Pulling out of a job less than a week before start date
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I'm really panicking here as I'm just about to resign from a company that I've worked for for over 13 years. My new job is entirely working from home and I'm dreading it.
I'm going through a lot of mental health issues and don't feel strong enough to do this.
My current company could move me to another department or team.
My issue is that I'm supposed to start this other new job in only 4 working days time. I've done all the vetting and security checks too.
I'm going out of my mind panicking and believe this new job is one I'll hate. It's also likely to be far more working hours and more stress. I'll also be isolated and miserable I think. .
I'm not sure what to do
I'm going through a lot of mental health issues and don't feel strong enough to do this.
My current company could move me to another department or team.
My issue is that I'm supposed to start this other new job in only 4 working days time. I've done all the vetting and security checks too.
I'm going out of my mind panicking and believe this new job is one I'll hate. It's also likely to be far more working hours and more stress. I'll also be isolated and miserable I think. .
I'm not sure what to do
13 years is a long time, and the adjustment will be big.
You will go through a cycle of feeling overwhelmed, incompetent, and desperate to go back to safety of your old job.
That doesn't mean you should though, as the drivers for you leaving will still exist.
If you go with the knowledge that the above will happen you will be better prepared for dealing with it.
You will go through a cycle of feeling overwhelmed, incompetent, and desperate to go back to safety of your old job.
That doesn't mean you should though, as the drivers for you leaving will still exist.
If you go with the knowledge that the above will happen you will be better prepared for dealing with it.
Sounds like you've answered your own question! But, how have you not resigned already if you're starting a new job in 4 days? Surely you have to give notice?
A thought, a friend of mine once said to me "if the thought of your new job doesn't worry you or make you question your ability then it probably isn't the right choice". He was talking about being challenged and being kept interested. Are you sure you're not getting worried for no reason. Why did you want to change originally and has that reason changed?
A thought, a friend of mine once said to me "if the thought of your new job doesn't worry you or make you question your ability then it probably isn't the right choice". He was talking about being challenged and being kept interested. Are you sure you're not getting worried for no reason. Why did you want to change originally and has that reason changed?
OP I left my job of 12 years in 2019. I was able to do everything with no issues, there was no stress, never late finishing, hardest decision I ever had was what to have for lunch that day. But I hated it.
I had a voluntary job with the police at the same time. All my spare time was spent doing this. Finally got into the police as a PC and had the same doubts as you. Despite it being my dream job for years. Day one I was tempted to not turn up. It's the unknown.
I have a lot more stress, slightly more money (take home is only £300 more than what I was getting at Tesco), but I love it. I look back now and laugh at how I felt.
I had a voluntary job with the police at the same time. All my spare time was spent doing this. Finally got into the police as a PC and had the same doubts as you. Despite it being my dream job for years. Day one I was tempted to not turn up. It's the unknown.
I have a lot more stress, slightly more money (take home is only £300 more than what I was getting at Tesco), but I love it. I look back now and laugh at how I felt.
Permanent WFH is very much reliant on the company culture I think. I've been at home nearly 3 years now but we have regular Teams calls and company wide updates, and pretty much all comms are done "face to face"
I've just bought a portable monitor as I'm looking to work from a workspace a couple of mornings a week, maybe work a day a fortnight from my parents to just be around them a bit more (they're both in their 70s so it will be nice to just have lunch with them). I know people that commute from front door to back on a morning and then do the reverse on the evening, in order to separate work from home
I've changed companies within that 3 years, and then changed jobs from sales admin to project management. Also trained and sat my Prince2 exams in that as well
It's daunting, but just put some measures in place to make it fit around you, and you'll be fine
I've just bought a portable monitor as I'm looking to work from a workspace a couple of mornings a week, maybe work a day a fortnight from my parents to just be around them a bit more (they're both in their 70s so it will be nice to just have lunch with them). I know people that commute from front door to back on a morning and then do the reverse on the evening, in order to separate work from home
I've changed companies within that 3 years, and then changed jobs from sales admin to project management. Also trained and sat my Prince2 exams in that as well
It's daunting, but just put some measures in place to make it fit around you, and you'll be fine
Someone joined my team roughly 10 years ago now, coming from a business she'd been at for some time and felt very much "one of the family". After a week or so, she told me (very apologetically) that she was really struggling, had some personal stuff going on, and wanted to go back to the safety / comfort of that old team. I talked it through with her, offered her some support on the personal stuff she was going through and made it clear that if she stayed, she'd have my support, and if she chose to leave I would be disappointed but would understand.
She's still there today in a massively more senior role, doing amazingly.
Just sharing that because clearly something made you apply for the new job, and you got it, so maybe it's a good move.
She's still there today in a massively more senior role, doing amazingly.
Just sharing that because clearly something made you apply for the new job, and you got it, so maybe it's a good move.
ker, or worse than that, a decent honest person, who's also a lazy fI'd just get on with it and be glad you aren't going through the same issues and having to worry about how you're going to feed yourself each month.
May seem a callous view point but you could be in a far worse situation than you are.
If you feel isolated, go out and see people, you won't have to commute so you'll have plenty of spare time. You don't "have" to work more than your contracted hours.
May seem a callous view point but you could be in a far worse situation than you are.
If you feel isolated, go out and see people, you won't have to commute so you'll have plenty of spare time. You don't "have" to work more than your contracted hours.
bigandclever said:
This was exactly how I was when I changed jobs. Really unsure, but it was a better deal, I'd worked there before and knew the business really well.~8 months later, more of my collegaues are leaving the old company, things are not going so well there, and I'm thankful I took the opportunity when it presented.
bigandclever said:
Good chart.I went on a course about "you don't know what you don't know which becomes you know what you don't know. Where you know what you don't know is the most likely part to quit..
I found it very useful for when I had to train new people in a role I was able to identify this moment and give them extra support to get through it.
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