Leaving collections

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Blockbuster

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228 posts

68 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Like many others, the large company I work for had a pay dispute with the unions a couple of years ago which led to industrial action.

Most people took part in the strikes, but locally there was a small group of people who came into work. Not even discretely I may add. They seemed almost proud about it. Most of them were looking for promotion and a couple have since got it.

When the company eventually offered a sensible pay deal and ended the strikes, these strike breakers happily took the pay rise that all the others had fought for (and were over £1K down in lost wages).

I’m not some militant trade unionist, but to me this is unforgivable. Deliberately undermining the collective efforts of others, whilst still reaping the eventual rewards.

Whilst I may always harbour resentment towards them, I’ve always remained polite and professional towards this group of people.

Anyhow, now one of the group is leaving the company, and I am being asked to contribute to a whip round for him (organised by one of the other strike breakers), and I don’t feel like giving anything, for the reasons mentioned above.

Am I the asshole for not wanting to contribute to this particular leaving collection, when I’ve given to others?

Scrump

22,936 posts

165 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Give or don’t give as you see fit. It is not compulsory to give and there should be no need for you to explain yourself.

Alex Z

1,511 posts

83 months

Tuesday 26th March
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There’s no obligation to contribute to a collection, and normally no way for anyone to know who has or hasn’t chipped in. If you don’t want to (for any reason outside of racism, homophobia etc), then that’s entirely your choice and doesn’t make you an asshole.


SmoothCriminal

5,298 posts

206 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Your contribution was their enhanced pay off of your efforts.

fk em

Mikebentley

6,709 posts

147 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Don’t give to a collection if it goes against how you feel. They didn’t actively take part in the previous industrial action as that was their choice for whatever reason.

Slow.Patrol

910 posts

21 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Don't give if you dislike him that much. And on his leaving card write:-

"It's been a pleasure for you to have worked with me."

dundarach

5,373 posts

235 months

Tuesday 26th March
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I never give and always ask for nothing please when I leave.


Mr Penguin

2,710 posts

46 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Why should they go without money just because you wanted to?

You don't have to give people money when they leave. Why would you?

Mikebentley

6,709 posts

147 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Don’t give to a collection if it goes against how you feel. They didn’t actively take part in the previous industrial action as that was their choice for whatever reason.

Blockbuster

Original Poster:

228 posts

68 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Mr Penguin said:
Why should they go without money just because you wanted to?

You don't have to give people money when they leave. Why would you?
A strange question. Do you think people actually want to go without money when they go on strike?

Blockbuster

Original Poster:

228 posts

68 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Slow.Patrol said:
Don't give if you dislike him that much. And on his leaving card write:-

"It's been a pleasure for you to have worked with me."
Thanks, I’m tempted to use this one 😀

Super Sonic

7,267 posts

61 months

Tuesday 26th March
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I'd be tempted to put 50p in just so I could write on the card!

bigpriest

1,801 posts

137 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Write a saucy message and sign it from Nikki ♥♥

Mr Penguin

2,710 posts

46 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Blockbuster said:
A strange question. Do you think people actually want to go without money when they go on strike?
No, but it is one of the consequences of doing so and not everyone wants to suffer that consequence.

LunarOne

5,757 posts

144 months

Tuesday 26th March
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Do you know tat this person is also a member of the union? Do you know what their financial situation is like? They might have been in debt over their ears and could not afford to take a short-term hit in the hopes of future gains. Or perhaps that person is strongly opposed to the idea of industrial action. Either way, it's their choice whether to break picket lines or not and it's your choice whether to contribute to the pot or not. It's really not difficult!

StevieBee

13,569 posts

262 months

Wednesday 27th March
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This is the problem with Union's - whilst having their uses, they also create unnecessary tribalism and antagonism amongst colleagues.

Without knowing the full details, what you've described is a group of workers who managed to extract a few quid more per week but have castigated those who's focus was on a bigger picture, one of whom is now in a better job earning much better money.

What was stopping you from pursuing the same thing?

The answer is that not everyone is cut-out for promotion. Many are either happy as they are or that's the max they are ever likely to achieve. And that's fine and it's also right that those people protect their collective rights and views and if that requires industrial action, then so be it. But to view those who choose a different path as 'scum', 'scabs' or 'traitors' or any of the other disingenuous nouns that permeate Union life is wrong.

And as LunaOne says, without knowing their personal circumstances, it is impossible to judge their actions fairly.

My Dad was a Ford man. Member of a Union - paid his dues, went to the meetings. In 1977, a strike was called for reasons my Dad and many others felt was politically motivated over any desire to improve the lives of members. It lasted 11 months and my Dad was supposed to receive salary compensation from the Union provided he attended pickets. When he went to collect his money, he was told he was not entitled to any because he was buying his own home ... he was told bluntly 'you're not one of us'. Despite this, out of loyalty, he continued to attend the picket line. But as the months wore in, his debt increased and he and my Mum were of a generation that abhorred debt. The pressure of the debts eventually got to him. I was only 10, myself sister, 6 so the ability for my Mum to work was limited. To simply put food on the table, he had no choice but return to work. The Union made his life a living hell, including the sending of 'robustly built reps' to the house to encourage him to return to the picket line. This all resulted him having a heart attack aged 44, something he never truly recovered from.


Countdown

42,026 posts

203 months

Wednesday 27th March
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LunarOne said:
Do you know tat this person is also a member of the union?
I think this is an important point. If they weren't members of the Union there was no obligation on them to strike. To be fair even if they WERE members of the Union there's no obligation on them to strike.

Anyway, in relation to the original questions, if you don't like somebody there's no obligation on you to donate. He'll never know and nobody else will care.

LankyFreak

713 posts

35 months

Wednesday 27th March
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LunarOne said:
Or perhaps that person is strongly opposed to the idea of industrial action.

InitialDave

12,233 posts

126 months

Wednesday 27th March
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I'm in my union, when they went on strike last year, I was still working.

This is because the union includes multiple different groups, and the salary/bargaining group the strike was for wasn't mine, so I was not meant to participate.

My obligation was to not undermine the strike action by supplementing the "missing" labour, so not carrying out tasks that are outside my role (but within my capability) that were normally done by someone who was on strike.

simon_harris

1,785 posts

41 months

Wednesday 27th March
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Blockbuster said:
Like many others, the large company I work for had a pay dispute with the unions a couple of years ago which led to industrial action.

Most people took part in the strikes, but locally there was a small group of people who came into work. Not even discretely I may add. They seemed almost proud about it. Most of them were looking for promotion and a couple have since got it.

When the company eventually offered a sensible pay deal and ended the strikes, these strike breakers happily took the pay rise that all the others had fought for (and were over £1K down in lost wages).

I’m not some militant trade unionist, but to me this is unforgivable. Deliberately undermining the collective efforts of others, whilst still reaping the eventual rewards.

Whilst I may always harbour resentment towards them, I’ve always remained polite and professional towards this group of people.

Anyhow, now one of the group is leaving the company, and I am being asked to contribute to a whip round for him (organised by one of the other strike breakers), and I don’t feel like giving anything, for the reasons mentioned above.

Am I the asshole for not wanting to contribute to this particular leaving collection, when I’ve given to others?
I think your the asshole but not because you don't want to contribute to this collection.