years but wouldn't have sex with her when she offered it. Have you considered the fact that there may be something inside you that is uncomfortable with this (or if you do 'bowl from the pavillion end', there is something inside you on a regular basis!). I think you need to find someone else to go slow with.
You seem to be getting far too messed up about this, and you are only 20 ffs. She is 18 and is but still a baby snake with tits. She will learn her lesson one day, and one day she may mature and seek you out again (when Wayne from down the road has provided her with 4 kids and is inside on probation).
But, would you really want to pursue somebody who has quite obviously had more pricks than a dartboard? And, would you want to do this knowing that? Does the term 'stirring the porridge' spring to mind?
On the other side of this you may seem too settled for her. She has made you an offer whereby she agrees to let you hang out of her, whilst you hang out with her, and you said 'no'. Then you seem to have piled on the 'settle down' nonsense. Maybe she just wants a casual fling?
The one thing about your posts that does concern me is when you state that you are trying to get through to someone who doesn't even acknowledge your existence. Herein lies the problem. You are on the radar then off, sort of like a stealth fighter with a dodgy panel. It's a game my friend and you are playing it like a numpty.
schmalex said:
Utterly Clueless said:
AJS- said:
Are you a virgin?
no, but i was until i was 18 and have only had sex the once, again here comes the pisstaking, but oh well.Edited by Utterly Clueless on Sunday 22 March 23:44
Poor girl just doesn't want to drown, that's all.
Lagerlout said:
I can't believe I'm the first to say this but... TROLL.. Clearly we have a first year pysch student here having a laugh... If not I'm speechless. 
Nope, not a troll, just someone unconfortable with how they look and therefore putoff the idea of sex due to fear of disgusting the other person/embarassing them by having bigger tits.Edited by Utterly Clueless on Monday 23 March 00:21
OK, listen very carefully, serious advice coming up.
1. Ignore her. She loves the attention. The worst that will happen is that that's it between you. She may come crawling back. But for God's sake avoid the embarrassment of you chasing her like a puppy dog.
2. Don't come out with all this stuff on a forum no matter how much you want to bare your heart. You will regret it in the long term, and Google Bots have a long memory.
3. Don't try so hard or beat yourself up about it. Relax, find some things you enjoy doing, join some clubs, improve yourself. Get a bike license, start jogging, learn a musical instrument. Women like confident men who are comfortable with themselves.
4. Enjoy yourself. You are young, you shouldn't be worrying about settling down or relationships. Get laid, date a few girls, keep it informal. Maybe something will come from it, maybe not, but you'll have fun.
You sound like rather a serious young man. Relax, try not to let it bother you or get you down, and you will be a lot happier and have a lot more success with the opposite sex.
The love doctor is IN!
ETA: Aha - we have body image issues! Get down the gym or start jogging/swimming. Be comfortable with who you are though.
1. Ignore her. She loves the attention. The worst that will happen is that that's it between you. She may come crawling back. But for God's sake avoid the embarrassment of you chasing her like a puppy dog.
2. Don't come out with all this stuff on a forum no matter how much you want to bare your heart. You will regret it in the long term, and Google Bots have a long memory.
3. Don't try so hard or beat yourself up about it. Relax, find some things you enjoy doing, join some clubs, improve yourself. Get a bike license, start jogging, learn a musical instrument. Women like confident men who are comfortable with themselves.
4. Enjoy yourself. You are young, you shouldn't be worrying about settling down or relationships. Get laid, date a few girls, keep it informal. Maybe something will come from it, maybe not, but you'll have fun.
You sound like rather a serious young man. Relax, try not to let it bother you or get you down, and you will be a lot happier and have a lot more success with the opposite sex.
The love doctor is IN!
ETA: Aha - we have body image issues! Get down the gym or start jogging/swimming. Be comfortable with who you are though.
Edited by NiceCupOfTea on Monday 23 March 00:24
Utterly Clueless said:
Lagerlout said:
I can't believe I'm the first to say this but... TROLL.. Clearly we have a first year pysch student here having a laugh... If not I'm speechless.
Nope, not a troll, just someone unconfortable with how they look and therefore putoff the idea of sex due to fear of disgusting the other person/embarassing them by having bigger tits.Edited by Utterly Clueless on Monday 23 March 00:21
Utterly Clueless said:
Gym would be great bu injuries from cycling limit what i can do, swimming would be good but i dont like it for much the same reasons i dont fk much
Just wear a mankini & strap 'em in. k muchI've got a reasonable pair & moobs and, dare I say it, ginger hair. But, I've always done OK for myself.
It's all about confidence and making sure you pull in a dark club
schmalex said:
Utterly Clueless said:
Gym would be great bu injuries from cycling limit what i can do, swimming would be good but i dont like it for much the same reasons i dont fk much
Just wear a mankini & strap 'em in. k muchI've got a reasonable pair & moobs and, dare I say it, ginger hair. But, I've always done OK for myself.
It's all about confidence and making sure you pull a drunk bird in a dark club
Sweet Jesus! Clueless, you really do have verbal (or in this case, written) diarrhoea. Were you as brutally honest with her as you have been here? You probably scared her off!
If you'd been chasing her for 5 years, you probably already had how the relationship would go mapped out in your head, probably a different way to her, as she had only become aware of you "in that way" recently.
Just chill out, keep a few things to yourself. There's nothing better than an air of mystery! And do get out and find people more on your wavelength as she clearly isn't what you had built her up to be in all that time. Good luck!
If you'd been chasing her for 5 years, you probably already had how the relationship would go mapped out in your head, probably a different way to her, as she had only become aware of you "in that way" recently.
Just chill out, keep a few things to yourself. There's nothing better than an air of mystery! And do get out and find people more on your wavelength as she clearly isn't what you had built her up to be in all that time. Good luck!
Utterly Clueless said:
Nope, not a troll, just someone unconfortable with how they look and therefore putoff the idea of sex due to fear of disgusting the other person/embarassing them by having bigger tits.
Find a nice chubby girl if you are not confident with your own appearance. Personality is far more important than looks especially if youre after a proper relationship.Edited by Utterly Clueless on Monday 23 March 00:21
I remember from when you posted your photo up before that you looked ok. Trust me, I'm a homosexual. I know about such things.
Alexj800 said:
Utterly Clueless said:
Nope, not a troll, just someone unconfortable with how they look and therefore putoff the idea of sex due to fear of disgusting the other person/embarassing them by having bigger tits.
Find a nice chubby girl if you are not confident with your own appearance. Personality is far more important than looks especially if youre after a proper relationship.Edited by Utterly Clueless on Monday 23 March 00:21
I remember from when you posted your photo up before that you looked ok. Trust me, I'm a homosexual. I know about such things.
I'm now with a slightly chubbier girl (size 12 so not massive) who is amazing. Have a real connection and all that crap. Not who I pictured myself with at all but I've never been happier.
Looks fade. Personality doesn't.
To be fair, size 12 isn't quite at the "dust them in flour to see where the wet patch is" stage though. Still, a little something to hang on to is much more preferable than banging a stick person.
ETA. It really is all about the personality. I would hate to be in a relationship with a vacuous Paris Hilton-esque type of person.
ETA. It really is all about the personality. I would hate to be in a relationship with a vacuous Paris Hilton-esque type of person.
Edited by schmalex on Monday 23 March 00:53
now thats probably how i should have explained it as it would made things simpler. I'm a personality not looks type of person. If the personality is there then im much more comfortable in a relationship than if its seemingly based on looks, which is where i get depressed and fk things up.
now i know what i need to do!!!
k things up.now i know what i need to do!!!
i need to grow a pair
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