Dog, Dilemma Keep or Not

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Oliver Hardy

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3,001 posts

81 months

Tuesday 15th August 2023
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In May I was asked to look after a dog, won't be for long two weeks I was told. Originally there was two of them, I had the other one for a few days he went to the guys sister, although I volunteered to look after both, he went permanently to the new owner.

Three months on I have been told I can keep the dog or they can rehouse him with someone else.

Now I have become attached to him, he is a lovely dog even though he gets me up at 6am and has destroyed a few things around the house and although it will present me with some major changes in my plans my instinct is to keep him.

But, he was with a pal for all his life and he is not capable of playing by himself, he doesn't want to chase a ball, play tug and so on, although I have been trying to get him to. He lies in various places around the house and all he wants me to do is scratch his chest. Won't stay outside, although he used to with the other dog.

The other people have a dog and I am wondering if he will be better off with them for that reason?


Fermit

13,240 posts

107 months

Tuesday 15th August 2023
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Does he seem happy with you, and if so are you prepared to have him around for up to 20 years? (subject to age/breed)

moorx

3,931 posts

121 months

Tuesday 15th August 2023
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Some dogs don't naturally play, either due to their breed type or their upbringing. It's common, for example, for racing greyhounds not to understand how to play, because they don't really get puppyhoods.

Likewise, we have an ex puppy farm dog who doesn't know what toys are or how to play with other dogs (and doesn't really seem bothered by what she's missing - our two other dogs play with each other/toys regularly, so she does see it).

How old is the dog and what breed/type? Did he used to play with the other dog, or were they just company for each other? Again, some dogs are perfectly happy just chilling out.

You sound as though you'd quite like to keep him, but (as Fermit says) it is a long-term commitment and does affect your life. I can't imagine life without at least one dog, but I've been brought up with them since age 5, so don't really know any different.

Boosted LS1

21,198 posts

267 months

Tuesday 15th August 2023
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Will you miss him when he's gone and your house is lonely? If you've bonded then keep him especially if he adds quality to your life. :-) Dogs are amazing animals.

Have you a piccy :-)

lost in espace

6,297 posts

214 months

Wednesday 16th August 2023
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if you have doubts rehome him.

Simpo Two

87,072 posts

272 months

Wednesday 16th August 2023
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Oliver Hardy said:
The other people have a dog and I am wondering if he will be better off with them for that reason?
What 'other people'? Is it the other dog?

Muzzer79

11,060 posts

194 months

Wednesday 16th August 2023
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Oliver Hardy said:
In May I was asked to look after a dog, won't be for long two weeks I was told. Originally there was two of them, I had the other one for a few days he went to the guys sister, although I volunteered to look after both, he went permanently to the new owner.

Three months on I have been told I can keep the dog or they can rehouse him with someone else.

Now I have become attached to him, he is a lovely dog even though he gets me up at 6am and has destroyed a few things around the house and although it will present me with some major changes in my plans my instinct is to keep him.

But, he was with a pal for all his life and he is not capable of playing by himself, he doesn't want to chase a ball, play tug and so on, although I have been trying to get him to. He lies in various places around the house and all he wants me to do is scratch his chest. Won't stay outside, although he used to with the other dog.

The other people have a dog and I am wondering if he will be better off with them for that reason?
Dogs take a long time to settle into a new home with new owners. As long as 12 months, maybe more.

So the not being capable of playing by himself and only wanting chest scratches is early days.

People think that dogs think like humans, but they don't. They think instinctually, so not having his 'pal' is also not necessarily a huge thing for him in the long run.
That's not to say he wouldn't welcome a companion, just that its not absolutely necessary.

If you want to keep him, keep him. Just ensure you're committed, obviously. But give him time.