Colleague screen shot private message and sent to boss
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So not for one minute am I considering taking this further. Although I dare say I feel wronged in some way. I just want to understand where I am should I be challenged. So today being totally frustrated and perhaps a bit grumpy. I was yet again prevented from having my 1 work from home day. Its not much but I get to relax a little and be with the dog even though im still working. Yeah I know.
So the guy responsible for this today. And often the reason for my not having my WFH day. Received a text from me. Nothing outrageous, no swearing. I stated that I was just sick & tired of it. And that it had been weeks now since I had been able to WFH. On reflection not a good idea. But I was feeling grumpy. However it genuinely wasnt anything distateful or nasty. I didnt even directly accuse him of causing my irritation.
Upon returning to the office another colleague told me that this individual had stomped into the office and told them that they had taken a screenshot of our private message and sent it to the MD. Stating that they shouldnt have to deal with this. But this colleague thought it was wrong and I should be aware of it.
Now this is where it currently lies. I have spoken to the MD a few times today on business matters. And as yet he has not said anything to me. Im hoping because he told my colleague to foxtrot oscar and sort it out between ourselves. Which is probably what I would do. But now im wondering if there was anything illegal about taking a screenshot of a private message and sharing it without my knowledge ?
Yeah its so bloody petty and even childish. I cant actually believe this happened. But there it is.
Thoughts comments welcome. Appreciate anyone taking the time to read this crap and comment quite frankly.
So the guy responsible for this today. And often the reason for my not having my WFH day. Received a text from me. Nothing outrageous, no swearing. I stated that I was just sick & tired of it. And that it had been weeks now since I had been able to WFH. On reflection not a good idea. But I was feeling grumpy. However it genuinely wasnt anything distateful or nasty. I didnt even directly accuse him of causing my irritation.
Upon returning to the office another colleague told me that this individual had stomped into the office and told them that they had taken a screenshot of our private message and sent it to the MD. Stating that they shouldnt have to deal with this. But this colleague thought it was wrong and I should be aware of it.
Now this is where it currently lies. I have spoken to the MD a few times today on business matters. And as yet he has not said anything to me. Im hoping because he told my colleague to foxtrot oscar and sort it out between ourselves. Which is probably what I would do. But now im wondering if there was anything illegal about taking a screenshot of a private message and sharing it without my knowledge ?
Yeah its so bloody petty and even childish. I cant actually believe this happened. But there it is.
Thoughts comments welcome. Appreciate anyone taking the time to read this crap and comment quite frankly.
Once you've sent the message, you have absolutely no control over what the recipient does with it. He wants to print it out, and tape it to your desk, or the MDs office, entirely up to them. You could accompany the words with a dick pic, to dissuade him from forwarding it, but I wouldn't recommend that for obvious reasons.
macp said:
If I have been a dick about this then yep I need to hear it.
As in , it is work s
t, that is nothing, forget it and move on. Just remember that any colleague could use anything you send against you, in effect trust no one.if the MD does say something just be honest, sometimes a vent can actually be good as well.
Cockaigne said:
macp said:
If I have been a dick about this then yep I need to hear it.
As in , it is work st, that is nothing, forget it and move on. Just remember that any colleague could use anything you send against you, in effect trust no one.if the MD does say something just be honest, sometimes a vent can actually be good as well.
Nothing “wrong” by the other employees actions….. but clearly drives a bus through the relationship with you.
As someone said they’re colleagues not friends and usually sensible to stick to the rule of not saying anything in emails/texts that you wouldn’t say in person.
If whatever you said the the text you stand by about your frustrations then you’ve “done nothing wrong” either.
As someone said they’re colleagues not friends and usually sensible to stick to the rule of not saying anything in emails/texts that you wouldn’t say in person.
If whatever you said the the text you stand by about your frustrations then you’ve “done nothing wrong” either.
Right now your MD thinks your colleague is an immature loser that can’t resolve simple issues. Don’t add to the count by reducing yourself to their level. If the MD does bring it up… laugh and say “wow, he showed you that?” Next time there is a promotion opportunity they will not give it to the child in an adults body.
These kind of things are a useful learning tool.
A while back I had a feeling that someone was the main protagonist behind stitching me up on a minor disciplinary matter. They have recently shown their colours in a very major style…. Now i know to keep them well beyond arms length, and actually rarely interact unless unavoidable.
People don’t realise how this gets around and affects everyone’s perception of them….
A while back I had a feeling that someone was the main protagonist behind stitching me up on a minor disciplinary matter. They have recently shown their colours in a very major style…. Now i know to keep them well beyond arms length, and actually rarely interact unless unavoidable.
People don’t realise how this gets around and affects everyone’s perception of them….
randlemarcus said:
Once you've sent the message, you have absolutely no control over what the recipient does with it. He wants to print it out, and tape it to your desk, or the MDs office, entirely up to them. You could accompany the words with a dick pic, to dissuade him from forwarding it, but I wouldn't recommend that for obvious reasons.
Assume anything in black and white is there forever. Problem with the modern gen, gob off and forget we have screenshot!TX.
Appreciate all of the comments folks. I took a chance knowing I could look like a complete loser here. Perhaps I still do. Im by no means perfect. Anyway thankyou again for the replies whether you thought I was a complete dick or not. But although I dont always get it right. I try hard to treat people how I want to be treated myself.
I will keep him at arms length. Im sure he will probably do the same to me. One question I assume I keep the fact that I know what he did to myself ?
I will keep him at arms length. Im sure he will probably do the same to me. One question I assume I keep the fact that I know what he did to myself ?
I had something similar done to me.
The recipient was supposed to be a trusted colleague, but that's when the trust vaporised. For ever.
I then found out that many others were also losing their trust in him.
He carried on with his stupidity, because no one was able to complain about him, because he was protected by his "protected characteristic" and the Equality Act, which definitely isn't Equal if you are a middle-aged white male.
You just can't do anything with these people, they don't realise they are making themselves look like asses.
He knows who he is, I hope he reads this before someone gets really upset with him.
The recipient was supposed to be a trusted colleague, but that's when the trust vaporised. For ever.
I then found out that many others were also losing their trust in him.
He carried on with his stupidity, because no one was able to complain about him, because he was protected by his "protected characteristic" and the Equality Act, which definitely isn't Equal if you are a middle-aged white male.
You just can't do anything with these people, they don't realise they are making themselves look like asses.
He knows who he is, I hope he reads this before someone gets really upset with him.
macp said:
Appreciate all of the comments folks. I took a chance knowing I could look like a complete loser here. Perhaps I still do. Im by no means perfect. Anyway thankyou again for the replies whether you thought I was a complete dick or not. But although I dont always get it right. I try hard to treat people how I want to be treated myself.
I will keep him at arms length. Im sure he will probably do the same to me. One question I assume I keep the fact that I know what he did to myself ?
It's a bit late now sunshine!I will keep him at arms length. Im sure he will probably do the same to me. One question I assume I keep the fact that I know what he did to myself ?
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