So your child just told you they're not Binary

[Al Gorithum]

Dig deep on this.

What would happen if your life was taken off-kilter when your child told you that they're not Binary/Hetero?

Personally I don't have that concern but it wouldn't be an issue because of the deep love for them and the joy they bring me (and I'll hopefully be dead long before them).

I imagine it could be an issue for extreme right-wing / religious folk?

[anonymous-user]

I've got two wishes for my kids

1. Be happy
2. Don't hurt anybody else.

This question falls under no.1

[Axionknight]

Anyone who voted (or would vote) for the bottom option needs to go and take a good long look at themselves in the mirror, frankly.

[Alorotom]

My nibling (formerly nephew) came out as non-binary about 18mths ago.

They changed their name at the same time to something that could be either/or.

They are happy in themselves (but getting used to using the correct pronouns in conversation on-the-fly is challenging at first - but that's everyone else's issue not theirs) which is all that matters really.

Probably worth adding that older family members haven't accepted it well (as have the catholic family contingent too) - again that's their problem if they can't choose to accept their relatives chosen lifestyle. Their loss.

[theboss]

Non binary - I would be concerned

Non hetero - wouldn't bat an eyelid

[A500leroy]

The non binary thing i dont get, your genitals tell you which you are, who they sleep with when they are older, whatever.

[Cfnteabag]

My daughter went through a phase, along with a couple of school friends, of declaring themselves none binary, I can't say I was particularly bothered by it, same as I wasn't when she had a girlfriend previously but I did ask her what it actually meant to her and what the point of it was. She couldn't really answer other than social media clichés

[DB4DM]

Even if genitals are "reassigned", the pelvic bone won't be and will remain as gender at birth

[Hoofy]

I don't have a child.

Calm down. I mean, I don't have any kids.

Seriously, though, as long as they are happy then crack on. I guess we'd have to look at making sure they got the right support because it'd be way beyond anything I could help with. I guess I could put them in touch with a couple of trans contacts who might be able to help, too.

[Catastrophic Poo]

Only real concern would be the bigotry that still exists.

[anonymous-user]

Only real concern is being forced to pretend that someone is something when they're not. People can be whoever they want (as long as it doesn't hurt others) but why should I be subjected to being forced into their make believe world as well?

[Geffg]

pocketspring said:

Only real concern is being forced to pretend that someone is something when they're not. People can be whoever they want (as long as it doesn't hurt others) but why should I be subjected to being forced into their make believe world as well?

If my kids said to me they were gay or bi then fine, if that’s what they are then as has been said as long as their happy and get treated right. But if they came and said they were non binary or whatever other titles you can have then I’d say wtf get a grip. If they said use pronouns etc I’d tell them again to get a grip. I’ve got nothing against anyone wether gay or not etc but I have an issue with all these pronouns etc. I think it’s like the latest fashion craze to be something other than “straight”.
My daughter has come home from school at times saying such and such is non binary or something and I just can’t get my head round it.
2 sexes, male and female, if you fancy the opposite sex then your straight, fancy same sex then gay, fancy either then bi. Can’t get my head round anything else or feel the need for any other title.

[Jasandjules]

I would be very curious to see stats of how many home educated kids say this vs those in school.

[Ambleton]

Gender is what people feel. As far as I care they can identify as a potato or a rock.

Number one rule of life that applies universally - "don't be a "

To animals, to other people, to the environment.

Beyond that, if they're happy they can be as they like.

[dundarach]

When my daughter was 11 she was a lesbian

I told her I couldn't care less

This upset her somewhat

Now 13 she fancies boys

Glad it all worked out

[Doofus]

Do non-binary people realise that you're either non-binary or you're not?

[Niponeoff]

I think the problem here is are they really. Or just following the latest social fad, like punk rockers, mods or the latest outrage.

For most it's just a phase.

[Terminator X]

Bluequay said:

I've got two wishes for my kids

1. Be happy
2. Don't hurt anybody else.

This question falls under no.1

Same. Let your kids be themselves whatever that is.

TX.

[andy_s]

They'll grow out of it, 'non-binary' is just a social construct

[vetrof]

I would ask them to explain exactly what that meant. As well as all the inevitable buzzwords that would follow. Then I would say “me too” and inform them of my pronouns.