Ungrateful/Argumentative wife
Discussion
Stick Legs said:
southendpier said:
Just one more fight and I'll be history
Yes, I will straight up leave your s
t
And you'll be the one who's left
Missing me, yeah
This time I'ma let it all come out
This time I'ma stand up and shout
I'ma do things my way, it's my way
My way or the highway
Tell me you are 40 something without telling me you are 40 something…Yes, I will straight up leave your s
tAnd you'll be the one who's left
Missing me, yeah
This time I'ma let it all come out
This time I'ma stand up and shout
I'ma do things my way, it's my way
My way or the highway
I had to put that album on based on that post.
(46)
I
'm nearly 60 and knew straight away what band/song it was.
You think you're special, you do
I can see it in your eyes
I can see it when you laugh at me
Look down on me and walk around on me......
Apologies been at work so unable to respond.
I actually wish I was trolling, would make my life easier.
Valid points about my previous threads, I make a decision then I back out because weirdly on some level despite how toxic she is I do care for her. Not to mind the last time I said I want to divorce she grabbed a knife and attempted to go for her wrists.
I wish it was as easy as just filing for it. She's said she won't leave this house unless it's in a bodybag.
I always (inexplicably) give her the benefit of doubt that she'll change or she'll be fine in a bit but no.
We got back from holiday Sunday and today shes kicked off again about why my siblings don't talk to her or make an effort (my siblings feel awkward with her due to her previous behaviour but she doesn't agree). I said I can't control what other do and then she said you're disloyal to me and always have been.
She said our sex life means nothing because I'm emotionally distant from her, I hand on heart don't know what more I can do.
I may come across as a troll or someone wasting everyone's time, but I am utterly broken. I gave my up so much of my life for her that I can't get back.
I appreciate everyone's input especially the posts that made me chuckle (e92 335d).
I'll try to respond when I can.
I actually wish I was trolling, would make my life easier.
Valid points about my previous threads, I make a decision then I back out because weirdly on some level despite how toxic she is I do care for her. Not to mind the last time I said I want to divorce she grabbed a knife and attempted to go for her wrists.
I wish it was as easy as just filing for it. She's said she won't leave this house unless it's in a bodybag.
I always (inexplicably) give her the benefit of doubt that she'll change or she'll be fine in a bit but no.
We got back from holiday Sunday and today shes kicked off again about why my siblings don't talk to her or make an effort (my siblings feel awkward with her due to her previous behaviour but she doesn't agree). I said I can't control what other do and then she said you're disloyal to me and always have been.
She said our sex life means nothing because I'm emotionally distant from her, I hand on heart don't know what more I can do.
I may come across as a troll or someone wasting everyone's time, but I am utterly broken. I gave my up so much of my life for her that I can't get back.
I appreciate everyone's input especially the posts that made me chuckle (e92 335d).
I'll try to respond when I can.
Just every step of the way she's insulted me or put me down.
She egged me on to buy my dream car (e92/3 M3), I bought one.
Within 2 weeks she asked me to replace the flooring in the house and I said well I've just bought the car so I need to wait a bit.
Response to that: So you have money for a car but not the house.
I've been driven to the brink of insanity with crap like this.
She egged me on to buy my dream car (e92/3 M3), I bought one.
Within 2 weeks she asked me to replace the flooring in the house and I said well I've just bought the car so I need to wait a bit.
Response to that: So you have money for a car but not the house.
I've been driven to the brink of insanity with crap like this.
Couple of observations, gained from your posting history not just this thread.
She has some very deep seated issues, likely BPD. It’s extremely unlikely she can be brought to recognise this and enter therapy. If this is the case, the choice is really yours as to whether you endure the situation, or leave.
Caring for her. Yes it’s classic codependency.
Read up on both. Seek therapy yourself. amongst the first things they’ll tell you is that you’re not responsible for someone else’s actions. The suicide threats are also classic/textbook.
Know yourself, know her, speak to someone, make a conscious decision.
Been there, got out, happier for it.
She has some very deep seated issues, likely BPD. It’s extremely unlikely she can be brought to recognise this and enter therapy. If this is the case, the choice is really yours as to whether you endure the situation, or leave.
Caring for her. Yes it’s classic codependency.
Read up on both. Seek therapy yourself. amongst the first things they’ll tell you is that you’re not responsible for someone else’s actions. The suicide threats are also classic/textbook.
Know yourself, know her, speak to someone, make a conscious decision.
Been there, got out, happier for it.
Jimjimhim said:
TheGreatDane said:
dudleybloke said:
Does she have family nearby so you can drop her off there?
Yes but they are of the same mindset, they'll just say marriage is hard put up with it don't be weak.TheGreatDane said:
Just every step of the way she's insulted me or put me down.
She egged me on to buy my dream car (e92/3 M3), I bought one.
Within 2 weeks she asked me to replace the flooring in the house and I said well I've just bought the car so I need to wait a bit.
Response to that: So you have money for a car but not the house.
I've been driven to the brink of insanity with crap like this.
You will not resolve this without action though.She egged me on to buy my dream car (e92/3 M3), I bought one.
Within 2 weeks she asked me to replace the flooring in the house and I said well I've just bought the car so I need to wait a bit.
Response to that: So you have money for a car but not the house.
I've been driven to the brink of insanity with crap like this.
Either tell her exactly how you feel and suggest therapy. Or file for divorce and separate.
OP, I do think that you are looking at this the wrong way round. This isn’t a negotiation (if you don’t want it to be), you can tell her that it’s over, you can speak to a lawyer, and you can start the divorce process.
You don’t need her agreement for any of that.
And that doesn’t mean you have to be an arse about it, you can tell her politely that it’s over, and explain what you are doing.
You don’t need her agreement for any of that.
And that doesn’t mean you have to be an arse about it, you can tell her politely that it’s over, and explain what you are doing.
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