Big career decision

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simons123

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201 posts

23 months

Wednesday 26th June
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So my company (company A) took a chance on me 3 years ago in a career change sponsoring my conversion degree (which was paid for by apprentice levy so I don't need to pay back). Since passing my degree I expected to receive a promotion and a jump in pay....got just £2k extra and no promotion......Over the last 12 months I feel have learnt nothing in all honesty despite mentioning this to my manager on two occasions over those months. Also the commute is 1 hour 10 minutes each way.

Annoyed at my recent lack of development and growth I started to reply to messages on LinkedIn about new roles. Had an interview at company (B).....the director and manager I met were fantastic, were really keen...offered me a 25% payrise and a promotion to the position I wanted at company A. The project I will be working on is just 30 minutes each way from home.

Put my notice in to go company B....however the director at company A called me to say they don't want to lose me and have a project that starts in 6-7 months time (planning permission dependent when it will commence) just 15 minutes from home and they will increase my current pay by 20% (so 5% less then company B but works out at just £2-3k a year less then company B are offering).

A dilemma is my wife is pregnant. Company A if I stay I get 4 weeks maternity plus all the holidays I have over (2 weeks extra)...company B I get just 2 weeks maternity leave (and nothing more as won't have holidays to use). Another dilemma is that I'm going to a new company in a step up in grade working with people and processes I don't know instead of company A where the step up will be guided by manager and processes I know. Not to mention I feel I owe company A for giving me a chance in the first place in a new career / industry.

I'm torn tbh as the old saying better the devil you know, the big paternity difference and a sense of owing them for giving me a chance but then the challenge of working with someone else will be beneficial to my development.

Thoughts please on my decision??

GiantEnemyCrab

7,724 posts

210 months

Wednesday 26th June
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B,

Try and negotiate extra leave or similar to help with paternity etc.

Stu-nph26

2,067 posts

112 months

Wednesday 26th June
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2 weeks paternity leave isn’t much but a factor is having a child dunno how many you have but it turns your life upside down so it could be hard to focus on a new job and give it your best.

You could negotiate ask your current company to match the wage. 5k is nothing to a company if they really want to keep you.

However it’s hard to stay when you’ve handed your notice in imo. For what it’s worth I personally think you should take the new job it’s just the fear of the unknown holding you back.

Antony Moxey

8,817 posts

226 months

Wednesday 26th June
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Company A is pulling your chain. It’s funny how this just happens to come about after you’ve interviewed for Company B and handed your notice in. And a project that’s not happening until the new year - presumably you’ll be expected to remain on your current salary and in your current position until this mysterious new project materialises, and oh, what a surprise in the new year: yeah, sorry old chap, we never got the planning permission so you’re staying where you are. But don’t worry, there’s another exciting project on the horizon that we’re waiting to hear on that’d be perfect for you.

B is where your future lies, A are simply stringing you along. Is a fortnight’s paternity leave worth losing six months of 25% more than you’re currently earning, especially given the huge difference in commute times?

Defcon5

6,304 posts

198 months

Wednesday 26th June
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I would stay where you are.

New babies can be very stressful and time consuming as well as causing ongoing sleep deprivation for you.

The familiar people and processes, along with an extra months paid leave will be a big benefit

wyson

2,699 posts

111 months

Wednesday 26th June
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So if the planning permission is rejected, you will be sort of floating there? I’d leave. 2 weeks extra paternity leave isn’t worth it for 5% less salary.

Did you ask about pensions? If your current employer is super generous and the new one isn’t, that might be something to consider.

UpTheIron

4,017 posts

275 months

Wednesday 26th June
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It's B for me.

How ballsy are you? Ask them to match the 4 weeks paternity leave.

If you stay at A, make it clear it will only be for 35% and if the new project doesn't happen you will leave and want a contractually guaranteed exit bonus equivalent to 6 months salary and benefits.

Company A are taking the piss IMHO.

You'll only get something if you ask for it.

Hoofy

77,492 posts

289 months

Wednesday 26th June
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UpTheIron said:
It's B for me.

How ballsy are you? Ask them to match the 4 weeks paternity leave.

If you stay at A, make it clear it will only be for 35% and if the new project doesn't happen you will leave and want a contractually guaranteed exit bonus equivalent to 6 months salary and benefits.

Company A are taking the piss IMHO.

You'll only get something if you ask for it.
Christ. You're a tough negotiator... but I agree! I was going to post similar but not as demanding. smile

OPer, the issue with A is that without anything in writing, you can't be guaranteed it's going to happen - and they have a bonus get-out clause with that planning permission angle.

andburg

7,688 posts

176 months

Wednesday 26th June
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How fluid is the market for your skills? If there are loads of jobs above the offer from A then I’d be more inclined to take a risk.

Staying at A is less risky, if they can’t match the salary at least you have a bit of extra job protection. Are there other things you’d like that’s maybe A could give you but aren’t on the table?

Private health for family
Company car
Longer notice period from the company
Contractual bonus

Alternatively go for B, perhaps A will see your value and welcome you back with open arms when the new project kicks off. If they’re unwilling to pay market rates then it’s unlikely they’ll be able to replace you directly

Mortarboard

7,684 posts

62 months

Wednesday 26th June
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Company B, all day, every day.

Company A literally don't care about you. They've said it loud and clear, by only offering (some of) what you want, and then only when you're about to leave.

On the plus side, with Company B:
- pay
- commute (especially with baby on the way)
- learning, which you didn't get at Company A

There no guarantees either way. So go with what you've got that's best for you that's right in front of you.

M.

Jefferson Steelflex

1,494 posts

106 months

Thursday 27th June
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I've done this twice, once I stayed and it was a great decision, and when at another company 10 years later I had the same dilemma and left - again a great decision in hindsight. The reasons why you want to leave are key, you've said distance from home and lack of training/development as main ones.

Sounds to me like Company A still won't offer you the job satisfaction, so unless that is baked in and some form of promotion pathway is open I would say Company B sounds better, but there are lots of other variables such as pension, holiday, culture, etc.

Company B need to offer you better paternity leave, given they know your mrs is pregnant this could be a nice negotiation point, even if its 3 weeks or some form of WFH arrangement for a bit. It's not a big ask.

StevieBee

13,569 posts

262 months

Friday 28th June
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Make the change.

You have the opportunity to move onwards and upwards so take it.

Your current employer has only been motivated to give you a chance on threat of your departure. This shows their hand and will likely be repeated again in the future.

The maternity and holiday things are not relevant here. You and your wife will work that out. You'd do better by her and your newborn by looking at the long game.


T1547

1,148 posts

141 months

Sunday 30th June
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Would also take the move to B.

New opportunity to grow and sounds like they value your qualifications/experience.

Not sure if it’s your first child or not, but personally 2 weeks off was enough for me, us blokes are often a bit of a spare part with newborns. Longer term the hour saved in commute time each day by going with B so you can see your little one more in the mornings/evenings every day will be more valuable IMO.

bompey

567 posts

242 months

Sunday 30th June
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Also company B if I were you. A was given your concerns and did nothing until they had to. As for the degree 3 years ago that’s a long time in the corporate world, and they’ve been underpaying you 25% compared to the market so don’t worry about that.

simons123

Original Poster:

201 posts

23 months

Sunday 30th June
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Thanks for the comments all.

Last Friday I told my director 'thanks for the offer, but no thanks'.....going with option B. More I think of it the more I think my current company were mugging me off.

wyson

2,699 posts

111 months

Monday 1st July
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Not sure how much experience in the workplace you have, but your next company is likely to do the same after your experience and capabilities outmatch your role. Its more than likely you will have to move on to another firm in two or three years to stay on top of earnings and promotion potential. Its rare that loyalty pays.

mikeiow

6,222 posts

137 months

Monday 1st July
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simons123 said:
Thanks for the comments all.

Last Friday I told my director 'thanks for the offer, but no thanks'.....going with option B. More I think of it the more I think my current company were mugging me off.
FWIW, I think you made the right decision.
Good luck in the new role, & with the baby: some of us had kids with zero paternity leave: do your best to support your partner 100% & everything will be fine!

Bonefish Blues

29,399 posts

230 months

Monday 1st July
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Agree, it's seldom the right answer to stay once you've made the initial decision to go.

Mortarboard

7,684 posts

62 months

Tuesday 2nd July
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Right decision.

Never feels goid once you think you're being taken advantage of.

M.

Stuart70

3,988 posts

190 months

Tuesday 2nd July
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simons123 said:
Thanks for the comments all.

Last Friday I told my director 'thanks for the offer, but no thanks'.....going with option B. More I think of it the more I think my current company were mugging me off.
Well played. Good luck in the new role.